Dom&sub games

[darenCA20m]

A girlfriend of mine and I were discussing dom/sub games in the bedroom...She says she enjoys her partners forcing her to beg them for sex...and of course spanking...We are both curious are there any more ways to play dom/sub?

 

[john_and_mima]

letting your partner orgasm when you want them to and only when you want them to

mima x

 

[silverwhisper]

did you know there's a BDSM subforum? you might find that a productive place to explore.

ed

 

[fuckmeat]

There are loads of ways. A lot depends what the end goal is too. Wanting to have to beg suggests your girl has a kink for humiliation. Craving dominance and spankings also suggest she wants to be controlled and has masochistic urges. How far any of these three impulses goes and what she would be comfortable doing is really a 'piece of string' question though. You guys will need to quit blushing and keep open, frank lines of communication open if you don't want any misunderstandings to occur. Humiliation games in particular can cause distress and even emotional damage unless you carefully research what kinds of humiliation she finds fun and what could corrode her self esteem and respect for you. Stuff that's fairly generic is usually safe, like calling her a filthy little slut, a cumdump or a set of holes. Some subs enjoy the use of explicit language, others would hate it. Personal insults about her character traits or appearance however could be damaging. There are people who can play happily with that stuff but it's certainly not what you want to be starting out with. It takes a special kind of emotional masochist to want to be called a fat, ugly, useless bitch, while you watch 'hot girls' on pornhub and permit her the 'honour' of worshipping your cock while you do so. M'kay?

Some submissive types also enjoy being reluctant, so they can be 'forced' to do things like suck and fuck, thereby abdicating any responsibility or guilt for doing things that nice girls shouldn't want to. That's a huge grey area though and one where a lot of wires can get crossed.

You should also agree a 'safeword.' This is a word unrelated to sex. 'Red' is a popular one. That way she can pretend to be reluctant without you getting confused about what she's actually consenting to. If something goes past her tolerances as regards pain, control, humiliation or whatever, she can say 'red' and stop the scene. You should also consider a signal, like tapping or pinching you perhaps, that she can use when her mouth is... busy.

Try looking at a checklist like this with her. This will give you a good idea of what she'd like to try and what will remain off limits. You can also use it to have a think about how dominant you're capable of being and what kinks (if any) you just don't feel comfortable trying with her.

As SW says, there's a whole forum dedicated to BDSM. It also has a great 'sticky' thread at the top of the BDSM Talk forum called 'The BDSM Library.' You'll find links there to lots of different thread discussions and other resources about various kinky topics. Obviously if something hasn't been covered or you still have questions, feel free to start a discussion thread there. Your question here is pretty vague though. You'll find that the more info and detail you can offer, the more relevant and insightful the replies will be. This is an anonymous forum after all.

Good luck.