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Yayati, I couldn't read through that whole thing. I stopped at the first inaccuracy after your salutation, which happened to be in the very first line. The world is on 6 billion people workin' on 7.
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didn't I read somewhere that you were leaving?
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LittleMsNaughty
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Having been a victim of domestic violence in a past relationship - here is my humble opinion....
I had many people try to talk me into leaving for my safety and the safety of my children - however hard they tried to convince me that the abuser was not going to change - I just was not ready to make that move.... luckily I found the strength somewhere within to leave and start a new life (after about 5 years) and show my children that i was not going to take any more abuse and that it was wrong.
My opinion is that if you know someone who is in a situation like this - all you can do is be there for them - you can't make them leave or stay away from the abuser because such is the level of control - they really feel that they need that person at the time.
A lot of cultures are accepting of this type of control and it would take huge efforts to get any sort of change happening within these cultures..... if you really want to help someone - try contacting a local shelter for battered women and asking if there is some way that you could support/sponsor a woman who is needing a fresh start.
I could go on & on & on about this but then you'd all have to start yawning
I'll finish ranting by saying this: I managed - through my own strength to make a fresh start and am now grateful for the experiences (as horrible as they were at the time) that have made me the person I am today..... I don't dwell on the past - I take what lessons I can from it and move on to the next experience.
I had many people try to talk me into leaving for my safety and the safety of my children - however hard they tried to convince me that the abuser was not going to change - I just was not ready to make that move.... luckily I found the strength somewhere within to leave and start a new life (after about 5 years) and show my children that i was not going to take any more abuse and that it was wrong.
My opinion is that if you know someone who is in a situation like this - all you can do is be there for them - you can't make them leave or stay away from the abuser because such is the level of control - they really feel that they need that person at the time.
A lot of cultures are accepting of this type of control and it would take huge efforts to get any sort of change happening within these cultures..... if you really want to help someone - try contacting a local shelter for battered women and asking if there is some way that you could support/sponsor a woman who is needing a fresh start.
I could go on & on & on about this but then you'd all have to start yawning
I'll finish ranting by saying this: I managed - through my own strength to make a fresh start and am now grateful for the experiences (as horrible as they were at the time) that have made me the person I am today..... I don't dwell on the past - I take what lessons I can from it and move on to the next experience.
KillerMuffin
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Noble countries do not practice female infantacide. An interesting FYI: In India it's against the law to determine a fetus's sex for the purpose of aborting unwanted baby girls.
Domestic violence is unacceptable in any form and it happens everywhere. Some cultures have normalized it in some ways. A lot of third world and NICs continue to treat women as chattel, not citizens deserving of the same rights as everyone else.
Some of the old, traditional "noble" ways are nothing more than prettily disguised traditions of abusing women as a gender. They are prevented from things such as reproductive choice-- like choosing birth control on their own-- and pursuing a job or education while children are in the home. Women are secondary to men in a lot of countries, including the ennobled India and surrounding countries.
As long as women are considered secondary humans-- and they are despite all the pedestal propaganda-- they are abused.
In the home it's even worse. It's in all cultures, all societies, all classes. It's pervasive and it's often hidden.
Domestic violence is unacceptable in any form and it happens everywhere. Some cultures have normalized it in some ways. A lot of third world and NICs continue to treat women as chattel, not citizens deserving of the same rights as everyone else.
Some of the old, traditional "noble" ways are nothing more than prettily disguised traditions of abusing women as a gender. They are prevented from things such as reproductive choice-- like choosing birth control on their own-- and pursuing a job or education while children are in the home. Women are secondary to men in a lot of countries, including the ennobled India and surrounding countries.
As long as women are considered secondary humans-- and they are despite all the pedestal propaganda-- they are abused.
In the home it's even worse. It's in all cultures, all societies, all classes. It's pervasive and it's often hidden.
LittleMsNaughty
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KillerMuffin said:
This is so true - a lot of women are so ashamed and feel that they have failed as a Wife/partner because they have inflicted the abuse on themselves by not obeying or keeping their mouths shut that they feel they can't talk to anyone else..... Awareness is a huge step to stopping domestic abuse and if everyone got on the phone and called the police when they heard their neighbour being beaten or abused (as verbal abuse can often be just as damaging) instead of choosing to ignore it - it would send the message that it is NOT okay!!
