Does this seem uncerstandable?...
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FungiUg
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Hmmm. I'd say it was definately an influence, but probably not the only factore. There's normally a combination of things that all come together. Although yes, there can be one critical thing that "pushes you over the edge." But with all of the other factors there, that critical thing can come at any time.
People are a complicated munge of things -- generally something simple you can point to and say "that's why" is, while attractive, wrong.
People are a complicated munge of things -- generally something simple you can point to and say "that's why" is, while attractive, wrong.
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Sounds like there are elements of incest too.
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I got a PM from janettt5 that told me there was misunderstanding about this post. Apparently some clarification is in order.
I didn't mean that incest took place. But if someone associates their mother wielding a belt with whips and BDSM, then there is an element of incest because they are seeing their mother as a dominating figure.
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I got a PM from janettt5 that told me there was misunderstanding about this post. Apparently some clarification is in order.
I didn't mean that incest took place. But if someone associates their mother wielding a belt with whips and BDSM, then there is an element of incest because they are seeing their mother as a dominating figure.
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catalina_francisco
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Etoile said:
I think the connection is far too loose to associate it with incest. Wondering what factors from your past may have influenced your interest in BDSM IMHO does not make it incest anymore than I'm sure you would feel your having a 'Daddy' does. I myself, had a very dominating mother, but would not think that realisation and my lifestyle choice makes my acknowledgement of her dominance and element of incest. My thoughts only, but I cannot see the distinction myself.
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FungiUg
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It's one of those things I am very doubtful of... that's there's one thing in our pasts that make us the way we are.
It's like the old thing about "what made me gay." When my ex came out to her parents, they went through that classic thing of wondering if it was something they had done to "make her gay".
Human sexuality is just sooo complicated that there's usually more than one contributing factor to these things. So being able to point at one thing and say "that's wot dunnit" is usually wrong.
That's not to say we don't have memorable contributing events in our lives. For example, I know that part of the reason I like threesomes is that when I was around 12, I found a Penthouse with a pictorial of two women together, and ever since then, I've loved the idea of watching women making love. But that's not the ONLY reason I enjoy that!
It's like the old thing about "what made me gay." When my ex came out to her parents, they went through that classic thing of wondering if it was something they had done to "make her gay".
Human sexuality is just sooo complicated that there's usually more than one contributing factor to these things. So being able to point at one thing and say "that's wot dunnit" is usually wrong.
That's not to say we don't have memorable contributing events in our lives. For example, I know that part of the reason I like threesomes is that when I was around 12, I found a Penthouse with a pictorial of two women together, and ever since then, I've loved the idea of watching women making love. But that's not the ONLY reason I enjoy that!
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FungiUg said:
I think our experiences make us who were are almost entirely. I just don't think it's a direct line the way most conclude. There are some influences on a child's life who is to say which was the one that made them afraid of clowns.
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anything is possible, I have learned a few things in the lifestyle, but none more than this, never say never, fore tomorrow is a new day.
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catalina_francisco said:
Wholeheartedly agrees. A dominating parental figure does not automatically equate to incest nor should it. Even if the belt wielding/cane carrying parent had some influence on the person seeking a BDSM lifestyle, it does not mean the person in question is seeking satisfaction of some long repressed sexual feelings towards their dominating parent.
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