Do You Know Anyone Who is Homophobic?

juicylips

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I went to a family gathering recently. I have two uncles that are openly gay. One got married this past New Years. The other lives with his partner. Sometimes these gatherings are rather tense with certain family members trying to avoid others. I hate the tension. It's so uneeded. Hard for the children present to not feel the unease.

Growing up, I had two aunts marry black men. I have bi racial cousins. I thought this was normal and ok. But I remember terse words and family members not coming to celebrations and such based on who was going to be there.

It just seems that some things never change.

What about you? How do you handle family stress or unacceptance?

JL:kiss:
 
juicylips said:

What about you? How do you handle family stress or unacceptance?

Not very well, I am afraid. Well, in some areas.

My family has a long time gay friend, who was ostrasized by his own family, and joined ours for all family functions for years, till he moved away. We loved him like he should have been by his own family. He was and still is, a very special man. So in that respect, I give my family some credit.

However, I am going through a tough time at the moment, in that my former free-wheeling mother is judging me on my lifestyle choices. She doesn't get or want to understand my situation, and it is causing a pretty big rift. And considering her former life choices, I really feel she's got no room to look down her nose at me. But hey, such is life, right?
 
I have a gay cousin and there were some who would not talk to him.

He opened a muffin bakery in seattle called the muffin man.

at one gathering a cousin said i'm not going to sit next to fag and got up and left the table.

This gay cousin last i heard lives in south america.

Hi juicy :kiss: :rose:
 
My brother and his wife are deeply religious. We used to have some pretty heated arguments, because I will not sit around and listen to them queer-bash. Finally, when it got to the point where I wouldn't be in the same room with them, we discussed the matter like civilized adults. They accepted that they weren't going to change my mind, and I accepted that I wasn't going to change theirs. Since we're family, and we do care about each other, we mutually decided that for the sake of sanity, and maintaining family bonds, we would not discuss it. They know how I feel. I know how they feel. End of story.

As for the rest of my family, they don't care who you fuck in your free time. I was raised not to judge people like that. In this one case, my brother is the black sheep of the family, not me.
 
I'm at a similar issue with Naudiz. Dad's a religious leader (I.E. guy who preaches) and he does a lot of gay-bashing. Far too much.

And holy shit, it's almost 4 am. *Jaw drops.*

Ah. Yeah. Right now, I'm still somewhat financially relying on the guy, so I don't attack him as ruthlessly for some of the things said as I should - but I make my point clear that it's not okay with me.

And Naudiz, I'll always think of you as the black sheep.
 
juicylips said:
What about you? How do you handle family stress or unacceptance?

JL:kiss:

Good morning Juicy,
He He You already know my answer to this one partly. :)

I end up in disbelief, sadness, disappointment, anger, denial and so on. The normal emotions when things don't go the way you want/expect.
You just have to look at the individual situation and where you stand in life at that very moment. Think carefully, reflect all the possibilities, consequences and so on. Then make your choice, and from there become a stronger person.

Now, if I had lived with just my father, things would be dandy, but having a Thai mom...well...that complicates things at times. If I follow their every wishes when it comes to acceptance, then I can forget dating quite a few men. And I'd never ever think of doing it with a woman. LOL

When it comes to the homosexuality part. Well, let's just say I'd have a wonderful time if I one day told my relatives I'm lesbian or bi. The Thai side would freak. LOL. Over there it's seen as a sickness, but on the other hand, how pathetic it may sound, I do think my mom would partly accept me being lesbian better than dating a middle easter plumber! As her philosophy goes; "If you're a lesbian, it's a sickness, and then I'd have to accept it because I wouldn't be able to cure you from it. Now, just don't walk around telling everybody you are..."

Sometimes I wonder how I ended up having so different views from my parents... At least I love and respect them dearly for never ever forcing their opinions on me, but let me form my own ones.

/LP:kiss:
 
No i'm going to stay around the apt. and clean.

And try to get my new camera to work on my computer it will not let me run the program.

At the end of te mont i'm going off line for a little while till i can get my computer hooked up to a new server getting rid of msn.:rose:
 
Re: Re: Do You Know Anyone Who is Homophobic?

Lovepotion69 said:


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When it comes to the homosexuality part. Well, let's just say I'd have a wonderful time if I one day told my relatives I'm lesbian or bi. <snip>
/LP:kiss:


Does this mean you can't tell them about that threeway between me, you and Starblayde?:D

JL:kiss:
 
Yes. Then again, I know quite a few people who are so generally xenophobic that they fear (and thus hate) anything and everyone that isn't like them.
 
Being born and raised in TN I knew quite a few people like that. They would go so far as to be the living hell out of a "fag." From what I have seen and tried to do there is no way to talk to these people. You can't make them understand that what they are doing is wrong and that even gays have a right to happiness. It wasn't till the late 90's that gay men could walk down the streets of Nashville without the fear of someone jumping them.

Morning JL :)
 
juicylips said:
I went to a family gathering recently. I have two uncles that are openly gay. One got married this past New Years. The other lives with his partner. Sometimes these gatherings are rather tense with certain family members trying to avoid others. I hate the tension. It's so uneeded. Hard for the children present to not feel the unease.

Growing up, I had two aunts marry black men. I have bi racial cousins. I thought this was normal and ok. But I remember terse words and family members not coming to celebrations and such based on who was going to be there.

It just seems that some things never change.

What about you? How do you handle family stress or unacceptance?

JL:kiss:


No. but Glamorilla sure is turning me that way :p
 
juicylips said:


Morning, mark.:kiss:

How does your weekend look?

Work or play?

JL:kiss:

Work till 6am Saturday morning get some sleep then play the rest of the weekend. :)
 
I grew up with a family that bashed homosexuals all the time. You know the preaching of bad and sin...hell everything according to them was sin. Oh well another story...

I haven't been to a family gathering in so long I don't know what the talk is now. Maybe I'll try and make the next one and see if things have changed with the newer generations.

My view...if you are happy do what makes you happy. I am not going to change you I will be your friend. By the same token I expect my friends not to change me but to accept me as I am.

Morning JL!
 
My father has got to be one of the most hateful and bigoted people I've ever come across. How do I handle it?? I tune him out, it's the only thing that works. He's not going to change at this late date.

Trish
 
juicylips said:



Morning, A.:)

How are you?
JL:kiss:

Thankful it's Friday and this is the last day this week I have to make a 60 mile round trip just to go to work...oh to be back in my own office only 6 miles away from home! :rose:
 
Re: Re: Do You Know Anyone Who is Homophobic?

jass1960 said:



No. but Glamorilla sure is turning me that way :p



Groaning....

Panty drench.

I'm imagining a threeway here.:p

JL:kiss:
 
i guess im really lucky ... i remember lisa coming with me to our first family get together as a couple(i have a big irish family) and all of them were fine with it ... i think there was some that were slightly uncomfortable and maybe they did have a problem with it but they never voiced it and the vast majority of my family were great

i have some of the funniest uncles and they made fun jokes to relax people and it was all cool
 
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