Does anyone else here actively look for affairs?

[OKImIn]

Let me start out with, not advocating, just asking.

Reading another pretty popular thread, I found myself looking at my relationship--perfect on virtually every front, as long as you don't like things like sex or flirting or anything--and realizing that I have effectively trapped myself.

I love her, I really really do, but I have a high sex drive and I like it. Sex I mean. Like really really really like it. She doesn't, and in fact actively avoids it.

I don't know how it started really, but slowly I found myself getting those needs taken care of with other people--and unfortunatelly they made me feel really good about myself, attractive again even! And oh man did I get everything I needed--my favorite time was with a black girl who blew my mind in every way. First time I've ever been involved in double penetration, and that just scratches the surface; I like sex a lot (did I mention that?) and almost nothing is off limits, I love experementing.

So now I find myself constantly looking for an affair, something to take that portion of me and let it out. I'm in councelling with my girl for different reasons, and I don't want another relationship. As soon as it turns into anything more than a friend who likes sex as much as I do, I break it off with whoever I'm enjoying.

Anyone else delt with this?

 

[bordendazed]

Why not?

As long as it's between two interested adults and there's no spite or jealousy, and it's not a replacement for the primary...

Yea, wouldn't it be nice.........

 

[ima6uldv8]

I think you need to free yourself from her. If you can't be true to yourself, you're not going to be happy. And, you're not being fair to her by hanging on to something that you don't totally want. Find someone with the same wants and desires and you'll be much happier.