Dress-ups

[nibble]

Since the age of 9 I got into playing a game of dress-up, harmless then as we were just kids. But now as adult in late 20's I still haven't kicked the habbit. I don't dress up in womens outer clothes, but I do dress in womens underwear/lingerie. The lingerie started to be a festish back when 15-16 years old and now im married I my wife doesn't really know what goes behind her.
I don't know why I crossdress, but it feels so sexy with silky, sheer and soft.
How do I stop doing this? Is this normal?

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

Since the age of 9 I got into playing a game of dress-up, harmless then as we were just kids. But now as adult in late 20's I still haven't kicked the habbit. I don't dress up in womens outer clothes, but I do dress in womens underwear/lingerie. The lingerie started to be a festish back when 15-16 years old and now im married I my wife doesn't really know what goes behind her.
I don't know why I crossdress, but it feels so sexy with silky, sheer and soft.
How do I stop doing this? Is this normal?

I think it's relativly normal, I mean not everyone does it but as long as it's not hurting anyone then where is the problem. I would say to talk to your wife about it though, remember communication is key ^_~ I agree that it does feel nice and silky.... I havn't done it in quite some time but remembering times when I did can be quite a turnon.

-Zergplex

 

[BirdsWife]

You are going to find that when it comes to sexuality there is no such thing as "normal". If you enjoy doing it and it isn't harming anyone else, then why would you want to stop?

Are you the only man who does this? No. It is much more common than you would imagine. As a matter of fact, you might want to check out this threads to find other men who enjoy the feeling of women's underwear:

Men In Panties


And BTW, welcome to Lit.

 

[College_geek]

It is quite normal and a good amount of guys do it, like Birdswife said. I've read a good amount of things on the subject, where some men go through their lives without telling their wives (the wives sometimes find out much later on in life), while some do tell their wives right upfront. If it feels right to you, then you shouldn't worry about "trying to stop".

 

[VSE]

How do I stop doing this? Is this normal?

At a risk of sounding like a smartarse, stop wearing em.

Is it normal? Depends on your definition of normal I guess. At the end of the day, all you are doing is wearing clothes cut for a different figure. Does that make you some kind of deviant? Is it hurting anyone? I dont think so somehow.

Might your missus be a little surprised if she came home and found you lounging around in a pair of stockings? Quite possibly, on the other hand, she might find the idea appealing. Unless you actually talk to her about it, you'll never know but I would suspect that in the long run, if it is something that you are comfortable with and dont especially want to stop doing, that it is going to be better to talk to her about it rather than get caught in the act.

You dont have to drop it into conversation over dinner. Suggesting it as something to try thats "new" in the bedroom for example might be a subtle way to broach the subject and at least guage what her likely reaction is going to be.

 

[kiwis29]

I think you are awesome. I wish my husband would wear my panties..I have tried but he won't..HHmmm..It's not hurting anyone. If I was your wife it would not bother me at all..In fact I would love to go pantie shopping for you..How much fun that could be!!!!

 

[VSE]

I'll be your husband

 

[kiwis29]

Okay!!

 

[BoundThySelf]

I don't know if it is normal or not but it sure as hell turns me on. I started about a year ago, fascinated by the size of my older sister's thong undies and how they must feel running thru the crack of her ass. So, I tried them on one day when she wasn't home and got an instand hard on.

Since then I have progressed to wearing more and more of her clothes, just hoping one day she will come home and discover me all dolled up and looking like a slut in her sexy clothes.

I wouldn't stop, enjoy yourself.

 

[VSE]

Okay!!

Credit card loaded, where we going Sorry, thread hijack over.

Since then I have progressed to wearing more and more of her clothes, just hoping one day she will come home and discover me all dolled up and looking like a slut in her sexy clothes.

Call me a killjoy, but I cant help but feel that this is a recipe for disaster. I may be mistaken but I suspect that your sister's reaction when she finds out (and she will sooner or later) is going to be anything but receptive to finding that you're (or have been) lounging around in her clothes, especially her smalls.

I guess in some respects this is also directed at nibble, you dont make it clear whether you have your own gear or are borrowing your missus'. If its the latter then you might want to consider either investing in your own kit or finding some way to broach the subject before it is done for you by slipping up.

 

[gwynar]

Back to the origianl post...
I am married to a panty wearing man. You are not alone and there are women who accept ,even appreciate, this about thier men. I do not advise showing her your desire without conversation.

 

[nibble]

I think you are awesome. I wish my husband would wear my panties..I have tried but he won't..HHmmm..It's not hurting anyone. If I was your wife it would not bother me at all..In fact I would love to go pantie shopping for you..How much fun that could be!!!!

Hope your man one day tries to wear your panties.
And love to pantie shop with you or any woman.
On the shopping list what your top 3 things you/I want to buy.
lol lol. This panty issue is one hell of a turn-on.

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[SensualCealy]

Wearing the panties in the family!

First of all, I agree with most that say, 'what is normal?' If you want to do it fine its your business no one elses.
Second, I've been on the other end of this situation, my husband wears my stuff, even buys things on trips for 'us'. Do I like it, well I have to be in the mood, usually damned horny!
My help to you would be not to hid it, we were married almost three years before he told me, at the time I could have killed him!! Now it isn't as much of an issue that he wears it, I just wish he would leave MY stuff alone! Its like sharing with your sister and her never asking if she can borrow.
If you and your wife have a healthy relationship, sit her down and start by asking her what her fantasies are and tell her you like the feel of her lingerie against your skin, she can take that any way she likes. If she has a positive response then take it a step further, ask if she would mind if you wore some silk panties while you play. Etc.... One thing I would caution you on is make damn sure she is confident in the fact that you dont intend to ' go to the dark side'! lol One of my greatest fears after 19 yrs being together!
All the best to you and your wife!
Cealy

 

[ghosst_K&H]

Since the age of 9 I got into playing a game of dress-up, harmless then as we were just kids. But now as adult in late 20's I still haven't kicked the habbit. I don't dress up in womens outer clothes, but I do dress in womens underwear/lingerie. The lingerie started to be a festish back when 15-16 years old and now im married I my wife doesn't really know what goes behind her.
I don't know why I crossdress, but it feels so sexy with silky, sheer and soft.
How do I stop doing this? Is this normal?

It never stops, and you may find that if you try to stop, you'll find yourself becoming depressed.

Is it normal?..Well I challenge you to define "normal"

I would agree that telling your S/O is very important, and the sooner the better, as for how to tell her, theres been great advice offered here.

I wish you the best of luck.

As for the Ladies here who either love their men in panties, or tolerate it....You Rock!!!!

 

[arljjc]

As a man who spends 100% of his time in panties or nylons and a mjority of the rest in womens pants, tops and shoes I see nothing wrong with it.

I do have mens clothes that I wear when required but whenever possible I prefer women's. My wife knows and in fact will be things for me.

It did not start out that way when were married, but through the years, in different conversations, she would always say what attracted to her to me was my feminine side. From their it was easy to move to where we are today.

 

[WallyLlama]

What flavor?

Trite, but there's a reason that there are so many different flavors of ice cream.

That said, I agree with those who have encouraged honesty with the Mrs. I have a very dear female friend who was nearly destroyed when she found out that hubby was packing his "girl clothes" to go on business trips. (At first she thought he was buying stuff for a mistress.)

I thought her best reaction was "What really pisses me off is that he's got nicer dresses than I have."

Apparently he also complained about how much she spent on clothing and accessories...

Yes, they had isssues, but my point is the sense of betrayal was the problem, not what he was wearing.

 

[nibble]

I think you are awesome. I wish my husband would wear my panties..I have tried but he won't..HHmmm..It's not hurting anyone. If I was your wife it would not bother me at all..In fact I would love to go pantie shopping for you..How much fun that could be!!!!

 

[dirtracin24]

What is really wrong with it you enjoy it
what gives anyone else the right to say it is wrong
as long as you are not hurting yourself or others
I've been doing it for along time and just LOVE it

 

[nibble]

I think you are awesome. I wish my husband would wear my panties..I have tried but he won't..HHmmm..It's not hurting anyone. If I was your wife it would not bother me at all..In fact I would love to go pantie shopping for you..How much fun that could be!!!!

Your awesome!!

 

[ABN_Ranger]

Hmm... Does having a pair of your wifes silk thongs as a liner in your kevlar helmet count? Just wondering.

J

 

[kiwis29]

Your awesome!!

I am glad someone thinks I am awesome!!!HAHA!!

 

[nibble]

Hmm... Does having a pair of your wifes silk thongs as a liner in your kevlar helmet count? Just wondering.
ok
J

 

[Cardinal]

I love panties too, and although my wife is aware of my fetish she is not thrilled about it. maybe start out with silk or satin panties made for men, check www.catsundies.com or get a few silk thongs from Fredericks of Hollywood and see what she says. Then you can slowly bring up that you would like to wear her panties or have her buy some for you.
Good luck, what a great lifestyle.

 

[Missingmeds]

Hmm... Does having a pair of your wifes silk thongs as a liner in your kevlar helmet count? Just wondering.

J

Of course it does, anything to make the brain remember better memories is a good thing.

*thinks of Nicholas Cage in Firebirds, trying to get over the eye dominance thing* Red silk one's Ranger?

 

[Vixandra]

Hmm... Does having a pair of your wifes silk thongs as a liner in your kevlar helmet count? Just wondering.

J

I think that's a little bit different Ranger.
Rather interesting incentive to wear the dang kevlar. Other then the flying bullets I mean.