DRAMA Damnit!!!

[Keroin]

I'm half attention whore and half dick -- so basically I'm one hell of a party.

You're a dramaphrodite?

 

[Netzach]

I'm a strange beast.

I love a good argument, but I don't like drama, I don't like a nasty ad-hominem argument. I try and live up to an ideal in which I will dis someone for doing or saying something shitty without provocation, even if they're a friend, but not for just being unpopular or unknown to me. Unprovoked shittiness will usually draw me into a fray. Uncool.

I don't like personal vendetta and behind the scenes stuff - there are secret histories in acrimony that I'm always the last person to know about and always have been. Do not care. Usually forget the who said what anyway. I managed to deflect and avoid the hysteric culture of gossip in HS by staying sidelined and studious. Better an unknown quantity than someone with her own rumor mill.

I'm a remarkably good guardian of secrets - sometimes I forget them altogether.

I understand the compulsion to tell people things, but it's how well you choose who you tell that is the measure of your character, we're all human.

So I said medium low. I'm a gawker at accidents, but I really don't think I make it a way of life. I've lost friendships because I do not want to get dragged into a history of shit I wasn't there to witness in the first place.

 

[BiBunny]

I find it interesting that I witness a fair amount of drama and yet all but one of the people responding to the poll have categorized themselves as below medium. So, either the high drama folks aren't responding or...

Fundamental attribution error and social desirability bias.

Most people think I'm incredibly drama-prone. Maybe I am. From here, it looks like most drama I'm involved in is other people's doing. I'm pretty sure other people feel the same way about themselves, too.

One of my best male friends in the world, L., has a sentence on many of his online profiles: "Trouble finds me." Yep, that's pretty much how I feel about it, too, LOL.

But if it'll make you feel better, I'll pick the drama queen option.

 

[Keroin]

Fundamental attribution error and social desirability bias.

Most people think I'm incredibly drama-prone. Maybe I am. From here, it looks like most drama I'm involved in is other people's doing. I'm pretty sure other people feel the same way about themselves, too.

One of my best male friends in the world, L., has a sentence on many of his online profiles: "Trouble finds me." Yep, that's pretty much how I feel about it, too, LOL.

But if it'll make you feel better, I'll pick the drama queen option.

I was kidding, (mostly). Put down the drama queen tiara, BB.

I think, when it comes to drama, it's a bit like how you never hear parents complain about badly behaved kids but never admit that their kids are badly behaved...so where do the badly behaved kids come from? Where are those parents? Hm.

*strokes chin*

 

[Kikori]

How often do I create it? I try never to. The times I find myself very much able to cause unnecessary trouble are when challenged about something I very firmly believe in, or when accused of saying / doing something completely not true.

How often do I see it? Every, damn, day. If I'm at work, I work retail. Grocery store. I get to see the public. I only keep my sanity as intact as it is because I know how to make fun of the public.

How often do I personally invite it / tolerate it? Quite often, and most of the time, willingly. I have one personal belief that if I'm spoken to, I need to at least speak back. It's more rude to ignore someone and leave them hanging than to say "I don't want to talk to you." Add in that I almost always want to get to the bottom of and try to help anyone who appears, acts, or is obviously sad, and whatever drama may be in someone's life usually gets vented out to me.

 

[Homburg]

Hmm, tough question. I get embroiled in pointless arguments, oh, here and there, but don't usually get involved in the really nasty emotional shit. When I do, it is because I see great injustice, and I'm usually there to drag somebody out of it.

That said, I can be feisty, mouthy, etc, and will get into knock-down arguments. I have a particular threshold though. Once the drama gets past a certain level, I just wander off. It isn't worth it.

One example, a former friend of mine has been talking shit about me for about a year now. Really spinning it up. Recently he laid a whopper on a huge crowd of people. Really pissed me off (and badly PO'ed a few friends of mine as well). I wanted to go out and find him right then, spark a nice public conflict. Then I sat there and thought about it, stewed on it, and just said it wasn't fuckin worth it. The people that are going to believe this dipshit tend to be the ones whose absence does not materially hamper my life. So, meh. Why go all public and stupid? In that case, my threshold was surpassed, and I was done.

 

[FurryFury]

To my mind, there is a correlation between drama, maturity and purpose. As a home owner, I'm sure you realized that there were many responsibilities that came along with the actual, physical "house". This is all part of maturing, realizing that there are enough genuine concerns in life without creating artificial ones. Also, owning a home, having kids, pursuing a career, etc, these kinds of things give people purpose. With purpose, there is less need to seek out things to fill the gaps and chase away the boredom that breeds drama.

And also, once you get rid of it, you often wonder why you tolerated drama to begin with.

I'd owned a home before. I'd been very generous with keys but most of those people were drama people and emotional vampires so, yes, I've matured and learned from my mistakes in those areas.


What I'm happy about is that without the drama I am much healthier and happier. I wasn't inviting it into my life. Now I'm putting my foot down more often with the people I must sometimes see who are drama people.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

I have no tolerance for drama. I do not involve myself in drama. Should someone attempt to involve me in drama, I tell them to "grow the fuck up".