Does your family know?

[Xelebes]

Most don't know. Only my younger sister and older brother kinda know.

 

[INSIDEYOURMIND]

Both of my parents have passed on, there was not a word for it but I knew it was the dynamic of their relationship. There was no doubt in my mind that my father was the Master of his home.

It is also well documented that in my faith (Judiasm) the women take on a sub-servient role in their families. I could tell my father anything, and it was a luxury I have missed terribly. In his teachings to me, it started my foundation is M/s.

My little girl's mom was made aware by a family member looking to start trouble, Unfortuantely for the trouble maker, my mother in law made the verdict after seeing our dynamic, and feeling the love that flows from us. She accepts it, and regularly asks honest questions about it.

Her father is aware, but lives almost 2,000 miles away, it is a non issue with him. A majoroty of our friends are aware, they don't know details, and they have no reason to ask,

 

[Bandit58]

No my family has no idea, they all live in New Zealand anyway. Everything is on a need to know basis, and they don't need to know!

All Master's friends know though - we're known as the DV8 couple

 

[chris9]

It's bedroom only for me, so, no, they don't know. I don't want to know what my parents do when allone, and I figure they don't want to know what I do either.
I might tell my sister when it's time to have some sex talk with her.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm pretty sure this has been done before, or maybe not. However, I was just curious, Does your family know about your choice of lifestyle?

I come from a very strict religious upbringing, and no my family does not know about my lifestyle. I feel that they would not be supportive at all, knowing how they are and all that.

So anyone care to share?

edited for spelling.......sheesh....lol.

Some of my family knows. Because of my seperation from my husband, I live with my mom, so it's kind of hard to keep it from her. I wouldn't say she's suportive, more tolerant. And a cousin of mine knows, simply because he spends so much time with me. I think that's it, but I don't really make too much of an effort to hide it. I do realize that there are certain places I shouldn't wear my collar and such. Like I do wear it to work, but only if I'm working nights and won't have to deal with a lot of customers. And I probably wouldn't wear it to one of my mom's family chruch functions. Though I would wear it to a family funtion, just not the tag (I really don't need to hear from my aunt why I shouldn't let anyone call me "slut") I don't know if I'm really open about it or just don't care. Probably more the latter at this point. After 20 years of worring about what other people think about me, I could really care less at this point. With a few exceptions of course. Okay, enough bable from me.

 

[BamaBelle]

Who Knows??

Back two or three years ago, my sister and my mother read my stories that are posted here on lit.(several of my stories have a BDSM theme). Not much was said afterwards, except. "do they pay you?"

My sister sells adult novelties, so i prety much assume she has some ideas, b/c Pumpkin and i are "patrons" of her business.

My step father thinks of bdsm as those crazy kinky people down the street that have motorcycle parties all the time.

As for Pumpkins side of the family, His mom is typical clueless urbanite. His father, well, ive found cookies to the Lit site on his puter. I dont know if he realizes Bamabelle is his daughterinlaw. Although he probably wouldnt give a hoot since he and Pumpkin often switch porn movies that they buy.

 

[Sybarist]

My family has no idea...

Of course for me it's still mostly about sex too, so it's more of a privacy thing? It's not like I want to hear about their sex lives either *barf*

I have one sister that I have always been very close to and we discussed sex all through our growing up. Her and I share a very open-minded attitude about sex so if I ever tell anyone, it would be her... We haven't spent much time alone together in the last few years and are slowly growing apart, but I know she'd be there for me if I needed her to be, and wouldn't judge me!

As for the rest of my sisters, the other day I found my "spanking" brush. (I use it for hair too, and the baby had lost it under the sofa somehow.. LOL! )Anyway, I was on the phone to one of my other sisters and said "Goody, I can show it to R. tonite when he gets home and I'll be rosy red for some bedtime fun" There was some awkward silence, and I heard her say;

"Oh don't joke like that, it makes me sick just thinking about it!!"

Okaaaaay.....

Syb.

 

[marieR19]

They know about the gayness. They don't know about the submissiveness. Wellllll...... lol Kinda sorta not really to the submissiveness. My mom has read a few of my stories I wrote when I was younger (without my permission), stories with no true bdsm but definate submissive undertones, ie blackmail and bribery and someone being the servant, etc. So I have a feeling she kinda knows to some extent, but definately not the whole of it.

Heather

 

[Red Sonja]

Good heavens, no. It's none of their business what my hubby and I do in the privacy of our own home. They know that I am very considerate of him, and do stuff for him and they might think he is a bit controlling, but ... hey, that's all the 411 they need.

 

[cati]

My parents don't know. My Mom wonders why I cater to my hubby so much.
My sister knows and ribs me about it constantly.
My two sons know... the eldest (the conservative, who tries to be so "normal") thinks it's discusting. The youngest (liberal minded that he is) accepts it, just worries about my safety.
We try to keep things as private as we possibly can tho'. After 6 years the whole BDSM thing has become kind of a non-issue with my family.

 

[Zaudika]

One of my sisters does. She doesn't understand it, but accepts it and generally doesn't bring it up except for once in awhile to ask questions of curiousity.

My mother, brother, and other sister have no clue.

 

[Joe Schmoe]

Mine don't. If they did it would just confrim that I am indeed the black sheep of the family.

 

[Bandit58]

Mine don't. If they did it would just confrim that I am indeed the black sheep of the family.

*grins* I had that as my title for a while - being that I'm originally from New Zealand where there are over 10 sheep for every one human Plus the fact that I'm the only one in my generation of cousins who is divorced. According to my mother she wonders why I left "a good man" (immature bullying ass I say )

Since then I've gotten tattooed, pierced and moved to Australia. Oh dear living with an Australian! That was my daughter's reaction when I told her. "But, he's Australian!" Just imagine if they knew about the floggers, crops and restraints. Or that I'm bisexual. Oh no, all that is staying firmly locked in the closet as far as my family's concerned

 

[chris9]

Oh dear living with an Australian! That was my daughter's reaction when I told her. "But, he's Australian!" Just imagine if they knew about the floggers, crops and restraints. Or that I'm bisexual.

What else would you expect of an Australian?

 

[Kierae]

Does your family know about your choice of lifestyle?

I have never hidden my choices really. For example I have always been bisexual (skirt chaser since a wee one) and fairly active in the GLBT community so my mother was aware, my father was/is oblivious, and my children know. Regarding the BDSM scene, I have never flaunted it or discussed it but I don't hide it either. If they ask, I would discuss it. I know that several years ago the kids (aka teens back then) found the toy box (something irresistible about a locked trunk no doubt). At the time they just wrote it off to mom being kinked - which is true!

Recently though our lifestyle has become more evident. My son had came into my room looking for the dog's ball and went looking under the bed to see the restraints perma-attached to the 4 posts. He didn't utter a word and went about his business. A couple months prior to that he was chatting with me about something and spotted an ornate walking stick that was a birthday present to my husband. Of course he picked it up and figured out quickly that it opened up which of course he did and revealed the cane. He looked at me and just chuckled and put it back. No doubt the first time in my life I have blushed in front of him.

This summer I had some tattoo work done - kanji that runs down my inner arms (left arm has my husband's name and slave ownership symbol, right arm has fighting spirit, passion, and pain). Friends and kids know what it says but haven't done the holiday dinner thing yet so my father and that end of the family hasn't seen it. I have a month to get everyone on the same story of what it reads (without rolling eyes/evil smirks, etc) since long sleeves don't quite cover them. I figure the preppy side of the family will just write it off as just another deviate action from the freakshow side of the family, aka my side of the gang. We like to keep the conservative side on their toes while all sitting at the dinner table - gives them something to talk about all year.

 

[Shauntanis]

Are you kidding???

Like my Angel already said. No my Family doesn't know. And what they don't know wont hurt me. I'm already a bit of an out cast cause I joined the Navy and moved away from there control. My sister likes to think that she can run my life. Then I got married and didn't ask anybody back home if it was ok. Like I need permission or some thing. But I think that if they were to find this out then I would be forever cast into the void. ........... wait maybe that isn't a bad thing.

 

[Private_Label]

I don't have a relationship of any sort with my Father currently,m so he doesn't know, nor will he ever be hearing about it from me or anyone I am acquainted with.

Mom, well... Mom tried to raise us with an open mind, but when it came up (on-line relationship that she accidently walked in on me naked one night) and when She knew I was buying vibrators... well, her mind isn't as open as she tried to portray herself as over they years. I will not be talking about this openly with her unless she asks first.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Bump

 

[A Desert Rose]

It's funny that I never posted to this thread in it's infancy.

My kids are both college students and they aren't dumb. They know their mom is kinky... they just don't know HOW kinky she is. ;-)

My parents don't live close enough to me for it to be an issue.

 

[Kajira Callista]

It's funny that I never posted to this thread in it's infancy.

My kids are both college students and they aren't dumb. They know their mom is kinky... they just don't know HOW kinky she is. ;-)

My parents don't live close enough to me for it to be an issue.

do they know? hmmm that im different maybe even kinda kinky yes, but they leave it at that and dont ask so i dont tell.