Dress code

[laurel-marie]

Do you have one?

Do you expect your submissives to dress a certain way even when you are not with them? Why?

How about submissives...do you dress to please your dominant, even if he/she is not with you? Why?

Just curious.

For me, I dress for my husband. I always ask myself....if I was to run into him today at the store, will he be pleased by my appearence? He has never really said what he wants me to wear, with the exception of no make-up and hair down and natural, but I do know his likes and make an effort to dress that way.

 

[Killishandra]

My Dom doesn't tell me how to dress.

He does, however, tell me exactly when he wants me to undress.

 

[Marquis]

My Dom doesn't tell me how to dress.

Yet.


I give a lot of freedom in this area, but I do expect my subs to dress in a way that I find pleasing. For example, if I have a black sub, I truly dislike her having permed hair. All in all I like my subs to match me so we look nice together.

 

[h_i_s]

Many of my decisions each day focus on pleasing Him, and of course, the choosing of what i will wear is just one of those many decisions. As i sort through the clothes in my closet, picking something that is pleasing to Him is not difficult. my Master enjoys shopping for my clothing & He has picked out much of what i wear these days. i'm lucky that He has excellent taste in regard to fashion.

There are times when He'll tell me to wear something specific for a special occasion, or if we are going out somewhere. Some evenings, once the kids are tucked in bed, He'll leave the items He wishes to see me in at bedtime/playtime, waiting for me on our bed. Most times however, i am to report to bed wearing nothing other than His collar.

Besides choosing what i wear, He enjoys giving examples of how He likes my makeup to be worn. Day to day wear, He likes a very natural look (and preferes i wear my hair down.. no sticky crap.. no hairspray etc). On occasion, in private, He likes me to wear heavily applied, well blended dark tones of eye shadow with plenty of eyeliner, with lips outlined and filled in with a glossy red lipstick, and ... my nails must be painted red, at all times.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Choice of clothing I leave up to her, with two exceptions. NEVER pantyhose, and a good share of the time (especially with skirts), no panties.

One major reason for this is my complete lack of fashion sense, other than knowing that simplicity is almost always good and, since I am color stupid, remembering that black goes well with black... and just about anything else. I've also been told that blue shirts are good for me, because my eyes pick up the color, and that yellow and light greens don't look good on me because they make me look jaundiced.

But for someone else, I couldn't say, "Wear this because it will look good with your eyes/hair/skintone," because I don't have a clue about it. I do know what looks good when I see it, though, and what doesn't. Strange. I just can't seem to picture clothing on someone until they're wearing it, so ... I'll let her decide what to wear, and if I don't like it, tell her to change.

 

[Aeroil]

Not really, Mistress has talked about one day possibly getting me some clothes that... leave little to the imagination shall we say......
Well if she does get me into tight pants, then she will have an abysmally hard time getting me to go outside, and I would totally be clinging to her the entire time if she did manage it......

I like my own clothes, I'd prefer to keep 'em.

 

[Marquis]

Not really, Mistress has talked about one day possibly getting me some clothes that... leave little to the imagination shall we say......
Well if she does get me into tight pants, then she will have an abysmally hard time getting me to go outside, and I would totally be clinging to her the entire time if she did manage it......

I like my own clothes, I'd prefer to keep 'em.

Aeroil my friend, I absolutely can't wait until you meet your mistress. Something tells me you have some MAJOR surprises coming.

 

[Aeroil]

Aeroil my friend, I absolutely can't wait until you meet your mistress. Something tells me you have some MAJOR surprises coming.

meh, probably, but that's half the allure no?

 

[Marquis]

meh, probably, but that's half the allure no?

Hey man, I never went the sub route, so I can't help you too much, but I'd be willing to place a hefty wager on the fact that D/s is a little different than you might think. It's not all about getting fucked in the ass with a strapon you know.

 

[Xelebes]

Ah yes, the joys of humiliation....

 

[Aeroil]

Hey man, I never went the sub route, so I can't help you too much, but I'd be willing to place a hefty wager on the fact that D/s is a little different than you might think. It's not all about getting fucked in the ass with a strapon you know.

(curses, can't sleep)
No of course not, that's just the highlight
umm, but I'm not too sure what you're sayin, perhaps I should just explain my statement. Online it's not so bad, but IRL I am incredibly shy, the notion of doing something like wearing tight pants in public terrifies me, right now I know I simply wouldn't be able to, I'd be scared enough going out if she was with me. Perhaps (and hopefully) that will change with time, but it's how I am right now.

 

[Silverlily]

(curses, can't sleep)
No of course not, that's just the highlight
umm, but I'm not too sure what you're sayin, perhaps I should just explain my statement. Online it's not so bad, but IRL I am incredibly shy, the notion of doing something like wearing tight pants in public terrifies me, right now I know I simply wouldn't be able to, I'd be scared enough going out if she was with me. Perhaps (and hopefully) that will change with time, but it's how I am right now.

(I can't sleep either)

But I agree with Marquis. Saying "I can't" or "I'm shy" would pretty much guarantee a public outing. Your pleasure or comfort level isn't the point. You are also thinking of you on your own. It changes when the decision is taken from you. It's no longer the limits of your mind, but rather where her's can take you.

Yep, I think you are in for a big shock. Lighten up a little and it should be fun.

 

[Aeroil]

(I can't sleep either)

But I agree with Marquis. Saying "I can't" or "I'm shy" would pretty much guarantee a public outing. Your pleasure or comfort level isn't the point. You are also thinking of you on your own. It changes when the decision is taken from you. It's no longer the limits of your mind, but rather where her's can take you.

Yep, I think you are in for a big shock. Lighten up a little and it should be fun.

*nods* yup, everything is probably going to be thrown upside down, I expect that. I'm just worried about landing on my head. I must remind myself that experience is stronger than thought...

 

[Silverlily]

*nods* yup, everything is probably going to be thrown upside down, I expect that. I'm just worried about landing on my head. I must remind myself that experience is stronger than thought...

Let go of it. Landing you properly is her job. I'm not advocating going in blind, but at some point trust has to kick in.

 

[Aeroil]

Let go of it. Landing you properly is her job. I'm not advocating going in blind, but at some point trust has to kick in.

ick, Metaphors are confusing me now.
I'm a fast learner, I'll be fine I'm sure, and she'll help me with what I can't manage. (that's how it works right?)

 

[Xelebes]

Alternatively, you can stop giving a fuck about what you worrying about, your social status and all and hit up some parties. I do that and I reduced my social anxiety by 60%!!!

*popup starbust flashing the number 60 beside my head*

Edited for maximm freshness.

 

[Aeroil]

Alternatively, you can stop giving a fuck about what you worrying about, your social status and all and hit up some parties. I do that and I reduced my social anxiety by 60%!!!

*popup starbust flashing the number 60 beside my head*

Edited for maximm freshness.

lol, but I don't wanna goto parties, full of people I don't like and/or respect doing things that I have no interest in doing.

 

[Xelebes]

Fuck your prejudices and have some fun. At least once.

Edit - or just go for the music (that is, your musical tastes are not too exotic for a city of 80,000)

 

[Aeroil]

some people can't understand for the life of them why I'm happy with my social standing as is......

 

[Xelebes]

Yeah, but it's great to experiment. I mean I too was once contented with sitting in front of a computer for 15 hours everyday - sometimes consecutive as I whittled my time away on a computer and all my "friends" were on a chatroom. After five months of that, it went straight downhill.

Of course that is an ectreme example and right now I pretty much try and go out and be sociable with a bunch of friends every once every month at least. It gets me some fresh air. And it changes up my schedule. This is not about your social status but rather your anxieties that trap you in naivete.

 

[Silverlily]

This is not about your social status but rather your anxieties that trap you in naivete.

Huh, apparently glowstick consumption does not damage brain cells. *gives the glowy thing back* Bon appetite!


Well said.

 

[Aeroil]

It's not so much my anxieties I think so much as that I'm pretty elitist, it's very rare that I'll find someone I like, and unless I'm around one of them I'm usually very withdrawn and stoic.

 

[Xelebes]

It's not so much my anxieties I think so much as that I'm pretty elitist, it's very rare that I'll find someone I like, and unless I'm around one of them I'm usually very withdrawn and stoic.

That is more anxiety than anything. Shyness is pretty much anxiety or fear.

 

[Xelebes]

Huh, apparently glowstick consumption does not damage brain cells. *gives the glowy thing back* Bon appetite!


Well said.

*sucks glowstick dry*

My smile has never been brighter!

 

[Aeroil]

That is more anxiety than anything. Shyness is pretty much anxiety or fear.

I don't think it is, my shyness is pretty much completely about sexual things, other things I'm just unmotivated to talk to them.