Drunkeness

[Seamus123]

Right. Saturday night it's one of my best friends birthday night out, and theres millions of people coming. I'm kinda looking forward to it but everybody is going to be getting very very drunk and i'd rather not. I have no problem having a few drinks and being tipsy but I don't want to get to that can't walk or do anything myself stage. I'm just a little nervous how it's all going to turn out because he can act like an idiot when he's drunk. So yeah. How can i avoid getting that drunk? without them thinking that i'm shoving their party back in their faces??

 

[Weird Harold]

How can i avoid getting that drunk? without them thinking that i'm shoving their party back in their faces??

Just tell them you are a designated driver.

Really, though, you shouldn't let their opinions affect whether you drink or not. Drunks can be pushy and get belligerent, but most of them will back off if you just stick to your guns and tell them you're doing fine. Keep a nearly-full drink in your hand all night and the issue should never come up.

 

[Seamus123]

Good idea. I already have a plan. I'll be drinking whiskey with coke, since I always do, and i'll intersperse my drinks with a coke, cuz they come in the same glass. And no-one will be any the wiser.

 

[M's girl]

Good idea. I already have a plan. I'll be drinking whiskey with coke, since I always do, and i'll intersperse my drinks with a coke, cuz they come in the same glass. And no-one will be any the wiser.

Smart. Have a good time.

It's still crazy you would have to worry about this! Howcome you always get stupid-points for being smart? I know it's a not-so-nice-thing to say, but if someone drinks, drives and then kills him/herself it's all of a sudden so not done to award them the same stupid-points....

 

[Weird Harold]

Good idea. I already have a plan. I'll be drinking whiskey with coke, since I always do, and i'll intersperse my drinks with a coke, cuz they come in the same glass. And no-one will be any the wiser.

One word of warning, based on an experience from when I was a lush instead aof a reformed lush:

Keep an eye on your glass.

I was drinking Rum&Coke one day at an impromptu pary in the barracks and already slighty more than tipsy. Every time I took my eyes off of my glass, a "helpful friend" topped it off with more rum.

Needless to say, I got a LOT drunker than I intended to, got VERY sick, and "lost" most of the evening to a "blackout."

 

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[Seamus123]

yeah I will watch my glass. I'll have whiskey in it so i'll be able to taste any difference in the amount they're putting in. Any more suggestions?

 

[Eilan]

From my husband: Always have a drink in your hand. Just make sure it's the same drink.

 

[glynndah]

My favorite trick was to drink one "adult" drink. I used to nurse one vodka gimlet all night long. As I gradually finished the drink, I'd flirt with the bartenders who'd add more ice and slices of lime. Since the drink was clear, my glass always looked like it was full and no one bothered me about drinking more (probably because we were all on very limited budgets and mixed drinks cost more!)

 

[bush59]

Eilan....I am not stalking you.....just happened upon the same thread.
I think I like your husband also........

 

[Tele2047]

Just drink your drinks slowly, they're going to get really drunk really quickly and probably won't even notice by the time you finish drinking.

 

[Lil2002]

And eat beforehand! Make sure you have a good lunch/dinner - it'll help sop up all the alcohol.

 

[Crimson Wolf]

Right. Saturday night it's one of my best friends birthday night out, and theres millions of people coming. I'm kinda looking forward to it but everybody is going to be getting very very drunk and i'd rather not. I have no problem having a few drinks and being tipsy but I don't want to get to that can't walk or do anything myself stage. I'm just a little nervous how it's all going to turn out because he can act like an idiot when he's drunk. So yeah. How can i avoid getting that drunk? without them thinking that i'm shoving their party back in their faces??

The main things I think are to eat before hand, space your drinks and drink slowly. Apart from that you might not want to just drink coke in between as your body will probably still dehydrate so you should probably take waters instead of coke every other time

 

[PowerLifter84]

If you don't want to drink or get drunk, tell them. If for some reason they would have a problem with it, I would kindly leave. Always be make it known that you do not feel comfortable doing something if you don't want to do it.

 

[Sweetblueyedgrl]

It doesn't sound like you really fit in with that crowd, it doesn't sound like they have any tolerance for someone that doesn't get pissed out of their mind. Your boyfriend sounds like a difficult drunk. The glass full thing you have planned should help. I'd think about the fact that you don't really fit in with these people, and consider hanging out with people more like yourself.

 

[Sarah Tonin]

You could always act drunker than you really are.

 

[thirty]

Why don't you just tell tim the truth

Tell him what's exactly on your mind.
Things are not that complicated as you think.

 

[sapos]

When I was in high school/collage I had a close group of friends that did this same thing heres what worked for me, although all there things people are telling you will work great. First one was "sorry I can't I'm in training/I have a big test later" doesn't matter for what. Also "I'm not drinking because I feel my body is my temple". And my favorite "fuck off I'm not drinking!"

 

[Cardinal]

um if they are all that drunk they wont even notice.

 

[Seamus123]

First off he's not my boyfriend, i'm not gay lol.. just got back from the big night out. It's a little early but I pretended I felt sick just to get away. All my friends were there.. with their boyfriends or girlfriends. One i have a gigantic crush on her. She is phenomenal and always kinda flirty with me.. but in a long term relationship.. oh well.. so yeah.. it was bad, people getting very drunk. People looking at me in the bar with such bad looks.. i don't even know them! So dismissive of me because i'm large. I'm not obese, not even close, but a little extra baggage. I'm very tall too. So they're looking at me like a piece of shit, loads of people. like I don't deserve to live, let alone even think about daring to venture into a bar.. in the end i got a bit sick of it, and even though i love my friends dearly (most of them weren't getting that drunk, it's just my birthday friends friends from home that were) i couldn't take it.. had to get out.. god i hate myself =(

 

[Eilan]

So dismissive of me because i'm large. I'm not obese, not even close, but a little extra baggage. I'm very tall too. So they're looking at me like a piece of shit, loads of people. like I don't deserve to live, let alone even think about daring to venture into a bar.. in the end i got a bit sick of it, and even though i love my friends dearly (most of them weren't getting that drunk, it's just my birthday friends friends from home that were) i couldn't take it.. had to get out.. god i hate myself =(

Aw, don't hate yourself because of their shitty attitudes.

FWIW, I know a guy who's big/tall, and he's found that he can't go to bars very often. Drunks who are looking for a fight tend to confront him because he's usually the biggest guy in the room.

 

[Seamus123]

Yeah.. i either get that sometimes, or I just get the dismissive/on the brink of laughter 'you don't deserve to live, let alone try and have a good time' looks

 

[Snowman5933]

I got pressured into drinking one night while i was still in high school. We wanted to make screwdrivers, but no one really knew what they were doing. I volunteered to be the bartender, so i put a can of frozen orange juice and a 5th of vodka in a blender and let it whirl. 4 or 5 of us ended splitting this ill made concoction. I have never been so drunk or so sick in my life. A good friend of mine says a lesson bought is worth two taught and that has stuck with me ever since. Needless to say I don't get pressured into doing things I don't want to do anymore. I do occasionally enjoy a good drink in the privacy of my home, but I have learned my own limits and drink responsibly. Good luck to you.

Snowman

 

[FLBob]

Tell him what's exactly on your mind.
Things are not that complicated as you think.

Agree with this. There are some people, including past SO's, that I've told I flate out hate when they're drunk. They're obnoxious and rude and I refuse to be around them when they get like that. They get pissed if I tell them that when they were drinking, but when sober they eventually understood and it worked out.