do you lurk on the BDSM talk forum
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MissTaken
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I thought I saw you lurking outside the door, sexy girl!
Yes, the BDSM forum has discussions that can be relevant to all. Anyone is welcome to lurk or post.
I enjoy the forum on many levels, not the least of which is the general amount of respect and consideration that is shown there. It is especially interesting as there are so many diverse personalities and sexual tastes represented.
I would hang there whether or not I was into kink.
BTW....hugs Sexy girl!
Yes, the BDSM forum has discussions that can be relevant to all. Anyone is welcome to lurk or post.
I enjoy the forum on many levels, not the least of which is the general amount of respect and consideration that is shown there. It is especially interesting as there are so many diverse personalities and sexual tastes represented.
I would hang there whether or not I was into kink.
BTW....hugs Sexy girl!
Calamity Jane
Reverend Blue Jeans
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I've gone over there once or twice. I WANT to visit, but I'm intimidated by the subject matter. Really. I have questions I'd love to post, but as it took me almost 3 months to even register at this place, and another month to start posting, it might be awhile before I actually type anything.
Just too into my vanilla vodka to move on to chocolate, I suppose.
Just too into my vanilla vodka to move on to chocolate, I suppose.
Fly_On_Wall
Looking for the way
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I totaly forgot there was one.
I may go look sometime but doubt I'd stay long.
I may go look sometime but doubt I'd stay long.
sexy-girl
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pagancowgirl said:
lol i find it intimadating slightly there over there as well ... its especially because i know i dont know very much about the subject matter that i know im going to make a fool out of myself even more then i do in this forum
cymbidia and risiaskye are super nice though and writerdom is helpful too although i dont know him as well
hehe and they have posters like misstaken over there too and she "owns" the super nice category
*hugs* back
Calamity Jane
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sexy-girl said:
lol i find it intimadating slightly there over there as well ... its especially because i know i dont know very much about the subject matter that i know im going to make a fool out of myself even more then i do in this forum
cymbidia and risiaskye are super nice though and writerdom is helpful too although i dont know him as well
hehe and they have posters like misstaken over there too and she "owns" the super nice category
Of course they're nice. I'm not afraid anyone would be mean to me, and I'm pretty sure I could handle it if anyone was. I just don't know that I have anything to say.
(I know, that's really hard to believe, because I never shut up here, but it's true)
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Sixth
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I’ve never checked the BDSM forums here on Lit and so it’s with that degree of separation I can whinge that I normally find BDSM discussions far to pompous for my tastes. The urge to engage in purple prose and pale attempts at academic debate generally drives me up the wall. On the other hand, the lack of capital letters generally drives me up a different wall.
I seem to spend a lot of time on the ceiling.
I seem to spend a lot of time on the ceiling.
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sabbathstorm
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I've lurked around there a little bit as BDSM really interests me 
CarolineOh
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pagancowgirl said:
You can always come over and say "Oh, Caroline, you are so wise and insightful"
KillerMuffin
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I'm nothing but a lurker. I rarely post.
Sillyman
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I am very intrested in the subject matter, and would love to get into the whole scene. Unfortunately, I lack any real experience to contribute to the conversation, and walking onto the BDSM board from the GB feels a lot like going from a Fraternity Kegger to a formal event. I also tend to try to ingratiate myself with my bad humor, which I don't know if there is room on the BDSM board for such. The folks are very protective about there lifestyle, and it's hard to tell where the line between good natured fun and an attack begins.
superlittlegirl
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I feel safe and protected on the BDSM board
(The General Board actually scared the shit of me when I first peeked in.)
I started out at Lit in the BDSM forum, and felt like it was the home I had been looking for all my life. The conversation is not at all pretentious, it's just more focused. It is a great place to read and lurk, and it is not at all expected that you post to be welcomed there. In fact, I think it's a good idea to lurk for a bit to get the feel of the scope of the conversations, and such. The people there are compassionate, tolerant, erudite, funny, and warm. I have learned a tremendous amount in there, and I can't think of a more appropriate place to learn about BDSM theory if you are interested, or just supportive of the lifestyle. I love the BDSM board, and the people who make their place there.
--Freya
(The General Board actually scared the shit of me when I first peeked in.)
I started out at Lit in the BDSM forum, and felt like it was the home I had been looking for all my life. The conversation is not at all pretentious, it's just more focused. It is a great place to read and lurk, and it is not at all expected that you post to be welcomed there. In fact, I think it's a good idea to lurk for a bit to get the feel of the scope of the conversations, and such. The people there are compassionate, tolerant, erudite, funny, and warm. I have learned a tremendous amount in there, and I can't think of a more appropriate place to learn about BDSM theory if you are interested, or just supportive of the lifestyle. I love the BDSM board, and the people who make their place there.
--Freya
JazzManJim
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Yep, I'm most definitely a lurker over there. I'm also an occasional poster, too. I'm just everywhere. 
cymbidia
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Most of you who've been around awhile know me.
I spent a year here, with you, before we got the BDSM board. Am i scary? Do i make people feel unwelcome, unaccepted, unappreciated, not enough in some way? Risia was here on the GB for two years before we got the BDSM board. Does she make anyone feel unacceptable? What about WD? (Okay, he's got that kooky political thing in his GB past...but that kinda stuff is *not* part of the BDSM board at all.)
We're the BDSM board moderators.
Additionally, a bunch of people who spent large amounts of time of the GB before we got the BDSM board are over there, too. Some, like KillerMuffin, aren't even BDSM'er at all, simply interested and knowledgeable non-BDSM'ers. Some, like sexy-girl, aren't BDSM'er either, and don't know much about it, but are curious and open mineded and know they can ask and we'll answer and *not* make them feel foolish or wrong or bad in some way for doing so.
We're the same people who were here. We're the same people who are still here, most of us, though in a somewhat less obvious capacity.
Our small online community over on the BDSM board is one in which anyone can ask a BDSM question and have it answered by any one of the many people who pop in and out of there on a more-or-less regular basis.
We have all kinds as members of our small community: Dom/mes, Switches, subs, everyday life-experienced, seekers after theoretical knowledge, sympathetic nillas, newbies to this lifestyle, couples, singles, Tops, bottoms, masochists, Sadists, and more. At least one of us, probably more, will be able to answer your sincere questions, respond to your concerns, address your issues, and laugh, cry, and rejoice with you if you decid to begin walking your own BDSM path. There a path into this for anyone who wants it, and everyone's way of expressing this in thie rlife is as valid and right (for them) as is any else's way.
Just to be clear, though, Lit's BDSM forum is not an appropriate place to let us know that you don't like what we do with our sexual lives. Every one of us over there has faced enough of that kind of censure already. It's just a place wherein you can ask some questions, get some answers, and talk over some issues.
In our posts and threads in the BDSM forum, we tend toward acceptance and inclusion of those who come our way, and we possess a broad-minded tolerance for questions and concerns about kinks of all persuasions. There’ll never be much flaming or fighting here if only because most of us have felt the lashing hurt of individual and societal displeasure and fear with regard to our very-private sexuality. As a group (however loosely-defined) BDSM’ers tend to be very accepting of individual sexual differences, needs, and desires.
Lit's BDSM forum is all about discussion and thought. We talk over issues and needs and experiences. We compare techniques and suppliers and how to make our own toys. One of the methods by which we've decided to further our feeling of community is the decision to disallow personals ads in our forum. One can ask anything that's BDSM-related, talk about anything at all, no matter how "out there" a fetish it is, but one may *not* post a personals ad in our forum.
If you have a question, no matter how basic or "out there", i invite you to come visit us, to ask, to grow.
We all grow as any one of us grows.
We all benefit from the questions asked and issues raised.
I might urge you to do a SEARCH for your particular question before you post, though. We've got a major storehouse of BDSM-related info over there - and it's almost all of the real life, skin-to-skin variety, too.
We don't do chat room style BDSM in Lit's BDSM forum. At all. Please leave your chat room BDSM crap, uh, stuff, uh "manners" at the door before you pop in. Thanks.
We who spend most of out Lit time in the BDSM forum are real people, just like you, who just experess our sexuality in an out-of-the-mainstream manner.
You'd be welcome.
cym
BDSM Forum Moderator
I spent a year here, with you, before we got the BDSM board. Am i scary? Do i make people feel unwelcome, unaccepted, unappreciated, not enough in some way? Risia was here on the GB for two years before we got the BDSM board. Does she make anyone feel unacceptable? What about WD? (Okay, he's got that kooky political thing in his GB past...but that kinda stuff is *not* part of the BDSM board at all.)
We're the BDSM board moderators.
Additionally, a bunch of people who spent large amounts of time of the GB before we got the BDSM board are over there, too. Some, like KillerMuffin, aren't even BDSM'er at all, simply interested and knowledgeable non-BDSM'ers. Some, like sexy-girl, aren't BDSM'er either, and don't know much about it, but are curious and open mineded and know they can ask and we'll answer and *not* make them feel foolish or wrong or bad in some way for doing so.
We're the same people who were here. We're the same people who are still here, most of us, though in a somewhat less obvious capacity.
Our small online community over on the BDSM board is one in which anyone can ask a BDSM question and have it answered by any one of the many people who pop in and out of there on a more-or-less regular basis.
We have all kinds as members of our small community: Dom/mes, Switches, subs, everyday life-experienced, seekers after theoretical knowledge, sympathetic nillas, newbies to this lifestyle, couples, singles, Tops, bottoms, masochists, Sadists, and more. At least one of us, probably more, will be able to answer your sincere questions, respond to your concerns, address your issues, and laugh, cry, and rejoice with you if you decid to begin walking your own BDSM path. There a path into this for anyone who wants it, and everyone's way of expressing this in thie rlife is as valid and right (for them) as is any else's way.
Just to be clear, though, Lit's BDSM forum is not an appropriate place to let us know that you don't like what we do with our sexual lives. Every one of us over there has faced enough of that kind of censure already. It's just a place wherein you can ask some questions, get some answers, and talk over some issues.
In our posts and threads in the BDSM forum, we tend toward acceptance and inclusion of those who come our way, and we possess a broad-minded tolerance for questions and concerns about kinks of all persuasions. There’ll never be much flaming or fighting here if only because most of us have felt the lashing hurt of individual and societal displeasure and fear with regard to our very-private sexuality. As a group (however loosely-defined) BDSM’ers tend to be very accepting of individual sexual differences, needs, and desires.
Lit's BDSM forum is all about discussion and thought. We talk over issues and needs and experiences. We compare techniques and suppliers and how to make our own toys. One of the methods by which we've decided to further our feeling of community is the decision to disallow personals ads in our forum. One can ask anything that's BDSM-related, talk about anything at all, no matter how "out there" a fetish it is, but one may *not* post a personals ad in our forum.
If you have a question, no matter how basic or "out there", i invite you to come visit us, to ask, to grow.
We all grow as any one of us grows.
We all benefit from the questions asked and issues raised.
I might urge you to do a SEARCH for your particular question before you post, though. We've got a major storehouse of BDSM-related info over there - and it's almost all of the real life, skin-to-skin variety, too.
We don't do chat room style BDSM in Lit's BDSM forum. At all. Please leave your chat room BDSM crap, uh, stuff, uh "manners" at the door before you pop in. Thanks.
We who spend most of out Lit time in the BDSM forum are real people, just like you, who just experess our sexuality in an out-of-the-mainstream manner.
You'd be welcome.
cym
BDSM Forum Moderator
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