does anyone else feel insecure about their looks

[luvpats4unme]

I am very insecure about my looks. I don't feel I am ugly but definitely not good-looking. I have been called ugly to my face. I have done everything I can think of to change my outlook on myself. I have changed my hairstyle, lost 20 pounds, etc., etc., yet I keep getting rejected many many times because of my looks.
I have a high IQ, a great job (I am a Teachers Aid for special education students) and live a good life. I am not wealthy but I am close to my family and not in debt. But I don't have any close friends and have never had a successful relationship in any way shape or form. Maybe I am looking in all the wrong places and meeting the wrong type of people. It is amazing how many times I have sent out my photo only to never hear from the person again. In one instance where the person insisted she was not into "looks" we talked for two months and then when we met the meeting lasted less than three minutes. Why? As she told me she didn't like the way I looked and this was from someone who said she "didn't care" what I looked like. This is not the only time this has happened.

Does anyone else feel this way? Does anyone have any suggestions or can share their views and maybe help me out feel better about myself?

Best wishes to all!

 

[bcplaygirl]

I'm sure you've heard the old cliché.....

"TRUE BEAUTY RADIATES FROM WITHIN"

truer words were never spoken. If you feel ugly or down about yourself, your outside shell reflects that. I am a 34 year old woman and for years was told I was less than desirable (because I have red hair and freckles and that was not widely seen where i grew up, I was 'different') by my own family and other kids alike. My mom was very stressed out all the time and when she'd lash out verbally, it was usually about our looks or something to the effect that no one else would want us. I think that is such a f#$%^& up was to shape a kids head and am disgusted by any parent that show anything other than love and acceptance to their child, regarless or how they look or how angry the verbal diarrhea spewer is at the moment.

As I became an adult though things started to change and at first when I noticed people noticing me or giving me the once over, having such low self esteem at the time I thought for sure they were looking at me only to criticize something or because they couldn't believe how hideous I was. But then I started to really look in the mirror and imagine myself through someone else's eyes and I really started paying attention to what people were saying and it was not negative at all. In fact, being a good girl at the time, alot of it made me blush lol. I started to feel better about myself and as a result, radiated it because I finally took my blinders off long enough to look at myself honestly and realized that I am a beautiful woman and many men would cut off their balls (although I wouldn't ask them to) to be with me

And that's the attitude I portray nowadays. Not at all to toot my own horn because I'm really not all that comfortable doing that still, but enough to know I AM WORTH IT..

As much as you are. Chin up hun. Don't let looks or a woman's shallowness shape the rest of your life or your attitudes towards yourself.
I've seen many people throughout my life who I've found to be maybe less attractive than some others (if going only by the wrapping) and alot of them were in successful loving relationships with someone kind enough to get to know the inside before making a final judgement.

Smile, it helps tenfold!