Does anyone know you write erotica?

[Lady2020]

No. It stays in my head.

 

[StaciRay79]

my husband knows and a couple close friends. other than that, no one.

 

[DarkRaven13]

No one in my real life knows. In fact, no one knows that I have writings that are contemporary non-erotica either. I keep them hidden ... and just in the past few months have started the erotica writings.

In the Litverse, I have traded some ideas and gotten support from those here. The meet-ups that @TxRad mentioned of long ago .... would I attend irl I wonder? With some for sure, others might keep me away. Though like @FifthEstate has said, it has made me a little sad that no one in my life outside of Lit knows ...

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

People know I write it but they don't know where I publish or what my username is unless they actively go digging for it.

 

[GrantBricksly]

My wife knows. She is typically the main woman in the stories I write. (I actually let her choose her name for each story) My ex-wife knew...though I am sure she has since forgotten. And I have a few friends that know. Some in the BDSM community that know as well. (I sometimes post something on a BDSM site that I am a member of)

I keep my sexual/erotic life separate from everything else, as best as I can. And so far it has worked. And I do not use my real name so that helps as well.

 

[Rob_Royale]

She then asked my daughter to do the proofreading, as the daughter was an English major in college and my wife gave her a description of the genre. But the wife asked her in front of the entire family.

Oh my. I bet that was an interesting Thanksgiving dinner.

"Now everyone please help yourselves. There's plenty and more in the kitchen."
"Sweetie, would you mind proofreading your father's smut stories?"
"Uncle Albert, would you please pass the stuffing?"

 

[Seadog777]

My wife reads all my works before I publish them.

If I'm thinking about taking a scene into a Woman/Woman sexual direction, my sister gives me advice on how they would move and interact.

Having the support of my family and their willingness to help, has been very beneficial to me.

 

[SamScribble]

Most people who know me know that I’m a writer. That’s what I’ve done for the past 60 years. And a fair few of my friends know that some of my writing has a blueish tinge to it.

I had an interesting near miss an few years ago when I sent a bunch of recent stories to my sister. I probably should have marked which of the stories were R16. But I didn’t. My sister read the first couple of stories in the batch and decided that she would keep the rest to read as bedtime stories to her grandchildren. A few days later, the girls were enjoying a sleepover at Gran’s place. Gran chose a story at random and started reading. And then, suddenly, she realised, umm, no, perhaps not this one. After that, I took to labelling some of the stories NSFG – Not Suitable For Grandchildren.

 

[PennameWombat]

I've answered on previous threads where this gets asked every so often... I've told my spouse and couple of close friends, but to my knowledge none have ever paid the least attention or checked any stories out. So, I don't discuss it with anyone. Not that I don't care, it's just that I offer, you take it up, or shrug. I don't push or repeat promoting myself.

I have posted on my Twitter account (not the same name as I use here) and link to my stories now and again, so one could connect those two. I don't backlink from here to any of my other social media accounts.

 

[Mnkinkcpl]

Anne knows and reads most of what I have written. Most of my/our long term playmates know because I ask if they are okay with me basing characters on them with different names of course.

 

[Wifetheif]

My Fiancee started out as a published erotica writer. Now she's focused on cozy mysteries because they are more lucrative. She designs the covers for my Amazon works but we never collaborate on erotica. We will run a sentence by each other though. She is also a British expatriate and will ask me the American phrasing of things or slang. She wants to write like an American and not a Brit. Aside from her, my adult sons know, but to them, it is no big deal. They actually like my writing. I have no fear that my boys will one day star in an update to that podcast, "My Dad Wrote a Porno." At least, I hope not.

 

[MaroonPrincess]

Most of my family knows, and several friends. After I wrote my first one, I wanted someone to edit it so I tried to get them to read it. Only one sister would; she is my favorite sister now. But she also has a few stories on here so I guess we can bounce ideas off each other now.

 

[JuanSeiszFitzHall]

Only my wife knows. She allows me, now and then, to mention what I've written and how it's been received. Just as I allow her to talk to me about details of her various pastimes. We each take on the role of supportive but uninterested listener.

 

[Rustyoznail]

No. Only a couple of writers here. There's only one person I don't want to find out, and that's Bec, my wife. Some of my stories have characters she could identify, and that would be bad. For me.

 

[Lifestyle66]

No. Only a couple of writers here. There's only one person I don't want to find out, and that's Bec, my wife. Some of my stories have characters she could identify, and that would be bad. For me.

Hopefully, you didn't write her as characters she would hate.

My wife sometimes reads my stories, and she recognizes herself in the character, Jan. Then my wife WILL turn to me and say; "But I'm YOUR bitch!"

 

[Erosfan]

My late wife knew of my writings. She read every one of my stories before I published them. She would say "I can see us doing this" or "We would get in so much trouble if we did this". She was my inspiration for my writings.
A couple of my stories are 100% true.

 

[JuanaSalsa]

Basically everyone in my life knows. My ex-husband, my mom, my boss, the HR and marketing managers at my work, many of my other coworkers, my people I date...

In fact, I started recording my stories to make it easier for people I date to "read" them because they're all so fucking busy - turns out I like busy people, lol. But honestly, at this point, if a person doesn't understand my writing, I'm not interested in dating them.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Yes: which has been both bad and good.

Good, because this time of year my non-erotic, mainstream novels are given out as gifts to people I think would really enjoy them. Its scary to think my 82 year old mother in law will read a chapter that contains sex in it, or some co-workers or friends, but in the end its just a story that happens to work better because main characters have sex. Its kind of like real life that way, and I have long understood that. Get American people adults together, and in about five minutes we'll be discussing sex on some level. Its just a part of our culture so why be embarrassed about it because its in a novel?

Bad: because when I got divorced my ex-wife tried to use it against me in a court of law. Our daughter was three years old and could not even read yet, not to mention having my novels on a password protected laptop on a password protected file, and she tried to keep me from having shared custody with her. My novels might have steamy chapters... like a romance novel... I admit, but not inappropriate in any way, and yet my-ex tried to use that as leverage for sole-custody. It did not work because of parental rights and freedom of speech, but it sucked to have to be in court defending myself.

 

[emperor0379]

My partner know I have writen bisexual group sex erotica and has read some.

When I started writing fantasies based on women we know in common, I stopped showing them to her because she's the jealous type.

 

[Gamblnluck]

I told a few people on a cruise one time what I did and my user name. I doubt they even remembered or at least none have contacted me to let me know. I sent my sister a couple of my stories in respnse to her bragging how she is a published author etc. How a couple of her stories were added to some anthology. Again not a bit of feedback, so I wonder if she even read what I sent. For all i know she thought the stories were better than some of hers and that was the reason she quit bragging.
My wife does not know. I began writing a novel a few years ago. I knew I would need a co-author to flesh out the story but they dropped out quickly. My sister called my premise 'brilliant' but was too busy to work with me. Another dropped thread.
Another person i told about that story at one time wanted to write the Mexican version of Catcher in the Rye or Insiders. Later he decided he did not like my politics and told me to go write my "Star wars' story on my own. The story had nothing to do with life in space but was science fiction.

 

[Candy_Kane54]

The only person who knew that I wrote erotica took it to the grave with him ...

 

[TadOverdon]

My spousal overunit and one other who's also been involved in the writing. They know exactly what's going on.

There are a few folks who "know of" my odd little hobby but not much more. They're interested within a range varying from jokingly to not one bit, thank you very much.

 

[barefootgirl69]

My mom knows I edit erotica, but I don't think she knows I write it, too.

 

[Blind_Justice]

I have nothing to be ashamed of. Also, over here in Germany, hardly anyone I've told about my hobby batted an eyelid at it. My job coach even suggested the whole Patreon idea after she read some of my stories. My lady love knows and she's both muse and the most brutal critic you could imagine.

The most frequent question I get from new acquaintances is "Why don't you write in German?" The answer is two-fold: German knows only two options when it comes to smut: Either extremely dirty or very flowery. Neither fits my style. Also, after about ten years of writing fiction in English, my German writing skills have deteriorated quite a bit.

 

[lovecraft68]

I have nothing to be ashamed of. Also, over here in Germany, hardly anyone I've told about my hobby batted an eyelid at it. My job coach even suggested the whole Patreon idea after she read some of my stories. My lady love knows and she's both muse and the most brutal critic you could imagine.

The most frequent question I get from new acquaintances is "Why don't you write in German?" The answer is two-fold: German knows only two options when it comes to smut: Either extremely dirty or very flowery. Neither fits my style. Also, after about ten years of writing fiction in English, my German writing skills have deteriorated quite a bit.

I'm passable in Spanish. Learned it from working with a lot of people from the Dominican Republic and Mexico when I managed the warehouse. For the hell of it, I attempted a story in Spanish and it was awful. Not only because I'm not as fluent in 'non conversation' as I am when speaking directly to someone, but I just couldn't seem to put the thoughts together and trying English first then translating falls really flat.