Do you feel completely different from the norm?

[AvaAdore]

I've been noticing this more and more. My social group is mostly made up of people who are "alternative". Different I guess. A lot of them are geeks, open-minded. We dress differently. And the more I talk to other people, the more I am in a totally different world.

Or maybe I've been living in this little town too long...

 

[AngelicAssassin]

If the majority group exists as sheep, yes.

 

[PyroDemon]

I have just decided it is me and my people that are the"norm" and everyone else is just screwed up.

 

[ethereal~minx]

I am unconventional, non-conformist, diffferent
to say the least.

uh huh, yes~ I feel different.

I am learning to love this about myself.

however... I am also learning that some of these little things can be to my detriment so...
I am thinking things through a little more carefully (as much as my nature allows) so that I do not unintentionally affect the people I truly cherish in adverse ways

 

[redelicious]

I have always felt different, even as a kid. But with the variety of people and lifestyles that we all see everyday, who is to say what is normal? Doesn't bother me anymore.

 

[SweetDommes]

Holly and I have always been pretty ... unconventional, I suppose (brings to mind visions of "unconventional conventioninsts" LOL).

We have even become the "outcasts of the outcasts" in a sense with being ostracised from two different munch groups now ...

I think that people who are into BDSM find that other outcasts (geeks, nerds, dorks, ect - handicapped people in one way or another - anyone who is "different") are more open minded and accept them more, and thus are more likely to become friends with said outcasts. I know that I have always been more comfortable with the computer nerds and AD&D dorks than with the "popular" people in school. In fact, one of our boys used to be an AD&D dork when he was in school (and still would be if he had people to game with) and the other does vampire/werewolf gaming now ...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have always felt different, even as a kid. But with the variety of people and lifestyles that we all see everyday, who is to say what is normal? Doesn't bother me anymore.

Can identify with this, and not just from my own perspective..since childhood it has been a common statement from others that I am different, thankfully in a positive sense, not negative. I also haven't given much thought to normal as it seems subjective as to what constitutes that description and in whose opinion, if indeed there is such a thing. I am just me and I am happy with that most times.

Catalina

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

I'm different from the "norm" in many ways. I'm pagan. That makes me different from most everyone I know offline right there. I'm also heavily into BDSM, 24/7, and that's enough to make me different from many pagans - many disapprove of BDSM as much as fundamentalist Christians do. So I do feel like I'm completely different.

On the other hand, this has developed into a kink for exhibitionism, showing off being kinky. Especially in a large city, in places where there aren't kids around, like a bar. So it's not all bad.

 

[kitty4ever]

I have always preferred the term "unique"

 

[dragonlace]

I have never even before the lifestyle been of the normal variety. I have always been more of a creative spirit and sensitive so i never really fit in. I am just me and people either accept me or not. Now in the lifestyle i fit in about the same as i always did, just outside the norm never wanting in.

 

[FungiUg]

Who is this Norm person anyway?

 

[CagedDesires]

Honestly I have always felt different from other people...not that I have dressed differently. I always looked like the girl next door...the sweet innocent type,but it always felt like I didn't fit in....that there was something more out there.

 

[CagedDesires]

Honestly I have always felt different from other people...not that I have dressed differently. I always looked like the girl next door...the sweet innocent type,but it always felt like I didn't fit in....that there was something more out there.

 

[James G 5]

I haven't felt any norms lately, so it's hard to say

 

[Xelebes]

Ummmm... yeah.

I hung out with the geeks if they would let me in... I was never able to fit much into groups. Hence I avoided a lot of DnD and other geeky social games cuz I was too shy to ask to join and stuff. In high school, I was fortunate to have three or four friends to hang around with - and that was all I really did because I couldn't keep up with their talk of comuter games, movies and Warhammer. I was totally out of the loop of anything...

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Who is this Norm person anyway?

Cheers, mate.

 

[snowy ciara]

All together now: "Norm!"

In reference to being pervy and kinky and bisexual; no it doesn't make me feel odd or abnormal.

But a lot of that has to do with the fact that I've never run with the herd. Noncomformity rocks. Of course, it gets a little lonely out here sometimes, but the view is better from the outside. I think the real telling thing for me is that I could conform. I could go and be into clothes and boys and getting an MRS degree and settle down for the 2 car garage and the 2.3 kids and life in the carpool lane. But I'd rather not live at all, than live a life of quiet desperation. To quote Robert Frost. "I took the road less traveled, and that has made all the difference."

(Or I'm assuming it will, check back in 20 years and I'll let you know!)

Wow! Two serious posts in one day.. You folks worried yet?

 

[redelicious]

Re: All together now: "Norm!"

I could go and be into clothes and boys and getting an MRS degree and settle down for the 2 car garage and the 2.3 kids and life in the carpool lane.

Believe me, that stuff won't *make* you normal. It's just stuff that happens with life. It doesn't change who you are or what you're all about.

(it's just an aside, I get your point )

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: All together now: "Norm!"

Believe me, that stuff won't *make* you normal. It's just stuff that happens with life. It doesn't change who you are or what you're all about.

(it's just an aside, I get your point )

Nope it won't
might give you the facade but won't change who you are inside

And that's why I say "norm" is a lie
It's just a lot of people agreeing on a facade that 99% of them don't really live, even if only in their minds

 

[snowy ciara]

But some folks buy into that myth. They try to live it, believe in it, think they are it.

 

[James G 5]

But some folks buy into that myth. They try to live it, believe in it, think they are it.

And they're the ones who try to oppress the rest of us because we're a threat to their illusions

 

[DVS]

Well, musicians are of their own breed, anyway. At least those of my generation are. So, we are different because of that. We talk about guitar lics or chord progressions like they were "real things".

As far as BDSM, in my younger years (just because of my long hair}, I was the hippie "freak". That was a preferred term, though. We liked being freaks. We could scare people by just walking into a store, kind of like our own little Hell's Angels gang. Actually, we were all quite docile and friendly. We just looked freaky.

Then, as my late 20s came around, I was meeting more BDSM people. I became more of a conformist in the daytime, and let my hair down (as it were) at night, so I traveled with two different crowds, a day crowd and a night crowd. I was both an "AM" (vanilla) and a "PM" (kinky) person. The Corporate world will do that to ya'...split you in two.

Then, by my later 30s, I was going strong with the BDSM scene and didn't care what others thought. I did keep the actual parcipitation quiet, but was more open with my my sexual likes. That got me labeled as "that guy" and there was a lot of finger pointing and whispering to go along with it.

Now, I don't have many friends that care about, or that ask about my sexual likes. But, I'm just me now, and nobody seems to whisper, point fingers or call me names. But, I don't go to any vanilla parties, either, so maybe I stay away from all of that, by not rubbing elbows with the "OUT" crowd?

When it all boils down, I never felt different, but I was treated different for a long time. I always felt they were the different ones, but they just didn't know it.

 

[MissTaken]

I am the norm.

It is the rest of the world that is abnormal.

 

[James G 5]

I am the norm.

It is the rest of the world that is abnormal.

They've all been implanted with the aby-normal brain??

 

[ghosst_K&H]

my response to this question is always...

Define normal

Everyone has a facade they show the world, it's what goes on under the skin thats important, and i personally am a non conformist, i really don't care what the flavor of the week is.