I am watching the news this morning and a story comes on about a baby found in a toilet at a local high school. They have found the mother who was a sophmore at this high school, and are not releasing her name, but she was NOT one of the EIGHT pregnant students they previously interviewed! Many of you on here are educators, so am I just being niave here, or is this a very uncommon occurance?
does anyone else find this alarming?
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Debbie
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Yes, i find it alarming that a baby was found in the toilet at a high school.
Was the baby still alive? I can only hope so but I guess the poor babe was not.
Is this an uncommon occurrence?
I am not sure whether you mean a high school girl
giving birth in the toilet or not knowing she was pregnant?
My hubby had an exbrother in law who's girlfriend had no idea
she was pregnant. She ran five miles each day and thought that
she was just getting a little 'pot belly.' Till she woke up with a severe stomach ache and he took her to the hospital. LOL Then she had a baby.
Is what an uncommon occurrence?
debbie
Was the baby still alive? I can only hope so but I guess the poor babe was not.
Is this an uncommon occurrence?
I am not sure whether you mean a high school girl
giving birth in the toilet or not knowing she was pregnant?
My hubby had an exbrother in law who's girlfriend had no idea
she was pregnant. She ran five miles each day and thought that
she was just getting a little 'pot belly.' Till she woke up with a severe stomach ache and he took her to the hospital. LOL Then she had a baby.
Is what an uncommon occurrence?
debbie
sorry
I will clarify...The baby was unfortunately found dead. My question was pointed more to the fact that there were more than 8 pregnant girls in this high school. The fact that someone would leave a baby..well that is another topic.
Soo..question....Does anyone find it alarming that there were more than 8 girls knocked up in this high school, which in my opinion is not in a very populus area (we are not talking about like a high school in downtown Chicago or something like that)?
Am I just naive or is this common for these young girls to get pregnant?
I will clarify...The baby was unfortunately found dead. My question was pointed more to the fact that there were more than 8 pregnant girls in this high school. The fact that someone would leave a baby..well that is another topic.
Soo..question....Does anyone find it alarming that there were more than 8 girls knocked up in this high school, which in my opinion is not in a very populus area (we are not talking about like a high school in downtown Chicago or something like that)?
Am I just naive or is this common for these young girls to get pregnant?
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unfortunately it is fairly common, at least here in the UK!
My father was a teacher for an all girls school (catholic) and there were often girls there that were pregnant - most tended to go to the staff at the school about it as they were too scared to tell their parents.
As for the fact the young lady concerned left her newborn, it was probably fear and confusion that drove her to it. I mean if she was either unaware that she was pregnant, or had hidden it from her parents, she was probably scared witless about what to do with a baby, and being as young as she was she wasn't equipped emotionally to handle it.
To be honest I feel for both the mother and the poor lil baby...
My father was a teacher for an all girls school (catholic) and there were often girls there that were pregnant - most tended to go to the staff at the school about it as they were too scared to tell their parents.
As for the fact the young lady concerned left her newborn, it was probably fear and confusion that drove her to it. I mean if she was either unaware that she was pregnant, or had hidden it from her parents, she was probably scared witless about what to do with a baby, and being as young as she was she wasn't equipped emotionally to handle it.
To be honest I feel for both the mother and the poor lil baby...
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Sadly, I'm not shocked.
I'm not even stirred, really, except for the fact that I find it sad.
A lot of the public schools in Chicago have programs for parenting as an attempt to keep kids (kids!) in school during their pregnancies.
I'm not even stirred, really, except for the fact that I find it sad.
A lot of the public schools in Chicago have programs for parenting as an attempt to keep kids (kids!) in school during their pregnancies.
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I agree with alexandraaah. It is sad. I blame the parents to a large degree. Parents are not taking on the responsibility of raising their children, they leave it to the state with the aforementioned results.
Yeah, it's that common. Out of my graduating class of about 300 students, only one was pregnant at the time of graduation... but at least a dozen that I can think of offhand had already had children and come back to school. (Two of those, actually, were in junior high!) I can think of a few others who got pregnant and dropped out. And, of course, that's not taking into account the freshman, sophomores, and juniors. That was in 1993; I'm sure it's worse now.
Alarming? Yeah, and sad, too. But I can't say I find it shocking.
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I grow sick to my stomach watching those "perfect" families from the 50s: mother, father, daughter, and son -- all white and with blue eyes -- living in the suburbs, the kids enrolled in the city high, the father working in a business office, the mother staying at home and cooking perfect meals. What's more, they all get along, and solve their problems by talking.
It's obvious that not all families in the 50s were like the ones portrayed in the media. There were lots of hidden secrets that people kept, because it just wasn't "right" for things to go wrong in the family. That's still a sentiment today, but it's been getting less and less prevalent in society over the years.
My point is that teenage girls have been getting pregnant for decades -- we just didn't hear about it as much before. Over time we've become more comfortable dragging out the dirty little secrets of others, and I think that's why it seems like teenage pregnancy is such an alarming trend. I'm not going to say that there aren't more teenagers getting pregnant now than there were then, but I'm also not going to say that the number is 100 times larger or anything.
Also, I want to defend those of us who haven't gotten pregnant, who didn't have sex during high school -- which is the VAST majority. I had at least eight pregnant girls at my high school over the course of my being there, but those eight or so were greatly outnumbered by the number of girls who just weren't having sex. (There were about 1800 students at my school, so I'm not sure how big or small that is, but it isn't humongous or anything.) I'm sure there are schools in towns that are more likely to have a student population that is generally more reckless than the school, say, just down the street. We can't go drawing conclusions across the board based on a couple of "bad eggs." There are plenty of girls out there being responsible, and I just want to toss that out there so that teenage girls aren't given a bad name just because of bad publicity.
It's obvious that not all families in the 50s were like the ones portrayed in the media. There were lots of hidden secrets that people kept, because it just wasn't "right" for things to go wrong in the family. That's still a sentiment today, but it's been getting less and less prevalent in society over the years.
My point is that teenage girls have been getting pregnant for decades -- we just didn't hear about it as much before. Over time we've become more comfortable dragging out the dirty little secrets of others, and I think that's why it seems like teenage pregnancy is such an alarming trend. I'm not going to say that there aren't more teenagers getting pregnant now than there were then, but I'm also not going to say that the number is 100 times larger or anything.
Also, I want to defend those of us who haven't gotten pregnant, who didn't have sex during high school -- which is the VAST majority. I had at least eight pregnant girls at my high school over the course of my being there, but those eight or so were greatly outnumbered by the number of girls who just weren't having sex. (There were about 1800 students at my school, so I'm not sure how big or small that is, but it isn't humongous or anything.) I'm sure there are schools in towns that are more likely to have a student population that is generally more reckless than the school, say, just down the street. We can't go drawing conclusions across the board based on a couple of "bad eggs." There are plenty of girls out there being responsible, and I just want to toss that out there so that teenage girls aren't given a bad name just because of bad publicity.
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Unfortunately I do not find this shocking as it has happened around here.A college student had a baby and threw it in a dumpster where it was later found dead........I quarantee the girl will get off with a slap on the wrist and we will be hearing about what a really good person she is.......She just made a mistake
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tnguy04
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You stole my old Av! The mustache man!
Re: tnguy04
Aww sorry man. I like Groucho and when I saw this I had to use it...I can find another if you are still using it, or want to use it again...I did not realize anyone on here was using it...sorry.
plasticman33 said:You stole my old Av! The mustache man!
Aww sorry man. I like Groucho and when I saw this I had to use it...I can find another if you are still using it, or want to use it again...I did not realize anyone on here was using it...sorry.
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Re: Re: tnguy04
I always said that doing a good deed and not telling anyone about it is like peeing in a wetsuit.
If you are sitting on your board in the Atlantic in December, you should drink plenty of fluids before hitting the waves!
tnguy04 said:
I always said that doing a good deed and not telling anyone about it is like peeing in a wetsuit.
If you are sitting on your board in the Atlantic in December, you should drink plenty of fluids before hitting the waves!
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Nah, go ahead use it! Some of the ladies here said it looked spooky, so I dropped it!
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It's alarming but it happens everywhere. Kids don't learn. they see all kinds of people struggling cuz of early motherhood and still they think that they can handle it. and when it happens they realize "hey this is real, what am i gonna do"
what makes sick is 16, 17 and 18 year olds being married. that is just crazy. at that young an age i don't think you even really know what love is.
what makes sick is 16, 17 and 18 year olds being married. that is just crazy. at that young an age i don't think you even really know what love is.
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I am still a young pup here so I am not really one to talk, but when I was growing up we learned a thing rarely taught these days..It was called sommon sense. I knew if I had unprotected sex I could get a disease or get someone pregnant. I knew if I robbed a grocery store I was going to jail. Sorry..not time for a soap box.
I am still a young pup here so I am not really one to talk, but when I was growing up we learned a thing rarely taught these days..It was called sommon sense. I knew if I had unprotected sex I could get a disease or get someone pregnant. I knew if I robbed a grocery store I was going to jail. Sorry..not time for a soap box.
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Sorry Tnguy!
In my haste to reply to this thread, I inadvertently created a new thread! I have posted the link to this one, but I wanted to apologize!
In my haste to reply to this thread, I inadvertently created a new thread!
I have posted the link to this one, but I wanted to apologize!
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Just because you get pregnant as a teen does not make you a bad person,for goodness sakes!
I was a teen who got pregnant. No I was not a whore,I didnt do drugs,nor did I drink.
I was unlucky.
My child has grown up to be a lovely young lady who is in the gifted and talented program and I hope that she never has to make the decisions that a pregnant person does.
Had there been someone or someplace to get help when I was a teen,I would have made alot of different decisions,but I dont regret getting pregnant.
I was a teen who got pregnant. No I was not a whore,I didnt do drugs,nor did I drink.
I was unlucky.
My child has grown up to be a lovely young lady who is in the gifted and talented program and I hope that she never has to make the decisions that a pregnant person does.
Had there been someone or someplace to get help when I was a teen,I would have made alot of different decisions,but I dont regret getting pregnant.
lovetoread said:
I must admit I was a wild child back then and I did many things I regret and many I do not. I would not say anyone is a bad person based on their decisions I think it is more how they handle these choices. If you are happy with your decisions and do not regret what you did then I say congratulations you are a good person and the world is better for that. I just found it interesting that there were so many pregnant young teens from this high school. The class from which I graduated (HS) had one pregnant person and this was a large class. I just found it amazing to have so many in this class. Interesting AV by the way (was that a strange way to redirect the conversation? LOL)
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I remember in my senior year of high school(c/o 99) there were at least 6 girls we were pregnant in my senior class alone the principal made the get home schooling once they got noticable because she thought it would infuance other students, i remember by graduation quite a few became pregnant
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Kaos_Star said:
One problem I think is out there with people talking about teenagers is talking about them as if they weren't people who had emotions just like everyone else. Emotions are a tricky thing to generalize, kaos, and although I think there are lots of people who share your sentiment, as well as many cases to support it, there ARE 16, 17, and especially 18 year olds who do know what love is.
I can understand if you said at 13 kids don't really know what love is, but I can tell you that I fell very much in love with my boyfriend at 16, and we are still together and I'm 19. I also know a couple who have been married for 50 years, and they married when they were 18. Stories like theirs aren't uncommon. So please, next time you feel like generalizing, be a bit more careful about whose feelings you underestimate.
I respect your opinion, but again, I don't think you can deny teenagers serious feelings just because you may not have had them at that age (and if you thought really hard, you might be able to remember that you did ).Similar threads
