Does Love exist in BDSM?

[blue kat]

I'm not sure if I believe love exists, but I think it depends largely on your interpretation of the word.

I think that many people see love as the cause of a good relationship, when really it is the reward. I am reminded of the song in Fiddler on the Roof when a man asks his wife of many years (from an arranged marriage):

"Do you looooooove me?"

Good Point Marquis. And the answer is here...I suppose I do..

 

[canadiancutie]

I'm not sure if I believe love exists, but I think it depends largely on your interpretation of the word.

I think that many people see love as the cause of a good relationship, when really it is the reward. I am reminded of the song in Fiddler on the Roof when a man asks his wife of many years (from an arranged marriage):

"Do you looooooove me?"



Funny fact:

I saw Fiddler on the Roof in Kenya with an all African cast.

Another reference to a musical? yikes

 

[Marquis]

Another reference to a musical? yikes

Love you too honey.

 

[kerker_miester]

Yes.

D (Technobarbarian) and mariposa.
Catalina and Francisco.
Miss Karen, Miss Holly and ghost.
Tealsphynx and dragon.
K and gracie.
Ciara's mum and dad.
Netz and M.
John Warren and his Libby.

It's not easy, and sometimes it isn't enough and sometimes it's too much. I have a friend whom I care deeply for but we weren't able able to bridge the gap between friends and bdsm lovers, though we are both into it. It was my fault, mostly. Having spent many hours holding her hand through some nasty shit and taking care of her when she was hurt, I was unable to Domme her in the sadistic way she needs. She is unable to deal with love that doesn't involve an element of pain, and I was unable to tear her apart after helping put her back together. Even her love for herself has a strong sadistic element in it.


I hope someday I can love someone as the people above do, but honestly, I don't think it's for me. It's very hard to believe so strongly in something and admit that it's unlikely it'll happen for you, but I can take comfort and maybe even a bit of pride in my honesty with myself. I won't be breaking my heart chasing after something that I don't think I'll ever possess.

Love inspires, but sometimes it just sucks.

well I been to the just sucks part I think now I'd like to be inspired

 

[h_i_s]

well I been to the just sucks part I think now I'd like to be inspired

Kind of reminds me of that old saying, something about, 'once you hit rock bottom ... there's no where left to go but UP'. i've known the 'rock bottom' of relationships far too well, and i've been going UP and UP ever since the last one ended. And by that point, i was certain i'd never find myself able to love, respect, & trust again .... let alone receive all three in return. Happy to be able to say, i was wrong ......

Love exists here in this D/s relationship/marriage. Can't say whether it was the love or the BDSM that came first between Master & i. It happened all at once, both, at the same time ... and it just continues evolving into much more, and so much BETTER.

Hang in there. Hope, faith, and time will bring better things your way.

 

[canadiancutie]

Love you too honey.

Wanna watch Chicago with me?

 

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[kerker_miester]

Kind of reminds me of that old saying, something about, 'once you hit rock bottom ... there's no where left to go but UP'. i've known the 'rock bottom' of relationships far too well, and i've been going UP and UP ever since the last one ended. And by that point, i was certain i'd never find myself able to love, respect, & trust again .... let alone receive all three in return. Happy to be able to say, i was wrong ......

Love exists here in this D/s relationship/marriage. Can't say whether it was the love or the BDSM that came first between Master & i. It happened all at once, both, at the same time ... and it just continues evolving into much more, and so much BETTER.

Hang in there. Hope, faith, and time will bring better things your way.

I am happy to hear so many have Love and the lifestyle and that the love is strong. I have been doing alot of soul searching I can not change what I am or who I am, but I can search for the ones that will accept me for me and love me as I am. I will hang in there and oneday I will be happier than all the years of my life combined to that point. Thanks again to all for the hope of finding someone and still being me kink and all.