Doms: Ever developed a crush on youir sub?

[BeAGoodBoy]

I have a sub who I find completely delicious despite his having a very inadequate cock. He's intelligent, masculine, confident...pathetic, weak and beautifully submissive altogether. I find myself longing for him physically more than my boyfriend, bull, or husband...
this is actually not a problem. I am enjoying it. I do sometimes struggle to keep D/s boundaries when we are in session. I enjoy him just a little too much to his benefit just as much as Mine.
Input? Enlightenment? Musings?...

 

[YourCaptor]

Umm, remember that even though he's a fun toy, a partnership would suck.

And if that is not true, idk, ditch the hero and get with the zero.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

What exactly is wrong with having feelings for your sub?

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

What exactly is wrong with having feelings for your sub?

I think the OP is expressing that these feelings of affection were limited by the dynamics they put in place/agreed upon between them, but not necessarily that feelings are "wrong" fundamentally. For me though, I have a hard time believing that it is possible to enforce such a boundary. Emotions happen and are never wrong and tend to intensify when we attempt to suppress them. That said, what we do about them or when we are exclusively driven by them, those actions can be wrong for the people involved. In my opinion if the feelings you have overwhelm your capacity to respect the boundaries of the relationship and thusly act inappropriately... then it is time to reassess your choice to remain there.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I think the OP is expressing that these feelings of affection were limited by the dynamics they put in place/agreed upon between them, but not necessarily that feelings are "wrong" fundamentally. For me though, I have a hard time believing that this is possible to enforce such a boundary. Emotions happen and are never wrong and tend to intensify when we attempt to suppress them. That said, what we do about them or when we are exclusively driven by them can be wrong for the people involved. In my opinion if the feelings you have overwhelm your capacity to respect the boundaries of the relationship and thusly act inappropriately... then it is time to reassess your choice to remain there.

Ah I see. Fair enough then. In that case, you're very wise and the OP should listen to your wisdom *nod*

 

[BiBunny]

I think the OP is expressing that these feelings of affection were limited by the dynamics they put in place/agreed upon between them, but not necessarily that feelings are "wrong" fundamentally. For me though, I have a hard time believing that it is possible to enforce such a boundary. Emotions happen and are never wrong and tend to intensify when we attempt to suppress them. That said, what we do about them or when we are exclusively driven by them, those actions can be wrong for the people involved. In my opinion if the feelings you have overwhelm your capacity to respect the boundaries of the relationship and thusly act inappropriately... then it is time to reassess your choice to remain there.

This kinda thing is why it's a terrible idea to try to make a relationship fit into a preconceived box, rather than building the box to fit the relationship, as it were.

 

[BeAGoodBoy]

more context..

I apologize for being unclear, but this is a physical attraction, not an emotional one. There is no danger of sabotaging any of My relationships as a result.

I find Myself masturbating at the thought of him. Again, this isn't a problem or a struggle. Looking for examples of balancing an attraction to a sub and dominance over him, especially when in session

Such a fuzzy line when sucking his pathetic little dick brings you as much pleasure as it does him...

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

This kinda thing is why it's a terrible idea to try to make a relationship fit into a preconceived box, rather than building the box to fit the relationship, as it were.

I like this statement a great deal and I want to be take it out for gelato.

 

[ataxia.girl]

This kinda thing is why it's a terrible idea to try to make a relationship fit into a preconceived box, rather than building the box to fit the relationship, as it were.

Indeed

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I apologize for being unclear, but this is a physical attraction, not an emotional one. There is no danger of sabotaging any of My relationships as a result.

I find Myself masturbating at the thought of him. Again, this isn't a problem or a struggle. Looking for examples of balancing an attraction to a sub and dominance over him, especially when in session

Such a fuzzy line when sucking his pathetic little dick brings you as much pleasure as it does him...

okay...well in this case I still don't see the problem. Why can't one be attracted to someone and dominate them?