Do you have a BDSM AHA moment?

[quietwillow]

Describe what happened and what your thoughts on that moment were. ( i will post mine later.)

qw

 

[LisaFunOne1]

um....
can you elaborate?

bdsm aha moment?

 

[catalina_francisco]

During my life I have experimented plenty with all things sexual from mid teens to present day. No matter how much I enjoyed it I always felt there was something missing, something which though would not necessarily quench the fire for more, but give a feeling of fulfilment and having discovered the secret key. From ever since I can remember I had fantasies around all things BDSM, but for many years after beginning sexual experimentation, did not know there was a lifestyle full of people just like me.

Previous life choices got in the way of exploring too much in that direction for awhile, but once on the path I knew there was no turning back. The first experience I had with an experienced D who was happy to experiment with my pain levels was my 'aha' moment. I remember laying there afterwards alone while he cooked dinner, thinking about the way I felt, what I had experienced, and how suddenly I realised the new feeling I was lost in was like I had arrived where I belonged at last and no longer was there a gnawing hunger for an unknown 'more' eating at me. I had found what did it for me and I wanted more so I could revel in the sensations.

Catalina

 

[FungiUg]

Is this like playing "Take On Me" while whipping someone?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Is this like playing "Take On Me" while whipping someone?

Isn't listening to the high notes in that song enough of a 'whipping'?!?

I've had so many moments in the last 6 months, it is hard to list them all...

 

[Netzach]

I have them once a week or so, it's what living with your bottom does to you. After a year I'm still learning a lot of this person's intricacies, what makes him tick, what works and why.

For me the AHA moments are multiple and huge, almost every scene I called "good" afterwards whether I was bottom or top, was one. The scenes that didn't enlighten me in some way are the ones I don't remember as well.

 

[bunny bondage]

i've had several "aha" moments, one of which is when i discovered the "bdsm" section of this site and said "aha! bdsm - those are the letters i need to look for..." because well, i knew nothing and was really just trying to get myself off. thus began my love affair with this place.

another smaller aha moment is when i was playing around with a length of rope, trying to somehow form a leash out of it that went around my hips and, when tugged on, increased pressure between my legs.


i tried several variations, but the one that finally works is...

ok, this is getting very complicated. i will just draw you people a picture.

 

[Croctden]

It's simpler just to attach a clamp to your clit and put it on a leash. Never had a sub fail to keep up with that.

 

[il mio angelo]

The first real "aha" moment I had was a few years ago, when while browsing the net I found a BDSM site. As I read a journal that a submissive had written for her Dom, everything she described, everything she felt was what I had felt for so long... it all just seemed to click. I had dabbled a bit as a teenager, nothing more than a few minor S&M techniques, but until I actually associated it with a name, I just thought it was a kink, or a fetish thing. Until I read that journal and started looking into it more, I never knew that it could be, and was a way of life... but I knew that it made total sense to me.


Another aha moment came just last month, when my relationship with my former Master ended. Though we had a good relationship, I never really connected on a deep emotional level with him. When I/we realized that that connection was not there, our relationship ended, and it was at that moment that I realized that I want/need to have that connection to completely surrender ALL of myself to someone.


I look forward to many more "aha moments" in the future.

 

[bunny bondage]

hey! my drawing vanished....

 

[FungiUg]

hey! my drawing vanished....

Aha!

 

[s'lara]

Aha!

i really needed a laugh this morning and You provided it Fungi. This was hysterical.

lara

 

[AngelicAssassin]

hey! my drawing vanished....

Ok, maybe it's not just me getting paranoid, and this really just became a true aha moment.

Was the attachment you had posted above not your original intent?