Dumb Question 2: Do women like it?

[SubbieHubbie2]

Some of the reading I've done around the BDSM area (that claimed to be research and gave stats if I remember correctly, not that that guarantees anything) claimed that whether a woman is dominant or submissive in a heterosexual relationship, it is for the pleasure of the man not the woman herself. Is this true? It doesn't make sense to me, so I thought I'd ask the experts.

 

[MissTaken]

I have never read anything of that nature.

It doesn't sound well founded to me.

 

[BadForm]

Yeah, doesn't sound too sensible does it? - sounds like something from the "all sex is rape" school of nonsense.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Wishful thinking by some poor passion starved man perhaps.

Catalina

 

[SubbieHubbie2]

Actually, while I no longer have the research, I'm pretty sure it was a woman saying it. The concept was, quite simply, women can't/don't enjoy BDSM - only men are really into things like that. Didn't make sense to me. Thats why I asked for thoughts here.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Actually, while I no longer have the research, I'm pretty sure it was a woman saying it. The concept was, quite simply, women can't/don't enjoy BDSM - only men are really into things like that. Didn't make sense to me. Thats why I asked for thoughts here.

I am a Woman..I love BDSM...I love D/s...wouldn't live without it...could I? Of course but then I could shoot Myself in the foot but I won't. Do I need a man to live and love BDSM or D/s...certainly not...but then I swing both ways...

 

[SweetDommes]

Sounds to me like the woman saying it was probably from the sexually repressed midwest - where women aren't supposed to enjoy anything fun

I seriously suspect that if it was a woman who said it, she's so entirely repressed that she wouldn't know an orgasm if it was ripped from her ... maybe that's what she needed?

Anyway, I'm with SD on this one - we live it, we enjoy it ... and we don't care if we have a man to enjoy it with us or not

I have to add here that we do have a boy, and we love him very much, and we intend to have another boy, whom we also hope to love - we want to have boys to enjoy BDSM/D/s with us, but because we do switch with each other, we don't have to have them with us at the time.
*edited because I was misunderstood*

 

[SubbieHubbie2]

Thank you both. That confirms what I thought - and a good point - how does such a person explain BDSM among the GLBT community. Now why didn't I think of that. Thanks again.

 

[WriterDom]

Not all women like it, but billions do.

 

[FreeGal]

Yep, that was rather a dumb question! But, if you don't ask, I guess you don't know, right?

To think, all the many millions of women who practice BDSM, and none of them enjoy it. Blimey.

THIS woman loves it, I'm sure a few others do, too.

 

[Netzach]

I do it for religious reasons.

(snicker)

 

[mslv4Her]

I do it for religious reasons.

(snicker)

May i worship with You, Ms Netzach?!?!?

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Some of the reading I've done around the BDSM area (that claimed to be research and gave stats if I remember correctly, not that that guarantees anything) claimed that whether a woman is dominant or submissive in a heterosexual relationship, it is for the pleasure of the man not the woman herself. Is this true? It doesn't make sense to me, so I thought I'd ask the experts.

I think I can safely speak for all the women here when I say, "If I'm not getting anything out of it, then what the Hell am I doing it for?"

As Martha Stewart would say,"BDSM; it's a good thing."

 

[John Doe]

Sounds like bullshit to me, but then WTF do I know about BDSM anyway?

Yeah, doesn't sound too sensible does it? - sounds like something from the "all sex is rape" school of nonsense.

If all sex were rape, would that be a good thing or a bad thing?

 

[John Doe]

I do it for religious reasons.

(snicker)

All hail Queen Netzach and kneel before her fantastic sacred phallus of Love!

 

[YinandYang]

I can think of nothing more erotic than feeling the pain and pleasure delivered to me by the hand of the man I love and seek to please.

 

[MDH1251]

Question 2: Do women like it?

I dont know that all women like it but i can tell you of one that found it extremely arousing last night during a scene in which all sorts of floggers were used on her for about 45 minutes.

 

[Belle The Pixie]

Wow, I cant believe that there even exists someone that would state something like that.

My husband and I both enjoy it very much. A lot of my love of it is pleasing him. Seeing him pleased turns me on.

 

[sadunai]

(that claimed to be research and gave stats if I remember correctly, not that that guarantees anything)

Research most often only reflects the researchers preset point of view.

D/s is my pleasure. I'm in to it because it pleases me. Not to please a guy or two. *shakes head*

 

[amasterfound]

I think I can safely speak for all the women here when I say, "If I'm not getting anything out of it, then what the Hell am I doing it for?"

As Martha Stewart would say,"BDSM; it's a good thing."

I agree with you. If I am not getting anything out of it why am I here? I enjoy it love it and it turns me on to no end!

 

[Marquis]

Some of the reading I've done around the BDSM area (that claimed to be research and gave stats if I remember correctly, not that that guarantees anything) claimed that whether a woman is dominant or submissive in a heterosexual relationship, it is for the pleasure of the man not the woman herself. Is this true? It doesn't make sense to me, so I thought I'd ask the experts.

Wouldn't that just be grand?

 

[Etoile]

Not all women like it, but billions do.

C'mon, WD, billions?! There's only what, six or seven billion people in the world, both male and female!

 

[Marquis]

C'mon, WD, billions?! There's only what, six or seven billion people in the world, both male and female!

There are more women than men. So if there are 4 and 2, that means 50% of women would have to be down for WD's statement to be possible.

Could be, could be...

 

[Etoile]

There are more women than men. So if there are 4 and 2, that means 50% of women would have to be down for WD's statement to be possible.

Could be, could be...

Wow, really? I didn't realize there were more women than men in the world; I would have thought it would be more equal.

Oh, and with regard to how this statement fits the GLBT community...I suspect that someone making this statement might also believe in gender roles in queer relationships - a "so which one of you is the man?" thing.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

This sort of nonsense reminds me of the woman who wrote in a review somewhere on this site that women don't like anal. It's a generalization, and like all generalizations, only a half-truth. That's like saying no man wants to eat pussy. It's absurd. I like to eat pussy.