Don't flame me!

[MissTaken]

Well, actually, I just want to know what your definition of "flame" is.

Sometimes, we post an opinion and then make a statement that indicates we expect to be "flamed."

By posting an opinion, you can expect others to debate the point and/or disagree. Does that mean you have been flamed?

So, define the term so I know what NOT to do when someone says, "Don't flame me."

(This post isn't pointed at any one particular poster. It is a thought I have had over and over.)

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Means to put the gasoline and matches down? Unless your into that sort of thing.

 

[PepperminTrish]

"Flaming" to me is when someone disagrees with something that you've posted but theye do it in a nasty way, such as resorting to name calling and things like that.

 

[intrigued]

Well, actually, I just want to know what your definition of "flame" is.

Sometimes, we post an opinion and then make a statement that indicates we expect to be "flamed."

By posting an opinion, you can expect others to debate the point and/or disagree. Does that mean you have been flamed?

So, define the term so I know what NOT to do when someone says, "Don't flame me."

(This post isn't pointed at any one particular poster. It is a thought I have had over and over.)

I would take the post at face value and proceed from there. I do my own thinking.

 

[Guest]

Well, in my opinion, this would not be a flame:

Jane Posts: I think kittens are cute.
Joe Posts: I strongly disagree with you.

This would be a flame:

Jane Posts: I think kittens are cute.
Joe Posts: You are a fucking moron and I can't imagine your mama ever loved you. You probably anally rape goats. Stupid bitch.


It's all in the delivery.

 

[scylis]

YOU COLD, HEARTLESS CUNT! I HOPE YOU BURN IN HELL, BITCH!!

that's what i think of as flames. rude, childish, unexplained posts that have no purpose other than to call the target a doo-doo head.

i've made a number of posts that would seem to be flames, but they're all drowning in sarcasm.

 

[Anais Dahl]

Sorry, Unregistered was me.

 

[intrigued]

Oh, MissTaken, I like your av.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, it was a good post, Anais!


Yes, flaming seems to be something that is seething with disrespect.

To take it a step further, to me, it is when the debate becomes personalized.

Question:

How do you feel about cyber relationships?

Answer: It is fine if feeds a void in the real life marriage and no one gets hurt.

Flaming response: Of course, YOU would think so. You cyber with everyone with one finger to type and a hand left to stroke, you cyber whore!

Non flaming response: Some who have experience with this are comfortable with it. HOwever, it isn't for me.

 

[Weird Harold]

To take it a step further, to me, it is when the debate becomes personalized.

"Flaming" doesn't have to get personal, although it often does get personal.

To me, "flaming" is any post that is intended to incite passion or is written in the "heat of the moment" with a great deal of passion.

99% of "flames" are negative posts or personal attacks, but there are a few posts that are neither negative or personal that are still "flames" to me because of the passionate presentation of a viewpoint.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

I try to restrict my flaming to true trolls. Although I have been known to get incensed over very poor spelling.

I did, to my shame, enjoy flaming yoyo-twat. But come on...who didn't?

 

[Sillyman]

Actually, I've managed to flame myself. I feel quite proud.

 

[Ishmael]

Geez, follow my threads. You'll get the idea.

Ishmael

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Actually, I've managed to flame myself. I feel quite proud.

Silly...we are not talking about lighting the gaseous eruptions from your bowels.

 

[His Sex Kitten]

Flame on a lighter note

I personally hate flaming people but I guess sometimes it just happens without even thinking.

On a lighter note, to me, a flame is the good feeling I get when someone knows just where and how to touch me

http://user.netomia.com/kyley_eq/meow.jpg

 

[constantlykinky]

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Actually, I've managed to flame myself. I feel quite proud.
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Silly...we are not talking about lighting the gaseous eruptions from your bowels.

LOL. I love it. Nice 1 IrishWolfhound

 

[takingchances42]

Flaming is a derivation of the old usenet term "flamewars". Which means pretty much what it sounds like, two or more people going at it hammer and tongs, with heavy sarcasm at the least, and usually knocking down each other's intelligence, belief systems and so forth. I don't know that obscenities are required (though they often end up there), but heated and personal exchanges that go way beyond an intellectual debate are a necessary part of it.

Words have different connotations to all of us, but I have never seen flamewar or flaming applied to posting about something you feel passionately about. Though those strong feelings may quickly lead to a flamewar if someone disagrees equally passionately.

I would say that both parties need to be genuinely emotionally involved for it to be a flamewar in the traditional sense. If one person is angry or worked up, and the other person is recreationally taunting them, then the taunter is being a troll, not flaming. IMHO.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[ma_guy]

I'd agree with what most of the prior posters have said.

A lot of posters create threads just begging to be "flamed". When people choose a controversial subject and state their opinion as the one and only possible truth they leave themselves wide open to it.

 

[HeavyStick]

I will post reasonably with most people, some people I love to flame. Others I just ignore.

 

[Sillyman]

All you people are just fucked.



Don't hurt me.

 

[ma_guy]

All you people are just fucked.



Don't hurt me.

If I was fucked regularly I'd be a very happy guy.

 

[peachykeen]

Flaming schmaming. An awful lot of people take shit here way to seriously. I can't imagine a night out in the pub/bar (depending on what continent I happen to be on) that wouldn't at some point involve some heated exchange and at least one person saying at some point "Ah shuddup and siddown, ya frikkin idiot, yer off yer nut." How can you take a bunch of words on a screen written by a bunch of people you don't even know so personally? Personally I think a good slinging of insults can be quite fun, done with verve and elan. What's the big deal?

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Flaming schmaming. An awful lot of people take shit here way to seriously. I can't imagine a night out in the pub/bar (depending on what continent I happen to be on) that wouldn't at some point involve some heated exchange and at least one person saying at some point "Ah shuddup and siddown, ya frikkin idiot, yer off yer nut." How can you take a bunch of words on a screen written by a bunch of people you don't even know so personally? Personally I think a good slinging of insults can be quite fun, done with verve and elan. What's the big deal?

I'm with Peachy on this one.

And I'm still swimming...

 

[peachykeen]

And I'm still swimming...

That's it! Good boy! C'mere puppy! come on! you can do it! Who's my best boy, huh? C'mon! C'mon!