Dom husband & Sub wife

[hotniraq]

What is it like to be a Dom husband and have a Sub wife?

What does she expect from you and what do you expect from her?

Looking into getting into this and want to know what to expect and how to act and what goes on.

 

[Quint]

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[hotniraq]

We're us. There aren't any expectations but respect.

Seriously, it's whatever you make of it. I don't wake up every morning and suck him off before making him a 3-course breakfast and sending him off to work, because it doesn't fit in our lifestyle, but it could work for the next Joe Dom and Jane Sluttysuckysub. The only constant is that whatever we decide together will enhance our intimacy, excitement, and growth, we try to incorporate. Much like any other good marriage, I'd say.

sounds good, if youhave any more info you can pass my way that would be great. i don't want no slave who will bring me my slippers and sit by my feet. curious if there are any rules or expectations in the bedroom.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[hotniraq]

The "rules and expectations in the bedroom" are what the couple decide they are. There are a zillion different ways to make BDSM a part of your Life- y'all just need to decide which one (or more) of those ways works for your relationship.

I'm adding a few links to receint threads on the subject, as well as the Library, which you might find useful.


24/7 Link

Typical Day Link

Library

thx a lot

 

[Marquis]

We're us. There aren't any expectations but respect.

Seriously, it's whatever you make of it. I don't wake up every morning and suck him off before making him a 3-course breakfast and sending him off to work, because it doesn't fit in our lifestyle, but it could work for the next Joe Dom and Jane Sluttysuckysub. The only constant is that whatever we decide together will enhance our intimacy, excitement, and growth, we try to incorporate. Much like any other good marriage, I'd say.

You make breakfast first?

Actually, that seems more efficient anyway, as he could eat it while you suck him off.

 

[Chicklet]

You make breakfast first?

Actually, that seems more efficient anyway, as he could eat it while you suck him off.

unless you distracted him while he was trying to concentrate on his paper, then you might get whacked with it or something.

hmm...

 

[Quint]

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[Marquis]

I'm usually awake by 5am due to recent work-related neuroses. We alternate days of being the one to take the puppy outside, giving the other the chance to catch a few extra minutes of relaxation if not sleep. On good days, we snuggle awhile before separating to get ready for work. On great days, we have nice rowdy morning sex.

Average married morning.

Our personal rules of etiquette have been there for years before we got married. I don't eat or drink before he does, I ask permission to use the restroom, and I treat him with respect. If he wants to have sex with me, he has sex with me. If he has had a bad day, I listen and do whatever I can to relieve his tension. There is so little blatant kink in our routines (perhaps except the "permission to pee" clause) but that's exactly what works for us and I never forget who and what he is to me, and I to him. Sorry, nothing lurid here, folks.

That was really sweet.

I hear a lot of this "ask permission to use the restroom" business. How did this get started in your relationship?

I used to find it most strange, but I could say that about almost anything now routine to me. I'm considering incorporating this into my own relationship.

 

[hotniraq]

You make breakfast first?

Actually, that seems more efficient anyway, as he could eat it while you suck him off.

i like that idea

 

[Quint]

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[Marquis]

The only problem with rules and rituals for me is that it's hard to keep the thrill alive past the first few times.

Yeah, totally.

 

[PatPowers]

We're us. There aren't any expectations but respect.

Seriously, it's whatever you make of it. I don't wake up every morning and suck him off before making him a 3-course breakfast and sending him off to work ...

Oh, NOOOOOOooooooooOOOooo! There go all my illusions about kinky marriages!

Please tell me the part about the sub wife doing the nude erotic belly dancing every night while the husband drinks beer and eats barbecued ribs and says, "It's GOOD to be the dom!" is still true!!!