Domestic Discipline

[futurestepfordwife]

I'm really interested to see if there are many people on here involved or looking for a Traditional Gender Roles/Domestic Discipline lifestyle/relationship. After being in the lifestyle for 3 years (I know still quite new). I have found this style relationship most aligns to what I want/need.

I'm finding a lot of difficulty in finding someone like minded who is around my age (30s-40s) and single. When I say single, I mean someone who is not married or partnered, not someone in a sexless marriage. (that sounds bitchy but it tends to be what is on here and FL.)

Am I completely alone in this?

 

[sweettalk4u]

You will find someone. Hold to your standards. You seem to be open minded and willing to learn. Make sure he is too for you have much to impart to him.

 

[cookiecat]

Are you asking a question about HoH / Domestic Discipline?

Or are you looking for someone to date?

Go to the personal section here or seek out a site like collar space or alt or even fet life. If you do a "domestic discipline" search on fet, several groups dedicated to this come up.

 

[Mei5ter]

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1485895

...and this may also be of interest.

 

[Lascivity]

It's a dynamic that I play with often, although I've never gotten into it 24/7 with a partner. It's hot though. I'm the last person you'd expect to be into Christian Domestic Discipline style stuff... and yet I am.

It's quite a specific kink though, so I can imagine it would be difficult to find someone ready to jump into that. Maybe it's something you could introduce to a relationship that has elements of D/s in it over time?

 

[warriorprincess9]

I think it is completely natural and want the same. I had it with my late husband and a mom so im taking my time.

Dont settle but keep looking on here. Have you tried collar space?

 

[box13]

There was at one point a Yahoo group of couples that shared their questions and experiences. I listened in for a long time...but I'm not sure where it went or if it left me behind. It was also somewhat faith-sharing as well, and I'm not sure if that's what you want either. But I have the feeling that many of those type of folk are more or less basing it upon their worldview.

Can't help any with finding someone, but I'd imagine that something like *********** would attract someone like-minded, and then from there you'd need to just keep focus on your needs and interests.

For me, the recognition that this was the kind of relationship I wanted was because I *was* in a marriage where mutual respect wasn't shown, and roles weren't maintained. You may need to a) find someone who has struggled in a relationship who is looking for something different (and therefore in transition), and b) is willing to accept DD as a normal part of romantic expression.

Not being abusive or BPD or BP would be nice, too.

But you're not alone, and many women have that kind of emotional need.

Good luck.

 

[Nubbin2Declare]

By now, most men in their 30s and 40s will have heard over and over that what you are seeking is an "abusive relationship" and a partner who exercises "toxic masculinity."

Consequently, you're going to have a difficult time finding a man in that age range (or younger) who doesn't see the arrangement you are seeking as one of perpetrator/victim. Such a man isn't going to sees it as a lifestyle, but rather as a series of crimes.`

The traditional gender-role arrangement has become one of equal partnership, based on mutual respect, or, alternatively, woman head of household (and man absent and his whereabouts unknown - he has missed 33 child-support payments in a row), not what you describe as being traditional. It isn't. In many places it hasn't been for several generations now.

My sincere recommendation is that you look for a man much older, a dinosaur with respect to social attitudes who probably retired from work before people regularly got fired for expressing such attitudes in the workplace. That way, you can go from cooking his meals and submitting to his displeasure straight to wiping the saliva from his chin and changing his adult diapers as he gets even older.

You should be looking for an "Archie Bunker," not a man still in the full flower of youth. If your parents are still alive, and you live in an arranged-marriage culture, rather than a dating culture, ask your parents to arrange a marriage for you to an older single man in the village who is known to be angry and violent. He'll be a natural at domestic discipline, right up your alley. Unless he has a lot of land or large herds of livestock, he's also likely to be still available, as single as you want him to be for you.

You're frustrated and unsuccessful at what you say you are trying to accomplish because you're using the wrong bait and fishing in the wrong pond.