Does Size matter?

[DevilishTexan]

8x6 is the purrrrrfect size lol











Um, somebody told me that

 

[Golden]

Okay, seriously.

My dick is just short of 9 inches long (20 cm for those of you lesser inclined to non-metric)

Well, 20cm is 8 inches not 9 ... Guess you'd better get the facts straight first!

 

[michie]

Big dicks to look at are magnificant. My boyfriend has some porn, and I can admit that the guys with the very big dicks make me horny. But when it comes to fucking I think it is a different story. I have only had sex with one noticibly bigger than average man. I liked touching it, and doing oral to it. But when he stuck it in me it really hurt. It was not even as big as the ones in the movies. Watching makes me think those girls are earning their money. That said too small is not good either. My BF is a nice size, but I can admit sometimes I wish it was a bit bigger and a bit thicker. Maybe 7" would be the perfect size, which I am sure is above average, but any bigger than that and the way it hurts is not good. However, being with an average sized lover as I am, I am happy with that. But I think many women do agree that not much looks better than a really big dick, but maybe it is just me.

 

[The_Darkness]

My dick is just short of 9 inches long (20 cm for those of you lesser inclined to non-metric)

Well, 20cm is 8 inches not 9 ... Guess you'd better get the facts straight first!

Looks to be that I'm one of those lesser inclined to metric myself. D'oh.

And I've heard from lots of other folks that about 8 inches long and just what the lady can get her hand around is perfect.

Unless she's all stretched out or just naturally big down there....but that's a different story.

 

[OregonGal]

Re: I can Stear this discution

Well lets see if I can put this into words, i've been married for 23 yrs. and have four children. I've figured out why tigers eat their young, but that another story. Anyway medical sience states that the females vagina goes back to the size it was before she got pregnant . Wrong! because I used to fit just nice, before the kids. Note: don't tell the doctor to put in a extra stitch for you, because I think he charged me dubble for that little statment...lol. But now (to be nice) it don't fit that well anymore. So to componsate for this, and have us both benifit from the experience, I go heavy on the forplay. That get us both worked up, because I'm real good at it. I can make her cum several different times before I put it in her,Then I'll get my self off by doing some different positions after missionary. doggy style it's nice, because i can rub on her clit, that get us both off. But if I want more for my self, I lay her on her side, and strattel her leg, put it in then press down on her ass, I can feel her that way and get off. But if that isn't working, I'll take the tight hole, ( Back Door, Brown Dot) you get the point, If she is up to it...lol. Alot of time she will, because she is so worked up, she don't care were I put it. Hope this gives some insite.
Doc L.

Actually it does go back to the same size IF (1) there was no damage to the muscles during the birthing process and (2) the proper exercises are done to tone the muscles back up.
Just with any stretched (strained) muscles they must be re-toned after the strain happens. There are exercises, the most common is called a kegal. It tightens up the pelvic floor muscles and in turn the vaginal wall muscles. Of course if there is damage to the muscles or flesh, there will be scar tissue and so the ensuing pain that would be associated with toning up the muscles just might not be worth it.


I have had 2 children and am actually tighter and more in control of the 'important' muscles since my children because it was during my first pregnancy that I learned about kegals. With the control of the muscles it has made intercourse more pleasurable and has allowed my to share the pleasure by 'flexing' my muscles at just the right time (as in just before they take over and spasm in pleasure on their own) and have had noticeably improved experiences from using the knowledge.

 

[Doclube]

Wow

Wow I thought that this was long closed...lol. I haven't recieved any new post alerts in two months or more. OregonGal, it is a matter of lack of exercises in that area, I watched all 4 being born...it was something to see!!!!. But anyway there was no phyical damage durring anyone of them. I've learned to adapt to the difference. Who says you can't teach a old dog new tricks...lol. It just make love making more interesting. It's never boring....Guess that all the counts.

 

[hnglkeahrse2002]

Hmmm ...

My best friend's wife has a saying: More than a mouthful is impressive.

 

[Vynyl]

I've recently come to question this also. My husband is a great size for me....actually sometimes he's a little too long. He's average width...a little over two inches around. I've always been pretty hard to get off with penetration. I do good to get off during intercourse once or twice a month.

Until recently, my husband was the biggest I'd ever been with. We went to a swingers club that we've gone to several times and I had sex with a man whos cock was, at least, double the thickness of my husbands and close to the same length.

Within 30 minutes of just penetration, he made me cum 3 times. I've never cum that many times unless oral was involved.

Now, I absolutely LOVE sex with my husband...and I'm always thoroughly satisfied with him. But, I guess with me, a thicker cock is a bit more stimulating. :shrugs:

 

[FinePhilly]

Size only matters when it's an extreme case. I have seen a REALLY small man and I just couldn't get into it and finally just said "you know what...I don't think I'm really over my ex and I just can't do this so soon after my breakup". Yeah. I never saw him again.

But...on the converse side of that, the worse sex I ever had was with a HUNG guy...and it wasn't that he was too big or anything. It's just that I think he had it in his head that he could rely soley on his size to please women and in reality he had NO CLUE what he was doing and I was left thinking "That was it? He's finished already? Hey, what about me, asshole!?" Never saw him again either, but that's Ok because it was just a "revenge sex" for me anyway. He was my current boyfriend's best friend. Oops. Don't tell anyone! LOL! The boyfriend was a real cheat if that matters!

So anyway....other than that, I think it's all in technique. I'm happy with my just slightly above average man right now!

 

[The_Darkness]

So anyway....other than that, I think it's all in technique. I'm happy with my just slightly above average man right now!

Well then, on behalf of all of us slightly to impressively (though still not horse-like) guys out there....you're welcome.

And as for the other part of that post....you just need to find a guy who still adheres to "ladies first" (and second, and fifth).

 

[hnglkeahrse2002]

[quote}Well then, on behalf of all of us slightly to impressively (though still not horse-like) guys out there....you're welcome.

And the horse-like say "you're welcome" too. <eg>

 

[smoothdevil]

It's all a matter of personal taste. Everybody's different, and everybody likes different things. My best friend likes thin men. I like broad shouldered, bigger guys. Regardless of anything else, I simply would not be able to get physically turned on by her husband or any of her ex-boyfriends, and likewise for her with any of the guys I'm physically attracted to. It's just the way it is! Some guys like big tits, some guys like little tits, some guys don't care, as long as there are tits around! Some women like big dicks, some women like little dicks, and some women don't care what size the dick is, because it's the person on the end of the dick that is important for them. I prefer small-to-average dicks, but if I was in love or falling in love with someone, them admitting to me that their dick was enormous wouldn't matter.

Cakegirl

right on ... thank goodness we all like different things ... still always amazed by the superficiality of the big tits or dick syndrome ... as the old saying goes ... it ain't how long it is, it'show you make it long

 

[ozbloke1980]

This is all Bullshit in my view. Thing is I know I'm average in that department so if a woman tells me I'm too smalle she's either come across ones that should be registered or she's just telling lies.

How would a woman react If I told her I didn't want her cuz her boobs weren't big enough? She'd be pissed off and rightly so.

 

[~hellbaby~]

I think it matters more to a man than a chick and more so if it is not a 'tight fit'.It really has more to do with how ya use it,I'd rather have a smaller man who works it well than a larger one who just lays there or gets off and rolls over. It is easier to give good head to a a smaller one. The only thing that is a never do is use a dildo bigger than your guy,at least I have found they do not like that .

 

[4x4in]

I think it matters more to a man than a chick and more so if it is not a 'tight fit'.It really has more to do with how ya use it,I'd rather have a smaller man who works it well than a larger one who just lays there or gets off and rolls over. It is easier to give good head to a a smaller one. The only thing that is a never do is use a dildo bigger than your guy,at least I have found they do not like that .

I'm an/the exception to your "never" rule. My wife and I use dildo's much larger than I am all the time. It is one heck of a turn-on for me. BTW and now that I think about it, I haven't hear her complaining either

 

[cg1231]

How many inches is too small?

 

[The_Darkness]

How many inches is too small?

Well, I think it's been stated that as long as you can use what you have, it doesn't really matter what you've got. I have a friend who's pretty small in the size department, but he's just long enough to hit the right spots in his wife, and they just go to town on each other.

If you are small, don't let it go to your head...just get really really good at what you do...fingers, tongue, cock, etc and you will NEVER get a complaint....

The one bit of advice I can offer is that you be sure to get the girl heated up and ready to go before the pants hit the floor. There were kids in college that got laughed at and walked out on by their drunken slut of the evening because they're not so much in the size department....but if they're ready to go and you show you're competent....go for it!

 

[cg1231]

is 5 and half almost six too small, size can really depress a man

 

[~hellbaby~]

I'm an/the exception to your "never" rule. My wife and I use dildo's much larger than I am all the time. It is one heck of a turn-on for me. BTW and now that I think about it, I haven't hear her complaining either

Like I said that was just my experience,about 8 yrs. ago I was in a relationship w/a man and the sex was out of this world- long lasting and never boring even though it was mostly vanilla.BTW-he was on what you would say the ave.side about 6-6 1/2" One nite a new prop played in and I could see his dislike growing.(It was not anything grossly large,quite average but a little thicker than he was) it was kind of a dare to do it,I guess he didn't think I'd like it-lol. Well after that sex was very rare and more like a duty and we broke up shortly after,he said he could not stop thinking about that scene.

 

[nitecapt]

Well, consider this

How many times do we see personal ads that say something like
"couple seeking to add male partner with a small or medium cock"

I rest my case.

 

[cg1231]

was that a good thing or a bad thing?

 

[nitecapt]

consider this

The point is..you NEVER see that in an ad.

 

[~hellbaby~]

is 5 and half almost six too small, size can really depress a man

It's how you use it,when I was younger I new this guy who was REALLY small,I mean like tiny, but he got me off, he knew how to compensate for size in the way he wiggled.If you have self confidence and skill a girl(IMO) will not put too much importance on size as long as she is satisfied!

 

[~hellbaby~]

And rememder.Not every woman has double d's, how important is tit size to a man?? I'd like to be bigger in that area but what I have responds well and I'm not shy about my little b cups!!

 

[4x4in]

Would a pro-active thread not be better?

We aren't going to change what we have but we can always improve, especially with the type of help that the ladies of lit are giving us here.

One topic that I highly recommend to start a pro-active mind set would be "Try this and report back", IIRC. The results can be mind blowing and here cock size really doesn't matter.

What I haven't seen is a a thread for positions when your lover is "short and thin". I would emphasize "thin" because it has been shown many times that the major issue is thickness more than length. Has anyone seen a thread for compensatory position recommendations that improve sex for/by couples where one of the lovers has a small, thin penis? Someone want to start one?

4x4