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[dangles]

Hmmmm... how do I go about breaching this subject...
I'm a 25 year old male and recently over the last few weeks/months I've been having a hard time keeping it firm when I'm with my girl. I remember having marathon love making sessions, but now I need to stop early and have her play with it. Same girl, I've been a heavy drinker but I've cut down in the last year or so, and I frequently masturbate, which I am cutting down on. Any suggestions or help?

 

[Little Bird]

Maybe you just don't have a good time these days... Carying things around that don't stop bothering you; much more to do at work; difficulties with friends or the family...

 

[Cordae]

yup, stress can play a big role in things like that. Lately my SO has almost no sex drive. Frustrating for both of us, but he knows that it can be attributed to stresses in our lives. The less troubling thoughts that pull your brain away from the "task at hand" the better it will be for the both of you!

 

[SweetErika]

A few things to consider...
-Stress
-Physical factors (Do you eat right and exercise? How about smoking, other drugs or medications?)
-How's your relationship overall?
-How's your sex life been going? Is it kind of routine, or are you mixing it up and trying lots of new things?
-Are you only losing it during intercourse? If so, are you changing positions, speed, levels of penetration?
-Have you changed birth control methods? Switching to condoms, or being concerned about pregnancy can cause problems sometimes.
-Have you tried cutting out the masturbation entirely?
-Do you have thoughts/fears about losing your erection during sex? If you're thinking it will happen, it likely will.

 

[phoenix1224]

Many men don't realize it (because this isn't a subject that men usually like to discuss), but every man goes through this at one time or another... And I know that there's going to be someone who says that he HASN'T... Well, just add the word YET to the end of that statement...

Because you're young, this is most likely just a temporary thing... So, the best thing that you can do is not stress out about it... The more you worry "Will I get an erection this time?", "Will I loose it this time if I DO get one?", ect., the longer this little bout of e.d. will last (our thoughts can definitely be a woody killer).

Also, you'll have to do your very best to make sure that your woman knows that this is not HER fault (many women tend to blame themselves if their guy can't get/keep it up)... So, I reccomend that, at this time, don't worry about YOUR pleasure and focus more on HER pleasure. - That's what I did when I had a bout of e.d. when my woman and I first got together... And, before I knew it, I was as good as new.

But, I would suggest that (just as a precautionary measure) you visit your doctor to just make certain this is being caused by stress and NOT something more serious.