Do you need a soul connection to make love?

[T.H. Oughts]

Mmmmmm I just had an amazing orgasm or two. My lover knows how to not only rock my socks but my soul also... The way he does all those sexy things is amazing. I've never had it soooooooo good before...... It is just not the orgasm but knowing it is him giving it to me and doing all those sexy things....

So how important is the soul connection between you and the person you get sensual with?

 

[T.H. Oughts]

oh no, a double thread posted, look for the other one with the same name please.

 

[Kiwi XS]

Re: the soul connection

I dont believe in soul connection. Just the level of physical and psycological intensity matching.

 

[glamorilla]

oh no, a double thread posted, look for the other one with the same name please.

It was that good huh?

 

[T.H. Oughts]

It was that good huh?

Hell Yes!!! Just call this a flash back....

 

[wizbit9]

So how important is the soul connection between you and the person you get sensual with?

i was in a serious relationship up until last year and when we were having sex i was always making love to her and she was making love to me. the soul connection was incredibly strong and it made the sex so special and caring and meaningful. the best sex i have ever had.

we broke up and i subsequently went on the rebound and spent a few months with someone else. we had sex regularly and she was an animal at it. i never got that soul connection with her and even tho she fulfilled my sexual appitite it just wasnt as good.

soul connection is very important to me. thats why i gave up on one night stands years ago

 

[psyche]

So how important is the soul connection between you and the person you get sensual with? [/B]

For me the answer is really in your question. To make love I have to have a soul connection with the other person. More goes on in this situation than just sex. It's a physical expression of the relationship that is active on many planes. Two people sharing friendship, the mundane experiences of everyday life, the dark sides of each other, and in spite of all of it still loving each other very deeply. The physical experience, in this case, may not be the only thing going on. It is another aspect of the expression of their love.

Fucking on the other hand can go on without having a soul connection with another person and be extremely satisfying physically. I've had some extremely mind blowing sex with men who I do not necessarily have a soul connection with. But there is a difference because the focus in this relationship is on the physical level and the satisfaction of physical needs.

I think the key is knowing the difference and accepting each for what they are.

 

[intrigued]

psyche and wizbit9....I love your answers, I believe you've summed it up.

My answer is "absolutely". My needs are too intense for something purely physical to fulfill me...I can do that alone, and it would all come out the same.

In my mind, I often (because I am writing a story about this) fantasize about stranger sex, and it does have an appeal, but only after a ton of build up to that "moment", there has to be something that builds and builds to get me to that moment of insanity, and even then, I think its more the "idea" of it than the fact that it could be sexually fulfilling. I imagine the entire time its happening, I would lie there there thinking "this is so damn wild..." and that in itself is what would get me going.
Which brings me back to realizing its a mental thing that requires feeding, to become a physically fulfilling act.

I want to make love....completely, totally.....and I want to do so with abandon.

 

[psyche]

pure sex

psyche and wizbit9....I love your answers, I believe you've summed it up.

My answer is "absolutely". My needs are too intense for something purely physical to fulfill me...I can do that alone, and it would all come out the same.

In my mind, I often (because I am writing a story about this) fantasize about stranger sex, and it does have an appeal, but only after a ton of build up to that "moment", there has to be something that builds and builds to get me to that moment of insanity, and even then, I think its more the "idea" of it than the fact that it could be sexually fulfilling. I imagine the entire time its happening, I would lie there there thinking "this is so damn wild..." and that in itself is what would get me going.
Which brings me back to realizing its a mental thing that requires feeding, to become a physically fulfilling act.

I want to make love....completely, totally.....and I want to do so with abandon.

I have experienced pure physical sex and I don't know why but it is so much better to me than anything that I can do myself. And there was the buildup of planning the meeting and being seduced by someone who knew exactly what my sexual fantasies are and was able to push those buttons. Just one word from this guy can make me wet because I know he knows what I want and need, and I know that he can give it to me. I can have an orgasm over and over by myself, but I like the touching and holding and the physical feeling of being held down so much. The sex itself can even be better than in a soul mate relationship.

 

[Kitte]

I dont know if I believe in a soul connection...but there has to be something....and that thing can only happen with time and trust. Does that make any sense?

 

[Jaenelle]

Re: Re: Do you need a soul connection to make love?

For me the answer is really in your question. To make love I have to have a soul connection with the other person. More goes on in this situation than just sex. It's a physical expression of the relationship that is active on many planes. Two people sharing friendship, the mundane experiences of everyday life, the dark sides of each other, and in spite of all of it still loving each other very deeply. The physical experience, in this case, may not be the only thing going on. It is another aspect of the expression of their love.

Fucking on the other hand can go on without having a soul connection with another person and be extremely satisfying physically. I've had some extremely mind blowing sex with men who I do not necessarily have a soul connection with. But there is a difference because the focus in this relationship is on the physical level and the satisfaction of physical needs.

I think the key is knowing the difference and accepting each for what they are.

Very well said, I agree with you.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

So how important is the soul connection between you and the person you get sensual with?

In my opinion its very important ...

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I pretty much just need a hard on to make love