Do you have reactive desire? Does this snippet ring true for you?

[joy_of_cooking]

(I guess you also need to be into some of my sexual kinks, but hopefully that's not too much of a distraction.)

I was almost done buffing the first of her boots when she opened the bedroom door. She was in the corset again, this time worn over her latex skater dress. Opera-length gloves and smokey nylons completed the look.

Catching my eye, she twirled slowly, then dropped a deep curtsey, hands plucking at the air to mime lifting a much longer, fuller dress than she really wore.

I let out a low whistle. "Reactive desire, huh?"

She smiled ruefully. "I'm working on it."

Our sex life had gotten a lot better once we figured that out. Rachel didn't get spontaneously horny the way I did. She needed to be drawn into it. Going for a kiss or sliding my hand up her thigh just made her feel like a piece of meat (and unlike me she didn't like that).

It was why kinky stuff worked so well for us. Pouring herself into a rubber dress, leading me around on a leash, being licked through the leather of her shoe, these apparently didn't feel sexual to her, which meant she could do them without being turned on.

But boy were they sexual for me, and seeing the lust grow in my eyes fanned the flames of her own arousal. By the time she finally let me touch her, she would be more than ready to be touched.

 

[AlinaX]

That's sweet. I like it.

 

[TheLobster]

To me it sounds like the guy simply sucks at and usually just rushes through foreplay.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Five stars for "smokey nylons" alone.

 

[THBGato]

My wife is a bit like that. If she dresses up, it helps her get in the mood.

I mean, other things work too (massages especially), but it's a useful shortcut! ;-)

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Being turned on by your partner being turned on is a thing, sometimes for many people, so plausibly most of the time for some people. Works for me.

 

[KittyOfSteele]

The outfit got me, but what made it up for me is the leash and the shoe worship, so I can relate.

 

[TheRedChamber]

I've no idea if people actually work like that, but after reading your excerpt I have every confidence you can pursuade me they do.

 

[joy_of_cooking]

The outfit got me, but what made it up for me is the leash and the shoe worship, so I can relate.

Sorry, this kind of colloquialism is where my English falls short. I can tell you're saying you like one of these and not the other, but I can't tell whether you like the outfit and dislike the leash and shoe worship or vice versa. (Either way, sounds like I should check out your stories.)

 

[KittyOfSteele]

Sorry, this kind of colloquialism is where my English falls short. I can tell you're saying you like one of these and not the other, but I can't tell whether you like the outfit and dislike the leash and shoe worship or vice versa. (Either way, sounds like I should check out your stories.)

No, I'm saying I like both!

E: To answer your question into more specifics, the outfit got me aroused immediately (reactive desire); I'm a sucker for latex outfits, blame my goth phase. It's the leash and the shoe worship that got me hooked though, and I'm saying that as someone who gets her gender dysphoria triggered quite often while reading erotica from the male POV. This snipped happened to be in the exception.