Does your partner know?

No he doesn't. It would be good if he was on here too but I don't think it's for him. Unless he is and I just don't know...
 
Once I wrote an erotic short story for her. She let me know how perverse I am, not so much in a good way. So, yup ... This is a secret and one I don't feel guilty about having.
 
Yup we are both on here...I think I post more than her but I have no qualms or reason to hide what I say here I would say to her anyway...I'm not criticizing anyone how is on here without their SO, but I think transparency is best...
 
My husband has no idea that I am here. I think I don't mind if he is here though.
No idea how he will see it.
 
I have always kept my activities on literotica a secret from the women I have been in relationships with. I love that literotica is a place for me to explore my sexuality and whatever fantasies, current turn-ons, or sexual interests I might have at a particular time. I just haven't felt that women I have been in relationships with would understand this and that knowing I am on here would open a can of worms in regards to them judging me and or getting freaked out about some of my posts. That being said, with the right woman and relationship, I think it would be very interesting to share literotica with them.

I'll agree that it may take a special kind of woman to understand someof the stuff posted here, for that matter even accept that we are on such a site...I don't blame you for not telling a partner in the early stages of a relationship at all...but I have a hard time understanding "hiding" it from a more permenant partner...
 
Hubby and I share this log on nd we incorage play time... And BTW we met on Lit 7 years ago. Yes under other names
 
My wife has no idea, but I have wanted to tell her many, many times. I know she would not enjoy all my fantasies about her mom, so I would need to create a new account and then "stumble" on to this site and bring it up to her. I would love for her to be into this site, but it is unlikely. She is quite shy.

Lit is currently my only outlet for sexual fantasies and emotions. Between both of our stressful jobs, grad school and everything else, our sex life is disappointing to say the least. I travel for work but can't sext message my wife on my company cell phone, or cyber on my company laptop. Throw in my wife's anxiety following the unexpected death of 2 family members and body-confidence issues and here I am. It's been a long, slow slide since her sexual appetite peaked in college, and I am genuinely concerned for our long term happiness.

If I quit coming on Lit, I am way to horny to "be romantic" and basically turn my wife off with aggressiveness. If I am on Lit too much, I am definitely less interested in my wife. Double edged sword, and the net result of both is a feeling of disappointment.

I am really trying to make an effort this year to find some hobbies together and have fun as a couple. If we can laugh and have fun and experience life together, maybe it will have the same effect in the bedroom. If everything works out, hopefully she will join me on Lit and start exploring the "dirty" side I had seen many times in college. Sorry for this depressing post.
 
Ho doesn't know and it would not be ok with him. Part of the reason I'm here is because of that unwillingness to flex and expand experiences. I choose to do that individually to keep life erotic and interesting.

I'm jealous of those who can share their sensual sides with their partners. Enjoy! It doesn't happen that way for everyone.
 
She sure does

She is aware that I read stories here, and she will read the occasional story here also.
I like to forward her select stories to gage her reaction to new things, or scenarios.
If she likes something, we explore that further. If I get the "Ewwwww" response, I know to back off that area (most of the time).
Since our sex like is sizzling like crazy after 26 years, it's working for us.
 
Ho doesn't know and it would not be ok with him. Part of the reason I'm here is because of that unwillingness to flex and expand experiences. I choose to do that individually to keep life erotic and interesting.

I'm jealous of those who can share their sensual sides with their partners. Enjoy! It doesn't happen that way for everyone.

DITTO!
 
My husband knows im on this, i know he is on this but i don't know his username and vice versa,

i would be of the opinion that some privacy is required between a husband and wife and at least here he can talk about me/us/other women/fetish's without me knowing its him or following his posts. so it allows him more freedom to post than if he thought i was reading his every post and i too have the same privilege!

My other half has always known that I am on Lit but I never told him my username, essentially for this reason. There's been lots of things that, for whatever reason, I wasn't comfortable with him knowing straight off, I like exploring it in Lit first sometimes.

I told him my username fairly recently, because I've eventually told him about all the stuff that was a secret on Lit, and tbh I can't possibly think of any worse kinks to spring on the poor guy than I already have. He basically knows all now, so what the hell.
 
My wife doesn't know. If I had told her from the beginning it would have been OK, but at that time we weren't exactly sharing everything. Now, that ship has sailed.

In the past we have had accounts on the same site with full knowledge, and things were great for about a year or so, but then it all went downhill. She's not much of a reader, so I don't think she would really care much for what goes on here.
 
Ho doesn't know and it would not be ok with him. Part of the reason I'm here is because of that unwillingness to flex and expand experiences. I choose to do that individually to keep life erotic and interesting.

I'm jealous of those who can share their sensual sides with their partners. Enjoy! It doesn't happen that way for everyone.

You hit the nail on the head
 
My wife knows. There was a slight issue a while back, regarding the stories I was submitting, or rather the kind of responses they elicited, which she wasn't too thrilled about. Then I made a new account and started submitting in a completely different style, she still says she'd prefer it if I were writing non-erotic stuff but she's ok enough to help me edit my stories now.

When I had my old account I was pretty sure she'd made one too to keep an eye on me. I never raised the subject as it was just a suspicion based on a new user who favourited me and had a name which included a word my wife uses often. And suspicions voiced are borderline accusations, especially with spouses.
 
Wife doesn't know,...she would think it's perverted and twisted. She denies her feelings, emotions and desires with many things. She does know I view porn,...thinks it maintenance. That way she doesn't have to do much except 2-3 times a year!
Lol,...I come here to feel better!,...lol,..now I'm all bummed!
 
Wife doesn't know,...she would think it's perverted and twisted. She denies her feelings, emotions and desires with many things. She does know I view porn,...thinks it maintenance. That way she doesn't have to do much except 2-3 times a year!
Lol,...I come here to feel better!,...lol,..now I'm all bummed!

Sorry but 2-3 time a year? SHOOT ME NOW...
 
My husband knows, and we discuss somethings. He knows I'm not on here to find partners or for cyber sex so he doesn't really care. I think he might actually like the results :)
 
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