Do you think it would be wrong.......?

[sporty]

Speaking Hypothetically here.....


I know a really great guy....i'm not attracted to him sexually ....he's just not relationship material for me ...but he's a great guy very special ....and i think he really needs someone to make him feel good about himself....i don't think he's been close to anyone in such a very long time....and has no confidence in him self.

would it be wrong to date him for a while to give him an ego boost and give him someone to be close too... ?
And to just show him how much happiness he could find in another person......

 

[LukkyKnight]

Hypothetically since you're asking not acting you know the answer.

 

[sporty]

okay, i know there are many reasons why this wouldn't be a great idea....but i just think that he's not had a lot of pleasure and happy times in life and deserves a little even if you don't give him 100% of yourself.....

i don't know.....

 

[LukkyKnight]

Yes, you do know.

 

[Guest]

I think if you emphasize the whole 'friends' thing. Feelings could develop on his part and then you'd have a real big mess and it would do more damage to his ego than good.

 

[Ham Murabi]

Rather than go for something as complicated as one or more dates, just give him a blow job.
I'm sure he'll feel a lot better about himself after that, and you will have done your good deed for the day.

 

[Nora]

Sporty? Would you want someone to do that to you?

To take it a little further, would you include a pity fuck with that? Wouldn't you feel weird about lying to his friends and family about how much you're crazy about him? What about when you broke up with him? Well, you wouldn't be able to cuz you'd be afraid he'd lose all the ground you gained, right? And then what if he asked you to marry him? Could you say no after all the work you put in to bolster his ego?

Do you really think that all that would help him?

Like Lukky said. You know the answer.

 

[QuickDuck]

Its a sympathy fuck.... yes, wrong.

 

[sporty]

well, it certainly wouldn't have included a sympathy fuck.......i just wanted to boost his confidence...i know you guys are right...what was i thinking...

i just want something more for him ......just not me... and he just doesn't know how to present himself well to women....

well, i guess just being friends is good enough..

thanks for the advice....

Lukkyknight - I guess I did know what the right thing was , maybe i wanted to hear that yes, this is a great idea or something...

augghh...i frustrate myself...

 

[QuickDuck]

well, i guess just being friends is good enough..

Its definately a good thing.

 

[RastaPope]

well, it certainly wouldn't have included a sympathy fuck.......i just wanted to boost his confidence...i know you guys are right...what was i thinking...

i just want something more for him ......just not me... and he just doesn't know how to present himself well to women....

well, i guess just being friends is good enough..

thanks for the advice....

Lukkyknight - I guess I did know what the right thing was , maybe i wanted to hear that yes, this is a great idea or something...

augghh...i frustrate myself...

How do you know him?

 

[Star of Penumbra]

Speaking Hypothetically here.....


I know a really great guy....i'm not attracted to him sexually ....he's just not relationship material for me ...but he's a great guy very special ....and i think he really needs someone to make him feel good about himself....i don't think he's been close to anyone in such a very long time....and has no confidence in him self.

would it be wrong to date him for a while to give him an ego boost and give him someone to be close too... ?
And to just show him how much happiness he could find in another person......

So... if I understand this right, you want to build up his ego and confidence, then let him down so that he feels worse than he did before, right?

No. This is a seriously fucking bad idea.

 

[sporty]

How do you know him?

He's a casual friend that i've gotten to know better over the last year.....i feel that are able to speak more deeply and openly together sometimes than i do even with my other friends...

i just feel a real need from him to be with someone.....and i DO indeed care for him, but not in a dating sense...

Okay folks, i DO realize this was a lousy idea.....

silly me.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

There is a boy who has had a crush on my roommate going for like three years now. He's not her type, tho they are good friends. I put this prospective on it for him:

You've been her friend much longer than any of them have been her boyfriend. They are all gone, and your still here. If your goal was to spend a large amount of your life in her company, supporting her, shareing with her, laughing with her...you are more successful at that than any of them have been.

The point being: A good friend usually last longer and can be more helpful than a temporary lover.

 

[QuickDuck]

The point being: A good friend usually last longer and can be more helpful than a temporary lover.

ooo i like that one.

 

[sporty]

Quick Duck & Polite.

Thanks for your thoughts on just being a friend...

I know how much value i place on my small network of buddies....