Does your SO support your writing?

[OhMissScarlett]

Does anyone out there have a significant other who wholeheartedly supports their writing? I certainly don't. Many times when dinner hasn't been done on time, I've heard the following: "Are ya in there writin' that gay porno still? Where the hell is my dinner?".

Ok, that's sort of an exaggeration, but still, there's no support from my bf who couldn't care less about my creative pursuits. He just can't understand why I would want to do something that doesn't make any money. I feel the same way about golf.

That said, feel free to rant or dote about your SO's treatment and or opinion of your writing. I know there are a lot of couples who post here together, but perhaps just as many individuals' SO's have no idea they post on Lit and would be appalled. So, dish and tell me I'm not alone or tell me what I'm missing!

 

[Guest]

my SO encourages me to write, hell, she even edits it! yehaw!
howevah
before...in the dark ages of my life, when i was married...'dick' called me a "sicko-pervert"...

i suppose he was right... *grin*

 

[TheEarl]

My former Lady condoned my writing, but took no actual interest in it. I suppowe that's better than having someone who hated it, but she wouldn't read it unless I specifically wanted her to. Which kinda destroyed the point.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

My husband is terrific -

He knows about Lit and tells me he is very proud of my writing.

I always ask him to proofread final drafts. His approval is usually *ahem* quite evident!

(He's a great critic for my ego!)

 

[Belegon]

My situation is closer to the Earl's. She has recently admitted to some feelings of unease and even jealousy, but to her credit she was upfront about it and refuses to allow herself to ask me to stop.

I wish she did not feel that way but I admire her for not acting in a negative fashion...

 

[OhMissScarlett]

My situation is closer to the Earl's. She has recently admitted to some feelings of unease and even jealousy, but to her credit she was upfront about it and refuses to allow herself to ask me to stop.

I wish she did not feel that way but I admire her for not acting in a negative fashion...

See, that's a very mature attitude for her to have. I think my bf is jealous of the time I spend writing, but he doesn't understand that it's not a hobby for me. I've been writing since I was able and it's just what I do. Good or bad, it keeps me together. Some people go to therapy, I write.

I can identify with Earl's situation as well. I'd love to share what I write with my bf if he were interested. Luckily, I have several very good friends here who support me in all my endeavors.

 

[cantdog]

As my wife and I have grown older, we seem to have more "separate" friends, that is, friends who generally don't appear in common contexts. My circle of friends doesn't all support me in this endeavor, and I haven't burdened hers with it. Not everyone gets it, that's all.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

My GF knows I write, and knows I come to a site with a message board on a daily basis, but to say she knows that I write this style of writig, what I submit here, I mean, is false. She doesn't ask much about my writing, and I don't offer much. We don't live together, we're not engaged, and well, you you get the point. Our lives aren't wholly entwined, if at all, so I don't know that there's a lot of reason for her to show that interest.
Not what you wanted to know, but... that's how it is for us.

Q_C

 

[carsonshepherd]

He supports it, except he wishes I didn't spend so much time doing it. I'd never let him read anythingI wrote. Not that I'm ashamed of it - I'm proud of it - but it just isn't any of his business. It's personal.

Now my ex... he snooped into some of my notebooks, and I lost my trust in him. At least I trust my current SO; he doesn't care enough to snoop!

As for support, I have my lovely friends

 

[impressive]

My hubby doesn't know (and wouldn't "get it" if he did). However, my bestest friend is very, very supportive -- regularly asking me for "bedtime stories."

 

[Guest]

how about this:

I SUPPORT YOU ALL.

please continue to write. i love it...what a sad world this would be without the ability to delve into each and everyone of your sick minds.

love
v~

 

[JRaven]

Once in awhile, Hubby will yell down the hall, "It's 2 in the morning. Don't you think you should get some sleep before you go to work in the morning?"

I have to password protect my stories until I'm done with them. THEN, hubby can read them! He does some editing, sometimes. If he whips it out and starts stroking, I know I've done well. He prefers to read them sitting sideways to the computer, me kneeling in front of him.

Jenny

 

[OhMissScarlett]

how about this:

I SUPPORT YOU ALL.

please continue to write. i love it...what a sad world this would be without the ability to delve into each and everyone of your sick minds.

love
v~

And we love you, V.

The great thing about the AH is that you could go to any number of authors and get good solid advice or help. Everyone I have encountered here has been awesome.

I used to think I had a problem because I could only write smut. Now I would think I had a problem if I couldn't write it.

 

[U4ea]

Well, I just posted my first one and I really was blushing clear to my roots, but the reviews were so good and I was hopping around, so it was kind of hard to explain why he's getting jumped three times on a Sunday without mentioning it. He wanted to see the reviews, because he's been telling me for years that I need to write more and try to get it published, so...the reviews were attached to the story and he read it.

I didn't think anything of it, he told me it was good and *grins* didn't wait too much longer than that to do some jumping of his own. I dropped it and didn't mention it to him again.

He called me the next day from work and had been bragging to a friend of his that is getting into 3D animation and stuff and wanted to read some of my stuff. When my story was posted here...my husband wanted to know if I minded him reading it. I was still blushing a bit, but I figured "Hey, I only have to look the guy in the eye at Christmas parties once a year, why not?" Well, not only did he read it and love it, but took the link home and showed his wife, too.

So, my husband totally supports me...and so does the guy he works with, his wife, all my online friends...*laughs* I can loan a few to ya if you need some...

 

[thebullet]

I never told my wife about my writing until I recently won some big-ass porn writer's award. I won three Golden Clitorides Awards for 2004, and I'm like, damn I'd kinda like to tell my wife about it but she's A) a women's libber and B) a major prude. I was afraid she might cut my balls off.

Still I gathered my courage and told her. First she laughed her ass off, and then she said, "I knew you were good at SOMETHING!"

 

[JRaven]

Well, I just posted my first one and I really was blushing clear to my roots, but the reviews were so good and I was hopping around, so it was kind of hard to explain why he's getting jumped three times on a Sunday without mentioning it. He wanted to see the reviews, because he's been telling me for years that I need to write more and try to get it published, so...the reviews were attached to the story and he read it.

I didn't think anything of it, he told me it was good and *grins* didn't wait too much longer than that to do some jumping of his own. I dropped it and didn't mention it to him again.

He called me the next day from work and had been bragging to a friend of his that is getting into 3D animation and stuff and wanted to read some of my stuff. When my story was posted here...my husband wanted to know if I minded him reading it. I was still blushing a bit, but I figured "Hey, I only have to look the guy in the eye at Christmas parties once a year, why not?" Well, not only did he read it and love it, but took the link home and showed his wife, too.

So, my husband totally supports me...and so does the guy he works with, his wife, all my online friends...*laughs* I can loan a few to ya if you need some...

Sounds like after this year's Christmas party, you might have some material for next year's Christmas story contest!

Jenny

 

[BlackShanglan]

As for support, I have my lovely friends

Love you all for that.

 

[Guest]

my SO encourages me to write, hell, she even edits it! yehaw!
howevah
before...in the dark ages of my life, when i was married...'dick' called me a "sicko-pervert"...

i suppose he was right... *grin*

He had a lot of nerve.

 

[SlickTony]

My husband's kind of proud that I write stuff, but he's not much of a reader, and there are so few people he can tell about it. He can log on to Lit and read the stories whenever he wants. Also, he wishes I'd find some place to send the stories that would send money back.

 

[SeaCat]

My S.O. not only supports my writing, but reads it and shares it with friends of hers. I generaly pump out two or three stories a month which are then read and commented on by this group. It is only the better ones which get posted here. (As for support she was looking at a newer laptop for me to do my writing on.)

Cat

 

[Kassiana]

Does anyone out there have a significant other who wholeheartedly supports their writing?

--Heck yeah. Mine's asked me to write stories for him before, both pornographic and otherwise, and encourages me to write because it makes me happy. I love my man.

 

[carsonshepherd]

... he wishes I'd find some place to send the stories that would send money back.

Yeah, mine too. It's a self-indulgent hobby to most people until you start making money.

 

[U4ea]

*laughs* Yeah, ditto. That's why my husband keeps showing people. Maybe if I get enough encouragement, I'll get off my butt and send this manuscript I have for a book in and stop being so chicken about it. LOL

 

[sweetnpetite]

My boyfriend showed me lit

He often says "Get off the internet and finish your story!"

I don't know if thats support or just nagging

 

[carsonshepherd]

He often says "Get off the internet and finish your story!"

I don't know if thats support or just nagging

I'd call that support! That's better than the nagging I get: "Get off the computer and <insert household chore>!"