Does anyone know you write erotica?

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

One of my literature professors has erotic poetry in his public portfolio

 

[Phantom300]

No. It makes me sad that I cannot share my little successes with anyone, but there is no one I trust to understand.

 

[NikkiSparrow]

It's pretty frustrating sometimes, when you've written something you're really proud of, and you don't have many people in your life you can share it with. My spouse knows I write but I don't tell him what it's about and he doesn't ask. If someday he asks though, I'll share everything. Sometimes I write smut just for him (that doesn't get published here).

There are one or two other people in my RL who know I write smut and publish here, but I don't share my name with them or tell them what I write about. Since my stories are in the NonCons category, I worry what they'll think of me. So I just keep it to myself. One of my writer-friends has become really curious about publishing here, asks me lots of questions, and I hope she does someday do that. But I doubt we will ever openly "out" ourselves to each other.

In my online life, however, I feel a bit more comfortable sharing--in select circles--what I'm writing, what my kinks are. I feel as though I have some measure of control over who knows what I'm writing and who doesn't. Some friends of mine actively support me, others don't care to read me, and I completely understand and don't mind. But there's one author here on Lit who's been super supportive and has even become my singular beta reader, and I've really come to enjoy our correspondence.

 

[burgwad]

No, but I’ve thought about coming out to my partner. I think she’d admire that I was doing something creative and keeping up on my passion for writing.

But I worry she’d feel bothered or even betrayed to learn just how many hours I have smuggled into this hobby in the past year. Plus, I know she finds incest disgusting. So that would be a heck of a one-two punch for her.

Does she deserve to know? Yes. But do I selfishly prefer this life we have now, where she’s blissfully ignorant and I just have to be careful and compartmentalize? Also yes.

 

[Britva415]

Does anyone know you write erotica?

My wife knows.

We've been sexless for years. She finally had a realization and "came out" as asexual, which dashed my hopes that she'd eventually recover from some medical thing which was killing her interest in sex. I started writing smut as an outlet.

It's not much of an outlet but it's still fun. We've still got some figuring-out to do

 

[Britva415]

My wife knows.

We've been sexless for years. She finally had a realization and "came out" as asexual, which dashed my hopes that she'd eventually recover from some medical thing which was killing her interest in sex. I started writing smut as an outlet.

It's not much of an outlet but it's still fun. We've still got some figuring-out to do

I don't know why I put "coming out" in quotes.

She just came out.

 

[The_Caroline]

Only my best friend and my therapist!

 

[CiaoSteve]

My wife knows.

We've been sexless for years. She finally had a realization and "came out" as asexual, which dashed my hopes that she'd eventually recover from some medical thing which was killing her interest in sex. I started writing smut as an outlet.

It's not much of an outlet but it's still fun. We've still got some figuring-out to do

I feel for you @Britva415 . . . it was something similar which drove me to write. Whilst I now do have some sex, it is most definitely sex in that she is doing it to make me happy rather than doing it because she wants to, so it still seems unfulfilling. I couldn't ever tell her about my writing as that would be grounds for divorce, although she does quite often ask what I am typing (luckily I have a 5k rows long list of postage stamps--my other pastime--which I keep telling her I am updating).

I have a couple of online friends I met through @Literotica who know about my writing, and a little about myself. There are a couple IRL I would like to tell of my writings, but I am too scared as to how they would take it. I think one would be okay... after all, walking through the middle of Buenos Aires she once announced that there was a giant penis (obelisk) sticking up in the middle of the road, so I think she is more open. I am resigned though that I will probably never tell anyone using my IRL name though, as I have too much to lose.

 

[Britva415]

I couldn't ever tell her about my writing as that would be grounds for divorce

Ugh, that's insanely awful.

I'd be out of there already if I couldn't even talk to my sexless wife about it.

Speaking of things I can't talk to my wife about, I'm about to start a thread on the following subject.

This won't be a secret forever. Just for now, while we work through all other possible options.

If one of those works out, I won't need to hang on to this any longer. If none of them do, I'm going to reveal the secret and ask for something I'm not ready to put on the table yet. (If you read a couple of my non-series stories, you'd probably realize what it is.)

I'm just deciding what forum to put it in. Want a ping when I do?

 

[CiaoSteve]

Ugh, that's insanely awful.

I'd be out of there already if I couldn't even talk to my sexless wife about it.

Speaking of things I can't talk to my wife about, I'm about to start a thread on the following subject.

This won't be a secret forever. Just for now, while we work through all other possible options.

If one of those works out, I won't need to hang on to this any longer. If none of them do, I'm going to reveal the secret and ask for something I'm not ready to put on the table yet. (If you read a couple of my non-series stories, you'd probably realize what it is.)

I'm just deciding what forum to put it in. Want a ping when I do?

Would love a ping

 

[DarkSollat]

My friends know, but we don't talk about it. They seem to be a little... disgusted about talking about my sexual fantasies, even if they regard fictional people.

 

[RoperTrace]

When I first joined almost 20 years ago, I told my wife about my stories, and that she was sometimes one of the main characters. She wasn't interested in reading them nor asked me to stop. I'd be willing to bet, she's put that memory out of her system. I've had a handful of RL women friends who have known, and also liked it when the characters were based on them. AFAIK, only one or two RL male friends have known, all husbands or bf's of the women who knew. I always thought it was a hoot when you get a comment or personal email from someone who has enjoyed your story.

 

[NoTalentHack]

My wife knows, and that's it. She's encouraged me and wants to be supportive, but she also doesn't want to read depressing or stressful stuff, which, ah, yeah. Sorry, hon! I have written a couple of straight up happy romances, but even those touch on darker themes here and there.

 

[WyreBendr0417]

I have a couple of friends that know. One was a fellow writer and very supportive. The other gave me an, "Oh, cool. Did you see my new tractor?" sort of response. No family members know and probably never will. There is a generations old, lack of open-mindedness that runs in my family. It would be nice though, to have their basic support simply for writing without having to divulge the content.

 

[ecorche]

No one knows, not even my spouse.
So, for those of us keeping it private, what do you do if you win prize money in a Lit contest? How discreet is the prize payment?

 

[RoperTrace]

No one knows, not even my spouse.
So, for those of us keeping it private, what do you do if you win prize money in a Lit contest? How discreet is the prize payment?

If you win, the prize money arrives at your front door via Strippergram.

 

[sixfoot4]

Only those who get to read it.

 

[ChuckWolf]

Would not share this part of me with co-workers for obvious reasons and most of my friends are idiots, so no.

However, seems like this could make an interesting premise for an erotic story.

 

[John_Oakman]

Most of my coworkers at my current job is aware that I write smut, just not the specifics particularly. It is also not the most heinous thing (real or made up, mostly the latter) about me.

 

[NoJo]

In the unlikely event this would happen, I'd ask Laurel to donate it to a charity organization like Amnesty International.

It would benefit me more if you donated it to the Rest Home For Retired Pornographers