Do you ever

LordMagicMan

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Have the feeling you are being ignored by someone that calls you a friend?
 
~looking at a zillion unanswered emails with something akin to panic~

Sometimes people just get busy. We mean to keep up, we don't intend offense, we certainly think of the others as friends, but... well... we get busy. Life throws other stuff at us.

Then a week has gone past and you haven't replied to that email. Then longer, and it's still there, still unanswered. Waiting longer forces us to simply delete the email and wish feverently that the person understands, or sending simple and abject apologies and swearing it'll never ever happen again.

Happens to us all, don't you think?
So does feeling like we're being ignored by a friend.
 
cymbidia - I'm waiting patiently for a reply and am not upset. Take your time.

I have a dear friend whom I've known for about thirteen years. We were closer in the past, seeing each other regularly although we didn't live very close to one another. Over the last few years we've seen each other less and I sometimes wonder about our friendship. But then we connect, perhaps over the phone, one time not too long ago taking a walk. I know at those moments of connection that nothing had changed the caring between the two of us. Our lives are very different and though we share fundamental values we're occupied in ways that don't easily permit connection. Sometimes that happens in the best of friendships. And in really intimate relationships there will be room for such distance.
 
Unless you've had a falling out with someone, don't assume that you're being ignored. It's quite possible that you're friend misses you very much, but sometimes obligations keep us from doing the things we really want, such as spending time with friends.
 
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