Doesn't achieve anything

[Trinny]

Hi all
Well my real problem is that I can't seem to orgasm in foreplay (i.e, fingering and clit stimulation). But the strange thing is, I get a feeling that builds up and up and as I'll orgasm soon, but that time just never comes. It just feels as if all this built up feeling and pressure...well... it just stays there and the only way to get it to stop is to get my partner to stop what he's doing.

It's strange really, because I can reach an O with a rabbit and sexual intercourse, but not during foreplay no matter how long we do it for.

My question is basically, should I just stick with the feeling and see if anything happens?

Thanks for any replys

 

[M's girl]

Can you bring yourself to orgasm with your fingers/manual?

Welcome to Lit, by the way!

 

[Trinny]

Can you bring yourself to orgasm with your fingers/manual?

Welcome to Lit, by the way!

No I've never successfully brought myself to orgasm that way either.

And thank you for your welcome I've been reading through these forums for a little while and got the courage to sign up

 

[M's girl]

No I've never successfully brought myself to orgasm that way either.

And thank you for your welcome I've been reading through these forums for a little while and got the courage to sign up

Glad you did! I think you will like it here. If you want to you can introduce yourself "properly" here , but you don't have to...

Well, coming back to your question.... it sounds to me like you can orgasm vaginal, but not clitoral, which is (I think) rare. But that does not mean it's abnormal. If you check out The Blank Manual , especially post #2 and #3 you will find a lot of threads on women and orgasms and such.

For me it's the other way around. I NEED clitoral stimulation to be able to orgasm, but that doesn't happen every time either... I cannot orgasm from PIV sex alone... Maybe someone else who is the same as you will come in and explain things better?

 

[Trinny]

Well, coming back to your question.... it sounds to me like you can orgasm vaginal, but not clitoral, which is (I think) rare. But that does not mean it's abnormal. If you check out The Blank Manual , especially post #2 and #3 you will find a lot of threads on women and orgasms and such.

For me it's the other way around. I NEED clitoral stimulation to be able to orgasm, but that doesn't happen every time either... I cannot orgasm from PIV sex alone... Maybe someone else who is the same as you will come in and explain things better?

Hm... a tiny feature I missed out in my post there sorry! Every time I have had sex with my partner he has used clitoral stimulation on me which always works every time.
So basically anything that's inside of me and something paying attention to my clit is good and works but I'm not sure why it doesn't work during foreplay? It's the same...urm... areas recieving the same 'treatment'...

And thanks again M's Girl, I had a quick scan through that threat and it looks really helpful! I'll be sure to check it out more when I get time

 

[sunandshadow]

I don't really see why it's necessary to separate foreplay from intercourse - when you want to cum, just switch to what works to make you cum. But if you particularly want to come without him penetrating you, I would ask - is he doing g-spot stimulation during the fingering? What about nipples, kissing, him going down on you... that all is a part of foreplay too.

 

[M's girl]

I don't really see why it's necessary to separate foreplay from intercourse - when you want to cum, just switch to what works to make you cum. But if you particularly want to come without him penetrating you, I would ask - is he doing g-spot stimulation during the fingering? What about nipples, kissing, him going down on you... that all is a part of foreplay too.

Foreplay, oral, sex, intercourse..... it's all sex to me. Okay, foreplay I can sort of define into the first moves leading up to sex. It's probably the kissing and touching and undressing but after that....?

I always think it's strange people want to seperate the rest. Which sort of indicates you would not have had real sex unless there was PIV? That's bullshit. M and I have sex (yes) plenty times when we do not get to the intercourse part, and it's not even like it's a quicky. We just like to vary our lovemaking. We never think we did not get to the sex part... that would be weird. So? What do we have half of the time? Only foreplay-sessions and no sex? Not as far as we are concerned.

I think there is really nothing wrong with you (not that you wondered). Just have your orgasm anyway you like it. If reaching orgasm through PIV would have been the norm, for instance, then I would have been absolutely abnormal....