Dommes/Mistresses and male subs/slaves

[Belladonna]

I hope ya'll don't mind this question. I have recently started doing phone sex as a job and yes it is more difficult than it seems. I get to work at home, set my own hours, sure, but being able to keep all those horny dirty men (and I've been told occasional women) on the line is what makes it a job. I am sexually open minded and have been able to talk about and encourage topics across the board that IRL I would not even consider. A bonus is I am learning quite a bit about male sexuality and the fact that it is as confusing as us gals.

Anyway, my point. I am a real life submissive and have been mentally a sub for some time. One of the roles I am required to play is a Dominant woman. My Dom is helping me with this, but the submissive female and submissive male is very different. That being said, both genders go from one extreme to the other, but what I have been finding is a lot of the male subs that call in want to be humiliated, forced to take men or strap ons and forced Feminization. This is something I have no experience with other than the knowledge that it is what they like. How to approach this verbally has not been easy.

Any one have any tips or ideas that might help? It is purely over the phone with complete strangers that I have limited time to get to know, hence the difficulty. With my natural submissive tendencies, I hope that this part of the job doesn't kill it for me!!! Thank you in advance for any feedback.

 

[Netzach]

I'm in the same line of work as you.

I worked for a service for about 5 minutes because I don't do sub calls. I also have a little bit of trouble passing myself off as a West Indian she-male with an 8 inch cock, go figure.

I went indie, went honest and take the calls I want to take. Guys love authenticity. Take the sub calls and enjoy your job, life is short and there's lots of them. Market yourself to the population you really get fired up over working with, and they will come.

I can give tips, but honestly, if you're never going to LOVE Domme calls, you are not going to get the long-ass hold times. Just like my sub calls were notoriously short.

 

[Marquis]

I notice that expressing equal parts of disgust and curiosity tends to keep subs in the headspace they wanna be in.

 

[marieR19]

I can't be the only one here who is itching to call Netzach or Belladonna, can I? *winkwink*


Heather

 

[helloo99]

think of him as a girl whom she like,t up the ass and u will see the reselt.

 

[malinborn]

Just doing a search on google for "forced bi" came up with a site of phone sex dommes, their profiles are interesting, might give you an idea of varying headspaces...

http://www.suckpatrol.com/index.phtml

 

[Belladonna]

Thank you so much for your advice! Especially you, Netzach & malinborn.

I am doing a tad bit better but I am curious about the right questions to ask when trying to find out what a sub male might like. I mean I could spend hours asking from one specific to another, but a good general question that might hint to which way the sub might go. I know the typical pantie wearers love to be sissified and there is a whole large spectrum they run under as well. Just throw some things at me, if you would, as to what I might ask or how I might approach a subbie male. Sub females are easy. I am one, so I can totally get the mind set. You submissive men out there are so much more complicated to me. No offense.

Netzach, I do plan to branch out on my own as well. Working with this company is getting my *feet wet* so I know more about what to expect, etc. I know they make like 95% on my hard work, but still, I need the experience if I'm ever gonna do this on my own. I have a plan to do the whole nine yards (web site, pics, erotica, etc) but again, it's only an idea right now, and working for a company helps greatly. FOR NOW

THANKS!

 

[kcmlf]

sub male

Here are some general questions for you to ask.
1. What are you wearing?
2. Have you been a bad boy?
3. Do you like video booths?
4. Do you have a mistress?
5. How do you get punished?

As a dom female with a sub male hubby, he does nothing sexual without my permission. He would get in trouble for even calling. He is not even allowed to complete without my permission, which he does not get very often. But my sub is also a slut and loves cock in any form, so that is another direction you can go with your questions.

Good luck and let us know how it is going.

 

[smotherman]

I thought phone sex operators are trained on what to ask etc. No tips can prepare you for each caller. Find out what him/her is into and go from there.

Good Luck!