Doms, what do you do when your sub gets sick?

[Aeroil]

I am of course talking about a cold or flu or something similar, I imagine that if the dom was sick then the sub would be taking care of them, but a dom taking care of a sub in that way seems a bit outta place to me, so what would you do/have you done?

 

[Mr Blonde]

Like a normal vanilla situation!

If one of us needs a bottle of medicine, the other makes the run to the store but there is not some big production in my relationships.

 

[Aeroil]

oh, okay.....sorry if it's a noobish question just wondering 'cause I've been sick all day......

 

[shaymless]

Don't ever feel bad about asking questions..and I hope you feel better soon!

A funny story that popped into my head when I read your question:

I had a day where I hadn't felt right all day - couldn't say I felt ill, just didn't feel right. We didn't scene hard, but did have rough-er sex, which was yum and no complaints at all - some pain during, but hey, it was yum. I have chronic girl issues, things slant, some positions work better than others, etc. I got out of bed to go to the bathroom and immediately go down on the floor due to pain.
I scare the snot out of both of us, I can't move. He gets me to the bathroom, I'm vomiting, I'm green...he's wanting to get me to the ER, he's holding my hair, running to get water for me, cleaning me up...there is sheer terror on his face...he thinks he broke me. Because I aim for humor in most of life circumstances, I say to him "hey...you're kinda being my bitch...this is cool". Well, the terror left his face, which was my goal at the moment.

That moment assured him I was going to live...for awhile. I paid for the comment in spades, once he was sure I wasn't broken permanently (And went to my own ob/gyn for the issue, since he knows my history)

But...to answer your question, people who care about each other take care of each other in all manner of ways, regardless of their relationship dynamic.

Feel better soon -
shay

 

[Marquis]

I gotta learn how to do that.

 

[LunarKitten]

I am of course talking about a cold or flu or something similar, I imagine that if the dom was sick then the sub would be taking care of them, but a dom taking care of a sub in that way seems a bit outta place to me, so what would you do/have you done?

Master makes me stay in bed and he checks in on me periodically - he even does the dishes and watches after our daughter

And don't feel bad about asking. The only stupid question is the one that isn't ask *huggles* I do hope you feel better soon.

When you are in a 24/7 relationship, it isn't all about who's on Top and who's on bottom all the time. Yes, we have the protocols we follow, but we also have the day to day "normal" life stuff to deal with. Since Xmas one of us has been feeling not 100% (both got a really bad head cold and he has an ear infection from the sinus stoppage stuff). But we love each other very deeply, and we one of us is ill we take care of each other. Of course, even when I'm sick, if he's sick I try to take care of him lol (He's too tired then to make me stop and stay in bed )

 

[Silverlily]

None of my pets are a 24/7 arrangement, regardless they get fed chicken soup and orange juice and tucked into bed. If need be, I will call their doctor and make sure they are at any necessary appointments. There's nothing out of place about caring for your property.

 

[Marquis]

None of my pets are a 24/7 arrangement, regardless they get fed chicken soup and orange juice and tucked into bed. If need be, I will call their doctor and make sure they are at any necessary appointments. There's nothing out of place about caring for your property.

True, a sub with an untreated cold can be out of service for as long as seven days, but given the right care she can be back on her knees in a week.

 

[Silverlily]

True, a sub with an untreated cold can be out of service for as long as seven days, but given the right care she can be back on her knees in a week.

*shrug*

You have your training methods, I have mine.

 

[Marquis]

It was a joke, I give chicken soup too.

Contrary to popular opinion, I do a lot of romantic stuff for my subs. A young lady is much more amenable (thanks Quint) when she's starry eyed.

Plus, there's no hotter time to strike!

 

[SweetDommes]

When we can, we take care of our boys as much as they take care of us. In our opinion, it is a Dominant's job to make sure that their sub is taken care of. If and when one of our boys isnt' feeling well, and we are able to take care of them, of course, we do. One of the other Dommes on here has posted about the same thing - that her orders for any sub who isnt' feeling well are to stay in bed and relax, that is their job until they are feeling better, and there are to be no arguments. While we don't go quite to there, we do make sure that they relax, don't over do it, take meds if they need to, etc. No furniture building/moving while they aren't feeling well ... no major renovations to the house ... (which is what we have been doing a lot of lately) etc.

 

[Silverlily]

It was a joke, I give chicken soup too.

Contrary to popular opinion, I do a lot of romantic stuff for my subs. A young lady is much more amenable (thanks Quint) when she's starry eyed.

Plus, there's no hotter time to strike!

My apologies then.

You have a point there, not only do smitten pets tend to be more malleable, but disapproval is all the more powerful a tool.

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

He had me stay in bed, waited on me hand and foot for the whole day, and then the next week, when he'd come down with the same thing, he got the same treatment.



I suppose He treated me like any other person who loved another would. He was always very protective and territorial.

 

[snowy ciara]

I've actually seen that, sort of. The Domly Gentleman took a week off work to care for her, and then was there at the hospital after she was admitted. Waited on her hand and foot when she got out, and then imported a subbie friend for a week or so to care for her when he had to return to work. It was quite touching and sweet.

I wonder why so many people equate Domliness with a lack of gentler emotion?

 

[SweetDommes]

I wonder why so many people equate Domliness with a lack of gentler emotion?

Because a number of people who claim to be dominant are really just assholes using it at an excuse to be one. Domination is more than just getting what you want, and far more than just being a rip to someone because they say that they are submissive. But because a lot of the more ... vocal ... prominant ... hmm... what word am I really looking for here ... really, the ones that are more visible and people recognize as being "Dominant", are truly just assholes looking for an excuse for their behavior, people associate Dominance with a lack of emotion.

 

[snowy ciara]

Because a number of people who claim to be dominant are really just assholes using it at an excuse to be one. Domination is more than just getting what you want, and far more than just being a rip to someone because they say that they are submissive. But because a lot of the more ... vocal ... prominent ... hmm... what word am I really looking for here ... really, the ones that are more visible and people recognize as being "Dominant", are truly just assholes looking for an excuse for their behavior, people associate Dominance with a lack of emotion.

Very good points, Ladies. (Or Lady, since I don't know which you are..)

You see, most of the PYLs that I've met so far are very nurturing persons, on some level. And as the Dom I was speaking of put it; "even the most callous Dom takes care of his toys!"

Hope you're feeling better soon, Aeroil.

 

[Aeroil]

oh....thanks everyone, for answering my question and for wishing me well...... gonna get some sleep now, hopefully I'll feel better in the morning....

 

[Mamid]

yes, when DP is sick, I take care of him. When I'm sick, he takes care of me.

If he fists me, I get the next day off from all but nursing duties of DD. Same thing for anal sex. If my IBS is acting up, he'll let me slide for a day or so.

If he gets a migraine, I take care of him.

Give and take. And he also does dishes, vaccuums and diapers!

laundry, is a two person effort though. I wash, dry and fold, he puts away.

Right now, he has a heart condition that we are hoping will go away as of <48hrs from now when he gets cardioverted, so he's been doing what he can when he can. If that means this place has gone to pot - and it has at times - oh well. If that means that the little master and mistress are sleeping in mommy's bed so daddy can get the rest he needs, then it must be done.

I'm hoping he'll be declared "cured" when he next sees his doctor after Tuesday. We'll see...

 

[Miss Diva]

True, a sub with an untreated cold can be out of service for as long as seven days, but given the right care she can be back on her knees in a week.

uh seven days or one week, what is the difference please ???

 

[Miss Diva]

When I am sick my PYL and I will not play. One night I went over to his place and he took one look at me and basically said no session tonight. I had to be submissive but no hard play. In fact he allowed me to lie on his bed while he did some work.

 

[blue kat]

I am of course talking about a cold or flu or something similar, I imagine that if the dom was sick then the sub would be taking care of them, but a dom taking care of a sub in that way seems a bit outta place to me, so what would you do/have you done?

Always. I've even babysat sick subs that weren't mine. Why would someone not do it? I understand a little bit if you're in a casual sort of relationship, like the whole fuck buddy thing. But when my sub gets sick, it's just like any other family member that needs a hand.

 

[Guest]

uh seven days or one week, what is the difference please ???

Ummm..Dear..Thats the joke..

If your pyl is sick, you take care of them... It's part of being PYL. Not to mention that whole love thing ...yah know?

 

[Miss Diva]

Ummm..Dear..Thats the joke..

If your pyl is sick, you take care of them... It's part of being PYL. Not to mention that whole love thing ...yah know?

Ok so I am a little slow these days.

 

[Aeroil]

on a follow up I would like to say that I am finally feeling better after a few days with a fever and thanks to everyone who posted.
oh, and btw, like my new "avatar"? hehehe

 

[bdsmToy]

just like a normal relationshio, its important to note that the subs health comes far infront of them not being in role per say...if she is sick i will wait hand and foot on her because i am first her friend, and then her master and i really about her. hope other share these ideals and i suspect most do.