Does your spouse know?

[vr2020]

So, I think that the majority of posters here are married and clearly some post as a couple and others are part of a couple that each post independantly. Most though, seem to just be one half of a couple, which brings my question:

Does your spouse know you post here? Does he/she know you look at pictures of other naked people? How about if you post pictures of yourself?

As for me, I'm married to a wonderful woman but if she knew I came here to look at other women she would castrate me on the way to the divorce lawyer. Has that stopped me, no. Do I feel bad, sometimes. Does it keep me from posting myself? Sometimes.

So what about all of you? What's your situation?

 

[sexy_adrienne]

Urrr NO! he doesn't have any idea!

So, I think that the majority of posters here are married and clearly some post as a couple and others are part of a couple that each post independantly. Most though, seem to just be one half of a couple, which brings my question:

Does your spouse know you post here? Does he/she know you look at pictures of other naked people? How about if you post pictures of yourself?

As for me, I'm married to a wonderful woman but if she knew I came here to look at other women she would castrate me on the way to the divorce lawyer. Has that stopped me, no. Do I feel bad, sometimes. Does it keep me from posting myself? Sometimes.

So what about all of you? What's your situation?

I'm with you... in reverse!
If he knew he would...well he can't castrate me... but he would certainly take me to the lawyer man..lol
And as to your other comments re feeling bad etc.. it could be me talking there..
Adrienne

 

[christophe]

the mrs knows she used to post here at one time! she is very liberated....lucky me!

 

[mattdchef]

no deffinatly not...not sure what she'd think or do or say...hmmmm hope i dont get caught

 

[Soloman205]

no deffinatly not...not sure what she'd think or do or say...hmmmm hope i dont get caught

I'm with you matt, she doesn't know. I try not to let Lit. interfer with the relationship that we have. But the hot talk here fills some needs that I don't get in "real time"

 

[bluebell]

Question for you all

I have a question for people on this thread (on top of vr2020's question):
Why is it so hard to be fulfilled in relationships? For both men and women? Sexually and otherwise as well?

It's a curious thing. So many people needing to find another outlet. But maybe it isn't curious at all. We are sociable creatures, after all (well, most of the time). So it stands to reason that even though we could have that one mainstay person in our lives, there are other people who can help out in other ways. Ways that might not be so easily fulfilled from just one person.

Hmm. I think I just answered my own question.

 

[vr2020]

I'm with you... in reverse!
If he knew he would...well he can't castrate me... but he would certainly take me to the lawyer man..lol
And as to your other comments re feeling bad etc.. it could be me talking there..
Adrienne

I'm glad i'm not the only one that feels this way. To me it is entirely possible to me in a good relationship and still well, like and need lit

 

[vr2020]

I have a question for people on this thread (on top of vr2020's question):
Why is it so hard to be fulfilled in relationships? For both men and women? Sexually and otherwise as well?

It's a curious thing. So many people needing to find another outlet. But maybe it isn't curious at all. We are sociable creatures, after all (well, most of the time). So it stands to reason that even though we could have that one mainstay person in our lives, there are other people who can help out in other ways. Ways that might not be so easily fulfilled from just one person.

Hmm. I think I just answered my own question.

Hehe, yea, I think you did. I agree about the social animal part, I crave attention from people and sometimes don't get enough at home. I think that's a part of it for me.

 

[mattdchef]

I'm with you matt, she doesn't know. I try not to let Lit. interfer with the relationship that we have. But the hot talk here fills some needs that I don't get in "real time"

you are exactly right...and also to that i would add that i have met some incredible people here. true friendships have been formed

 

[cockslave]

my husband knows i post to the srp boards and looking at the pics of others. But not sure if he'd understand about the posting of pics. they are part of my therapy to get over years of bullying and camera phobia.

our sex drives are so different as are our atitudes to sex.....mine is try anything once and if i like it keep going back for more. his are more conservative.......sticking to what he's done in past.

lit forms the ideal way for me to vent the pent up sexual energy i have while not 'forcing' hubby ,for lack of another way to put it, to do things he feels uncomfortable with.

 

[MichelAngel0]

My situation is exactly as yours. My wife would also think that I am very deranged... In her defense though, the schools she attended were run by catholic nuns.

 

[cockslave]

My situation is exactly as yours. My wife would also think that I am very deranged... In her defense though, the schools she attended were run by catholic nuns.

my husband doesn't have that excuse... but he had only had one partner before me..... i had had a few more than that. whereas mine had been adventurous his had been a virgin like he had been. was just reluctant to try new things after it.

 

[Sweetone70]

Mine knows...he used to have a thread here too, and he still posts on occasion...in fact it was his idea that I join...so lucky me too

 

[benDlion]

my wife knows but thats just because she caught me.

 

[Sassyfrass]

I'm in the same boat as you vr2020....

 

[werdsmith]

no, I prefer to keep life drama free.

 

[vr2020]

I'm in the same boat as you vr2020....

hehe, it seems to be a crowded (yet very fun) boat

 

[Mr_Mrs_Angel]

Well I used to visit these types of places alone, but never posted pictures just read the stories and happily hid away in the shadows.

However I found out earlier this year my wife was doing similar stuff but also taking it that little bit further, by chatting direct with other people as well!!

After the initial shock and "the how dare she" feelings I got very turned on by it all and it made me realise just how open minded my wife really is and after being together for all these years, what we had been missing.

now as you can see we both post pictures and it has changed our sex life for the better, and its was damn fine to begin with!!

So glad I found out what she was doing as I didn't understand how erotic the interacting side of all this is!

That said, we have yet to find another forum/site with so few idiots on it. this is a special place for us both now!

 

[vr2020]

That said, we have yet to find another forum/site with so few idiots on it. this is a special place for us both now!

I agree completly, most boards are just plain annoying.

 

[Cyinamorata]

our sex drives are so different as are our atitudes to sex.....mine is try anything once and if i like it keep going back for more. his are more conservative.......sticking to what he's done in past.

lit forms the ideal way for me to vent the pent up sexual energy i have while not 'forcing' hubby ,for lack of another way to put it, to do things he feels uncomfortable with.

Exactly what i'm going through, but hubby has no idea though, and isn't sexual explotative. And I have found ALOT of new things that I would love to try, but things hubby certainly would not.

 

[bowtie4u]

We all have our little secrets....I think Lit is a good place to come read threads...look at pics and meet people and maybe have some fun....seems we all don't have the same "Sex drives" ...damn mine is in "overdrive" lol

 

[elizabeth22673]

my husband knows i spend time here. knows i post pics. knows i'm a huge flirt. doesn't check up on me (that i know of). which is kind of good and bad if you think about it.

next...

 

[KinkyFLBoi]

My wife dosn't specificly know that I post and look here, but I'm pretty sure she has an Idea that I surf sex related, because she knows I did before we got married. I'm pretty sure she has a "don't ask, don't tell" policy, as long as she's being kept happy, she's not worried about what I do on the internet. She trusts me to not cross any lines... as someone said before that may be good or bad.

 

[angelkitty7888]

My SO is very protective of me (since i had a guy i used to email online and one day he emailed me a love poem and i tried to let him down gently but he didn't take the hint so she basically reamed him out for not leaving me alone lol) She knows i'm part of this forum but she also knows i am a major pervert so she isn't overly worried and while i don't think she checks up on me she does want me to be very careful about what's around me and what goes on (she's also worried about the "i chatted and got killed in a ditch!" stuff)

 

[Sassyfrass]

hehe, it seems to be a crowded (yet very fun) boat

That it is......