Does it piss you off

[miles]

...when people tell you what they think you want to hear, instead of the truth?

 

[lilminx]

Yes.

 

[lavender]

 

[miles]

lm

Good answer

 

[Summery]

99% of the time I want the truth. The other 1% lie to me if it's going to make me feel better!

 

[SexyChele]

Looks like I've been on a roll with Lavender's way of thinking! I always say I want the truth, but I know there have been times when people told me what they thought I wanted to hear, just as I have done to some people.

Products of human nature, I suppose....

 

[MissTaken]

I hate it.

If I ask a question, I would like an answer. If I want the answer to be a lie, I would say,"Please lie to make me feel good!"

 

[daughter]

Arrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggggggggg

Hate it. I might not like the truth, but I resent it when someone is being patronizing or trying to placate me.

Peace,

daughter

 

[miles]

lavender

Shut up, lavy.

 

[lilminx]

Re: lm

Good answer

Thanks- but are you just telling me what you think I want to hear?

 

[lavender]

Re: lavender

 

[Laurel]

Yes and no. If I ask you if you love me, I want the honest answer. But if I ask you if my ass looks big in these jeans, the answer had better be, "No."

 

[lovetoread]

Yes and no. If I ask you if you love me, I want the honest answer. But if I ask you if my ass looks big in these jeans, the answer had better be, "No."

Exactly.

 

[miles]

lavender

"Metaphorical dick?"

Interesting concept from someone with liberal labia.

 

[Mischka]

I didn't even realize our body parts had political leanings.

 

[lavender]

 

[Mischka]

I just had this bizarre theory of Politically Inspired Cleavage. A left leaning and a right leaning boob, and presto! Instant cleavage.

 

[KillerMuffin]

We might say we hate it, but at times we are all guilty of it. It's part of our natural desire to please and be accepted.

I have? Since when?!?!

 

[horny_giraffe]

...when people tell you what they think you want to hear, instead of the truth?

It pisses me off when friends or people close to me don't at least try to construct a plausable lie in these cases. It's as if they are saying "I don't want to be responsible for your pain, but I don't want to feel guilty about lying, so I'm going to construct this obvious lie that you can see right through. That way I'm not really lying and I didn't cause you any pain--you just figured it out on your own." It's like a huge expression of apathy. I only expect that kind of apathy from strangers.

 

[p_p_man]

sycophants suck...

 

[Nigel]

Honesty is good, but there is a difference between being honest so as to hurt, and being delicately honest and constructive with the criticism.

I have known and even lived with people whose desire it was to hurt the other person, then used "I'm just being honest" so somehow absolve them of blame. Well that and "I was only joking"......

As Shakespeare said through Falstaff in Henry IV, Part One, "The better part of valor is discretion...."

Nigel