Does Size Matter?

[Marilyth]

This isn't going to be what you think it is. But I'm utterly curious.

As a tall woman, there are times when I feel uncomfortable going out with guys who are significantly shorter than me. More than an inch or so can be really strange to me.

How do others of you feel?

What about guys? Have you ever dated a woman taller than you? How did it make you feel?

If you were uncomfortable with it (this is for everyone), how did you deal with it? How did you become more comfortable?

I don't know why I'm asking this. I guess just the thought of getting back into the swing of dating. Just to see if I'm really that shallow...

 

[tryingsumtinnew]

Ok i'm going to be serious for a moment. While I was in the Marines I did date a woman that was much taller than me. She was in the Navy and stood at 6'3. Now i'm on 5'9 and when we would go dancing she always wore at least 4" heels. Yes that means she was 6'7 and dwarfed my little ass. But it didn't matter, cause we were comfortable with it and even used it for humor. If he has problem with you being taller then he has the issues, not you. Sometimes she would even spin me on the dance floor (well if I tried to spin her I would clothesline myself). I say seek someone by what's inside and you won't go wrong.

 

[Freya]

I find as a big woman myself, that being with a smaller man makes me feel bigger than I already am. I'm 5'11" and close to 175 pounds....I find men taller and bigger than me to be more attractive. I find it hard to feel feminine at times being this size, and being with a man smaller than me accentuates that. Whereas a larger, taller man makes me feel small and more womanly. Tis a bit shallow I suppose but honest.

 

[Jewelz]

Well Im only 5'5" and most men are taller than me already. but I would feel very awkward with a man shorter than me simply because I am a BBW. and I am big enough and can do without the means to make me feel larger than life.

My husband is 6'1" and sometime I gotta stand on my tippies to kiss him LOL...but he is bigger than me (not weight wise) but i still dont feel as huge next to him compared to being with a smaller man.

*shrugs*...did i make any friggin sense?

 

[dickE]

Like the midget man that married the giant woman?....nose to nose, his toes was in it........toes to toes, his nose was in it )

{which might not work out too bad, after all}

 

[HotPepper]

Hey all...

Love is in the heart, and the person you are (and he is) makes it work or not. I love women of all sizes...because it is not the size of the woman, it is the size of her heart that makes the difference. Yes, there is always a physical attraction quotient, but in the end we all end up dead...the physical drains away. What is in your heart matters, and a woman is a wonderful, beautiful thing -- and person -- and must be respected at all times.



HP

 

[just pet]

I am only 5' tall but I like a tall man. Although I was attracted to my last b/f who was 5'4", I find that I feel very protected with a tall man. I prefer men over 6'. It was annoying to be referred to as the "cute little couple".

 

[AmatoriuS]

im 6' and i find petite women attractive , not because it damages my fragile male ego to be with a taller woman , but simply because thats what floats my boat , much like blonde or brunette , i like brunettes

but then again i wouldn't say no to anybody with a personality and great set of ...

no matter what the height of the girl

 

[Soron]

I find as a big woman myself, that being with a smaller man makes me feel bigger than I already am. I'm 5'11" and close to 175 pounds....I find men taller and bigger than me to be more attractive. I find it hard to feel feminine at times being this size, and being with a man smaller than me accentuates that. Whereas a larger, taller man makes me feel small and more womanly. Tis a bit shallow I suppose but honest.

geeze, now is the only time I can remember wishing I was about 6 inches taller.

I went with a girl in the 8th grade...she used to follow our band around wherever we played...we ended up going out for a year until her dad got transferred...she was 5-10 and I was 5-6...I don't remember it bothering her...it sure didn't bother me as I recall...we took each other's virginity

 

[Marilyth]

I can understand the love concept. But what if a guy asked you out who was shorter than you (for the women). Would you go? And guys, if a woman was taller than you, would you ask her out? If she said no, would you be pissed?

Just curious It's research

 

[AmatoriuS]

to be honest , i might be intimidated ... if i did and she knocked me back , i don't think i would be pissed , no more so than if anybody knocked me back

i guess thinking about it now , its never really crossed my mind untill i read this

 

[Freya]

Yeh sure I'd go out. I'd never discount someone for the sake of their height...it's just tall men are more my preference.

 

[airborne92]

I am 6'3", and I was attracted to a woman that was about 6'5" and I wasn't intimidated or anything. I would have liked to go out with her but I was in training in the Army at the time was going to be transferred soon after I met her. If I had and she said no it wouldn't bother me.

 

[scoperella]

issues

I'm a 5'9" female dating a 5'8" male. If we're both barefoot or in sneakers, it's not really a problem since we're about the same height. But I try to avoid wearing heels in public because it does make me feel a bit awkward. I think it all revolves around being a romantic at heart, and I want a tall, dark & handsome man to sweep me off my feet and protect me. Someone posted earlier that it's hard to feel feminine with a shorter man, and I'd agree. I love dressing up and wearing heels, but I'm extra self conscious then.

So ... an inch or two shorter I can live with ... much shorter than that I just feel awkward around the person. Of course, sometimes you fall for those you don't anticipate falling for
But to any 6'10" guys out there ... come give me a hug!

 

[Jonnyray]

I find hieght irrelevent. Ya I'm tall and haven't dated anyone taller than myself, but I've known a number of taller women whoo I would have if the timeing and/or chemistry was right.

 

[Tris tarack]

hi

at 6'1 215#, I have always been attracted to tall women.. however, I have never had the chance to date one.... I have spent many hours lusting after a couple I have known though... for some reason, the idea of dating a woman larger than I am has always been very erotic .. I have often wondered what it is like for those guys who are 5'9 165 who I have seen with much larger ladies...

better stop thinking about it..

or I will not stop all night

Tris

 

[GlovelySave]

Well if i wasnt so madley in love with my baby girl ladyofthemist, I woul make a big point out of the fact that I dont meet the hight requirments for two of the more lovely laides on lit. Im only 5'9"

 

[LadyOfTheMist]

That might be so my love, however.....

you do meet my height requirements, you can reach the cupboards! LOL I am 5'2" and so some things are definately out of my reach. I can honestly say that I have always dated males taller than I am, some by an inch and some by considerably more. I haven't ever discounted someone because of their height but I have wished some were taller.

I have however run up against another problem. At 5'2" I am 155, so I have what I lovingly refer to as "the build of a baby bull moose". And in the past I have dated men that might have been taller but were slimmer. I kind of had that "Abbot and Costello" thing going on in my head. The poor guy would break his back if he tried to swoop me off my feet. So I can totally understand the feelings of being feminine. That is hard when you are bigger or the same size as the male you are with.

 

[MarkSand]

Attitude, not altitude

Because I am 6'2", height has seldom been an issue, but in the end, isn't it irrelevant? I do find tall women very attractive, and I am not the least bit intimidated. Nor do I believe in double standards. As I said to someone once, I have been kissing downhill all my life, and turnabout's fair play...

 

[Marilyth]

Some of your responses are right on! I agree that it can be a bit intimidating if someone's stature is much more than yours. I'm 6'2 (as I've said), and I get that intimadating thing all the time. I'm the nicest person in the world, but people still think that I can be mean!!

As far as the Abbot & Costello, I've felt that before myself. One of my best guy friends is about 5'7 and is fairly thin. We're totally opposite, but he's a great person. Anyway, some of my other friends would call us Mutt & Jeff just because we're so different in size and in opinion. I didn't date him though.

This is really sparking some intrigue within me. So what about experiences you've had. I know, not many have dated someone of REALLY different height, but this will go to guys too. How have you dealt with a BIG height difference. I'm talking about 5-6 inches or more.

For example, my friend J. dated a woman who is 4'10. He's 6'4. I'm friends with both, and it's hard for me to picture them together. Yeah, kissing is the easy part... maybe. But what about other things??

Thanks for indulging me

 

[huskie]

I'm 5'3" tall about 155 lbs. I have been married twice (on second marrage now). Both times my mate was over 5'6" tall. Growing up short and going through all the draw backs that it offers I decided real early I would NOT marry some one shorter than me and that those girls would come from famielys were there were at least some bigger men. This way my sons would (or should??) grow bigger than me. Now I didn't help my self any during my teen growing years. I wrestled and lost lots of wieght that I really didn't have to lose. So I'm sure that stunted my growth some..... but only by 2 or 3 inches.
As far as dating taller girls? It didn't matter to me that they were taller. I really had no choice so I just got used to it. Theres was nothing I could do about it.

huskie

 

[lceman9]

i love tall girls

i love tall girls more body to lick and they r better in bed with my expericens

 

[buns90]

One of my favorite memories involves slow dancing with a girl that had to be over 8" taller than me. She squeezed my face against her chest and i remember thinking " It doesn't get any better than this" .

 

[LadyBlueMoon]

One of my favorite memories involves slow dancing with a girl that had to be over 8" taller than me. She squeezed my face against her chest and i remember thinking " It doesn't get any better than this" .

That is unless she had been even taller

 

[krspy2001]

my soon to be wife is a couple of inches taller than I.....nobody cares