Do you kiss frogs?

Jada59

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I refer to the old saying about how one must kiss a lot of frogs before she finds her prince.

In the past, I did try this because some people in my life said I was too picky when it comes to men. Now I will say that I like men in general but that doesn't mean that I see them all as potential mates or sex partners.

But when it comes to people in general, my first impressions are rarely ever wrong! Either that "spark" is there or it isn't. If it isn't, then nothing is likely to change that.

One possible exception might be my former FWB. With him, I seemed to be able to turn that spark on and of. We did work together so at times, we had to concentrate on what we were doing and push any sexual thoughts aside. But... If he were back in my life today, I know that spark would be there.

Where I am going with all this is in regards to people online. Sometimes I can tell right off the bat that they aren't right for me but they want me to give them a chance. I usually don't. The few times I did, it didn't work out. Or sometimes I like them a lot and think maybe there will be a spark later, but there isn't.

So... In a case like this, do you give them a chance or not?
 
Quite agree. Either it's good or it isn't. Life's too short to hang about with the toads ☺
 
It's not one way or the other. The other saying goes: dont judge a book by its cover. Sometimes there is a prince hidden in the frog. There are so many factors that can temporarily chance a person's demeanor and behaviour. When I'm horny I'm a different person than when I am "sober" for example.. You have to give people a chance to show the real them. But, there has to be some sort of spark or connection one the dates, how small it is. If you dont feel that, you are wasting your time.
 
It's not one way or the other. The other saying goes: dont judge a book by its cover. Sometimes there is a prince hidden in the frog. There are so many factors that can temporarily chance a person's demeanor and behaviour. When I'm horny I'm a different person than when I am "sober" for example.. You have to give people a chance to show the real them. But, there has to be some sort of spark or connection one the dates, how small it is. If you dont feel that, you are wasting your time.

Yes!

I think I can read people pretty well. If I sense that they are not feeling well, in pain, a nervous wreck, etc. then they warrant a second chance.

I just seem to keep finding people I have nothing at all in common with and they keep pushing for another chance or for me to meet them. In that case, I can't see the point!
 
Yes!

I think I can read people pretty well. If I sense that they are not feeling well, in pain, a nervous wreck, etc. then they warrant a second chance.

I just seem to keep finding people I have nothing at all in common with and they keep pushing for another chance or for me to meet them. In that case, I can't see the point!

Ahw. That sucks Jada. You are right then to ignore the frogs if you are open for second chances. I'm curious though, what are some interest you have to have in common? PM me if you dont want it to be publicly known :p
 
Ahw. That sucks Jada. You are right then to ignore the frogs if you are open for second chances. I'm curious though, what are some interest you have to have in common? PM me if you dont want it to be publicly known :p

That's the thing. In the instances I'm thinking of, we are human and we love sex. Those are pretty much the only things we have in common.

I don't expect the other person to be exactly like me but there just some things I'm not into. Such as watching TV or sports. If the other person just *has* to do that every day or several times a week, it won't work for me. I can excuse the sports if they just watch, say, football. But don't expect me to go to the games with you or sit there and cheer in front of the TV. I might sit with you and read a book though.

There are also some things that some people do that I flat out dislike. Such as hunting. I don't think I could bring myself to be with a person who does that.

There are other things I'm not into that I might be willing to do if I was really into the other person. Such as seeing a movie or going camping. I wouldn't want to do this very often though. If they need to do this stuff every week, again it won't work.

I don't expect my partner and I to share every interest but if we have so little in common that we can't even have a good conversation, then it won't work. You may have noticed, I'm the yappy type. Hehe.
 
This whole kissing frogs thing is completely sexist and non PC. Kissing frogs needs to be banned immediately!!!! FFS why is there no creepy animal for men to kiss to get their Princess!!1 Too say nothing of the horror of animal abuse!!! :rolleyes::D
 
The more people I chat with, the more convinced I am that you either have it or you don’t. Any online relationship of any significance I’ve had, has started with an instant chemistry where I just knew right away.
 
The more people I chat with, the more convinced I am that you either have it or you don’t. Any online relationship of any significance I’ve had, has started with an instant chemistry where I just knew right away.

There is a lot of truth in that statement both online and in real life
 
There is a lot of truth in that statement both online and in real life

I have to admit...I have kissed many frogs....I have more than likely been some one else's frog.


The fact is...sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to find ...that it.
 
Down here not only do we have frogs but also scaley skinned gators & slippery skinned serpents.

I can't say anything about online as It is extremely rare I'm instantly attracted to somebody. It's happened but rare. And this is the only place I am online. So I say trust your intuition.

I have a situation in real life now at one of my markets where I've known this woman for a few years. There is definitely a mutual attraction & I know I can see her tomorrow & tell her I will bring her home Sunday nite to spend the night & she will be there. But I hesitate. There is a huge question mark in doing that. So no matter how strong the attraction & desire, I have to go with my intuition.
 
The more people I chat with, the more convinced I am that you either have it or you don’t. Any online relationship of any significance I’ve had, has started with an instant chemistry where I just knew right away.

Same for me.
 
Down here not only do we have frogs but also scaley skinned gators & slippery skinned serpents.

I can't say anything about online as It is extremely rare I'm instantly attracted to somebody. It's happened but rare. And this is the only place I am online. So I say trust your intuition.

I have a situation in real life now at one of my markets where I've known this woman for a few years. There is definitely a mutual attraction & I know I can see her tomorrow & tell her I will bring her home Sunday nite to spend the night & she will be there. But I hesitate. There is a huge question mark in doing that. So no matter how strong the attraction & desire, I have to go with my intuition.

Thanks!
 
The more people I chat with, the more convinced I am that you either have it or you don’t. Any online relationship of any significance I’ve had, has started with an instant chemistry where I just knew right away.
I agree with you . That is the only way mine are
 
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