Dominant Principles

[SkyeMagus]

I'll be honest. I personally don't know the first thing about TRULY being a Dom. So lemme ask:

What Principles do you think a Dom should have?

Should they be more Physical, Pyschological, Emotional, or a mix?

What should their Goals be?


Just a few questions burning in me. What do you guys think?

 

[DVS]

I'll be honest. I personally don't know the first thing about TRULY being a Dom. So lemme ask:

What Principles do you think a Dom should have?

Should they be more Physical, Pyschological, Emotional, or a mix?

What should their Goals be?


Just a few questions burning in me. What do you guys think?

Someone can't tell you how to be a dom. It has to come from the inside. It shouldn't be the questions burning inside, it should be your desire burning inside. If you don't have that desire, you will just be faking it. When you fake it, a submissive will know and not give you the time of day.

Decide if you have that burn inside of you. If you do, be creative and come up with your own version of being a dom. A submissive doesn't want just another cookie cutter version of a dom...she wants someone unique and interesting. You might check out some stories or videos for ideas, but keep in mind most stories and videos are intentionally larger than life, for effect. Don't try to mirror yourself from them.

Your own character will help you answer the question of principles. Do learn about about safe words and trust. Do learn things like the type of rope to use and not use, or positions that could be difficult for a submissive to sustain over long periods of time. Learn about implements and toys that you find interesting. Then learn how to use them correctly.

If you've got that burn inside, you should be able to answer your own questions about physical, emotional, psychological play or a mix. And your question about a goal should be obvious. Your goal is a satisfying relationship between you and your submissive.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Be true to yourself, and don't scam someone into becoming your doormat who didn't want to be that.

Understand that if you break your toys you can't play with them any longer. Sometimes, because they won't let you bring toys into the jail with you.

Understand that the whole world doesn't have to watch you approvingly.
Know the difference between your sex life and everyone else's lives.
Never tell a dominant woman that she "just hasn't met the right Dom yet," for example.

Honor the elders who really DID come before you, who fought to bring BDSM to a community that can accept it even to the small extent that it can.

Know when to Dom, and when to top, and the differences between those things.

 

[midwestyankee]

Make a list of principles for living as a human being that matter to you on a fundamental level and you will have 90% of the list you just asked for. For the other ten per cent, see Stella above.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Make a list of principles for living as a human being that matter to you on a fundamental level and you will have 90% of the list you just asked for. For the other ten per cent, see Stella above.

Seconded.

Someone can't tell you how to be a dom. It has to come from the inside. It shouldn't be the questions burning inside, it should be your desire burning inside. If you don't have that desire, you will just be faking it. When you fake it, a submissive will know and not give you the time of day.

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Decide if you have that burn inside of you. If you do, be creative and come up with your own version of being a dom. A submissive doesn't want just another cookie cutter version of a dom...she wants someone unique and interesting. You might check out some stories or videos for ideas, but keep in mind most stories and videos are intentionally larger than life, for effect. Don't try to mirror yourself from them.

Good advice for so much of life.

 

[SkyeMagus]

A lot of soul searchin ahead it seems lol, this has all been very helpful and something for me to chew on. Thank you all so much

 

[CurvAppeal]

I'll be honest. I personally don't know the first thing about TRULY being a Dom. So lemme ask:

What Principles do you think a Dom should have?

Should they be more Physical, Pyschological, Emotional, or a mix?

What should their Goals be?


Just a few questions burning in me. What do you guys think?

hey, daddy.

i introduced you to bdsm to show you my interests in the bedroom, and what i really like. i asked you to try it out and you did!!

no one can tell you to be a certain way, to tell you if you are meant to be a dom. like they have said up above, it is something that lives inside of you if you have it. from real life experiences with you, you are great at all of them. physical, psychological and emotional. you made me feel like a worthless whore while making me feel loved and cared about at the same time. in my opinion, as your first true submissive, there is something unique about you that makes you a really AMAZING dominant.

do some soul searching, this world isn't for everyone. but, i believe you'll be great at it if you wish to pursue it. love you

 

[SpiritRider]

Make a list of principles for living as a human being that matter to you on a fundamental level and you will have 90% of the list you just asked for.

^ This
Except I'd make it over 98%

For far to many years I've seen people compromise their core beliefs to try and "fit in". Enough is enough. Remember who you are, not what others think you should be.

 

[Stella_Omega]

hey, daddy.

i introduced you to bdsm to show you my interests in the bedroom, and what i really like. i asked you to try it out and you did!!

no one can tell you to be a certain way, to tell you if you are meant to be a dom. like they have said up above, it is something that lives inside of you if you have it. from real life experiences with you, you are great at all of them. physical, psychological and emotional. you made me feel like a worthless whore while making me feel loved and cared about at the same time. in my opinion, as your first true submissive, there is something unique about you that makes you a really AMAZING dominant.

do some soul searching, this world isn't for everyone. but, i believe you'll be great at it if you wish to pursue it. love you

Well, that's worth a hella lot, IMO. Because holy shit. I hope my partners feel that way about me!

 

[Netzach]

1. Don't be a douchebag
2. It IS your responsibility.
3. But not everything is your fault.
4. carry EMT shears.

 

[CurvAppeal]

Well, that's worth a hella lot, IMO. Because holy shit. I hope my partners feel that way about me!

im sure the do love. we just have a love and connection not a lot of people have...but that a lot of people do at the same time. he's great no complaints here