dull newlyweds

[Guest]

hello,
I'm newly wed to a beautiful girl I love very much. I am 23 and she is 22. We are each other's only lovers. We used to be crazy all the time and have sex like rabbits maybe ten times a day. In the past few years though, it has become very dull. I mean we have really great sex maybe once a month. Then, I'm left hanging and wanting more. I've asked her for more sexiness in the realtionship and it has stayed the same.
Don't get me wrong, it's not just more sexual intercourse I'm after, just more sexiness and that orignal craziness to try new things.
Please help!!!!

 

[curvacious]

You did 1/2 the job by telling her what you want but what about what you're willing to do to help remedy the problem. What kinds of things did you do in the beginning to make her feel loved and special? What kinds of things haven't you done that you could do? I'm talking simple stuff here---tell her to relax and you'll make dinner/wash the dishes/ wash the clothes/anything that she normally does/ tonight.
I know--cliche time but flowers are always nice.
Pretend you're not married but dating and that you're trying to make sure that she really wants you---do things that will make her want you.

I think you were on the right track to begin with by talking with your partner---that's a key ingredient in solving many problems so stick with it and good luck.

 

[mrbenh]

thank you

ok, that all sounds great but, I'm marrieds and we share the responsibilities around the house. Now what, besides the fake mushy stuff, because I've tried all that too?

 

[ChaoticLil]

Fake Mushy Stuff?!

ok, that all sounds great but, I'm marrieds and we share the responsibilities around the house. Now what, besides the fake mushy stuff, because I've tried all that too?

If being romantic is fake and mushy then why did you get married?

Sex is great, but there is alot more to a marriage than sex. Maybe you need to look at what else is wrong or not as it is supposed to be. You may also try talking (and listening) to your wife.

 

[mrbenh]

Texas?

If the stars at night are big and bright, then why is Texas the Lonestar State?

 

[curvacious]

Re: Texas?

If the stars at night are big and bright, then why is Texas the Lonestar State?

mrbenh---when you solicite advice, don't be rude to those who supply it. If you're not happy with the results then that's your prob.

 

[BlondGirl]

Re: Re: Texas?

mrbenh---when you solicte advice, don't be rude to those who supply it. If you're not happy with the results then that's your prob.

Look at all the things this creature has posted...how many of them are new threads and how many are replies to old ones. It appears (to me, and very possibly erroneously) that this individual is posting simply to try to be engaging or to get attention or to see how many will reply to his posts or something other than to actually participate here.

Of course, I would love to be PROVEN wrong and not just be told that I am wrong. But I doubt that will happen.

 

[curvacious]

BlondGirl,
Who are you referring to? Myself or mrbehn?

 

[BlondGirl]

BlondGirl,
Who are you referring to? Myself or mrbehn?

The one you were chastising.

 

[ChaoticLil]

I'm not the one asking for advise....

If the stars at night are big and bright, then why is Texas the Lonestar State?

You're the one who asked the board. I wasn't aware that being from Texas excluded me from trying to help you.

If this is the way you talk to your wife, it's no wonder you're having problems.

 

[morninggirl5]

His request for a threesome less than a year after the wedding may be part of the problem too.

 

[mrbenh]

listen to you people!

You all are downing me, who you don't know anything about other than a few stupid posts. All of your replies are trying to see who can have the coolest comeback to me. Duh@everyonehere.com