Eating In Front of Others and Losing Weight

[PacificBlue]

I've noticed that my plate seems to be very interesting to those around me now that I've lost some weight and continue to lose. Tonight was lasagna, salad, and garlic bread. I think I answered "yes" at least 10 times to "Can you eat that?"

I measure my food 95% of the time, the other 5% I guesstimate and don't sweat it...such as going to a party. Asking or expecting 100% compliance from myself is too much. Some weeks I only hit 80%. My Weight Watchers leader always says...it's just a number and it's just a day.

Would I eat lasagna at home? Yes and I have. I'd probably throw a whole lot more vegetables in. Do I get garlic bread? No, not often...it is one of my favorites and difficult for me to eat just one slice. Why put temptation right in front of my face. Salad...all the time...more dark leafy greens and fresh veggies than tonights but...that's ok.

Has anyone else experienced this? How do you handle it?

 

[Angel]

Honestly? I'd tell them to mind their own damn business. What you are doing, you are doing for YOU. Nobody needs to be concerned with what you "can" or "can't" eat on YOUR diet.

 

[PacificBlue]

I should say that I don't mind talking about my program or what I'm doing. I do get defensive when I feel like my way of doing things is questioned. "You shouldn't eat that" "You need to do this instead" "You should be doing this kind of exercise" I try to remind myself that people are just trying to be helpful.

For example...I ate a donut week before last. I eat one donut maybe twice a year. This was one of them. No sooner had I taken a bite... "that's your problem, you need to get off of those" I felt self-concious and guilty for enjoying a treat.

How would you have handled that?

 

[PacificBlue]

Honestly? I'd tell them to mind their own damn business. What you are doing, you are doing for YOU. Nobody needs to be concerned with what you "can" or "can't" eat on YOUR diet.

I don't mind the questions if people are curious about how the Weight Watchers program works. I'm happy to answer the questions.

It feels funny now when people try to justify to me what they are eating. Everybody is responsible for their own body. I'm not going to police someone else's food choices.

 

[Angel]

I should say that I don't mind talking about my program or what I'm doing. I do get defensive when I feel like my way of doing things is questioned. "You shouldn't eat that" "You need to do this instead" "You should be doing this kind of exercise" I try to remind myself that people are just trying to be helpful.

For example...I ate a donut week before last. I eat one donut maybe twice a year. This was one of them. No sooner had I taken a bite... "that's your problem, you need to get off of those" I felt self-concious and guilty for enjoying a treat.

How would you have handled that?

Ok, then put my comments towards people who question your way of doing things If they genuinely want to know about the program, thats great - if they're questioning what you're eating and what you're doing then I guess politely tell them that it's what works for YOU.

There's no reason to feel bad about having a treat. You're on a diet, not dead. And it sounds like you're treating yourself every once in a great while. I don't see a problem with that at all.


I guess I just really am annoyed by people who butt in and are overly helpful when I don't ask. I mean... if I want help, I have no shame in asking for it.

Heh.

 

[PacificBlue]

What was funny was the person getting on my case...ate a candy bar and soda for breakfast that morning.

 

[teddybear4play]

I should say that I don't mind talking about my program or what I'm doing. I do get defensive when I feel like my way of doing things is questioned. "You shouldn't eat that" "You need to do this instead" "You should be doing this kind of exercise" I try to remind myself that people are just trying to be helpful.

For example...I ate a donut week before last. I eat one donut maybe twice a year. This was one of them. No sooner had I taken a bite... "that's your problem, you need to get off of those" I felt self-concious and guilty for enjoying a treat.

How would you have handled that?

I would have given them the donut, with the instruction that they could cram it up their ass.

Dieting is hard. If you've sacrificed enough that you have the luxury of indulging a little bit, you've earned it. Let them live on a drastically reduced meal plan and see how they run if someone brings home some bakery-fresh goodness. Odds are, you probably would have more willpower than them, given the same situation.

Plus, you didn't ask for a fucking diet coach. Tell them they can stick their self-righteous attitudes right up there with the donut.

TB4p