Do we need sex?

cati

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Simple question I know, but how many of you would be truly unhappy without some form of it in your lives.
As human beings who "need" certain things in their lives to be happy and healthy, such as food, shelter, money etc. couldn't sex be classified among them, as a "physical" need? I mean think of all the good it does for us *s
 
I crave it

I'm obsessed with it

I hunger for it


but do I "need" it? I'll get back to you after I ponder that question. :kiss:
 
mother nature sure thinks its a need... thats why its so much damn fun, to make sure we humans keep doing it and continue the species


on a more personal note, sombody (a bf) once suggested that we stop having sex... about a month later we broke up becuase of it.. i was truly unhappy that way, and felt like it was moving our relationship backwards from romantically and sexually involved to "just friends"
 
apart from the obvious pleasure we receive and the ability to procreate to do you think we need it to stay/be "emotionally or physically healthy" I mean do you think it's better for us to have sex than not have it?...get my gist?
 
Oh Yes

Yes. I need sex.

I need the memory of it. I need the certainty of sex to come. I need the promise of sex in the future.

But, I don’t need it with just anyone.

A casual fuck is not hard to find. Not difficult at all. There are times when casual sex works. It is useful in quenching a temporary hunger but it does nothing for my core need.

To quench that fire takes someone special.
 
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saw_man1 said:
Yes. I need sex.

I need the memory of it. I need the certainty of sex to come. I need the promise of sex in the future.

But, I don’t need it with just anyone.

A casual fuck is not hard to find. Not difficult at all. There are times when casual sex works. It is useful in quenching a temporary hunger but it does nothing for the need that goes to the very core of my being.

To quench that fire takes someone special.

I'm with you on this completely.
 
saw_man1 said:
Yes. I need sex.

I need the memory of it. I need the certainty of sex to come. I need the promise of sex in the future.

But, I don’t need it with just anyone.

A casual fuck is not hard to find. Not difficult at all. There are times when casual sex works. It is useful in quenching a temporary hunger but it does nothing for the need that goes to the very core of my being.

To quench that fire takes someone special.


OK my question for you is why? ...what is it about you or in you that needs this?

(I'm only asking for the sake of discussion)
 
The importance of sexual expression in my psyche cannot be overstated. It's an important "Safety Valve" in my manic phases, and a decent means of overcoming my depressive phases. It chops the peaks and troughs of my emotional wave cycle, keeping things a little more even. For a goodly chunk of my life, it's been a solo act, but it keeps the edge off.

I'm not sure it's reached the level of obsession, but I honestly think that without some form of it, I't be dealing with yet another great stressor in my life, maybe the one that'll finally push me past the point I can at least keep a hold of my (outward appearences of) sanity.
 
There have been times in my life when I chose to be celibate, and in some ways it had positive effects in some areas of my life. Overall though it was more destructive and seemed to limit my experience of the world in many ways, often totally unrelated to sexual pursuits....instead of finding myself using that energy to spread my wings in the world, I found I became more introverted and would tend to focus heavily on one or two areas as opposed to a diversely wide area of topics and interests. I have a theory that all those orgasms have been very instrumental in maintaining what the cardiologist terms as an extremely strong heart with exceptional recovery time after exercise....what better way to keep the arteries clear and the blood pumping than through daily orgasms year in year out?!! :catroar:

Catalina :rose:
 
Cool. thanks SpectreT.

I've often thought of this question...

Once upon a time I read an article entitled "Slave Needs" where the author listed several "basic" needs of both Master and slave in order of importance. (Wish I could find it, not that it was that great or anything).
The article listed the Master's "basic" needs first, then the slaves "basic" needs etc etc. right down the line. Sex for slave was somewhere at the bottom of the list...a take it or leave it thing.
Ok so.... if sex isn't a real"need" from that author's perspective, what is it?
...a treat?
In another thread here in Lit. someone mentioned that Dominating his sub/slave was more important to them than having sex with their partners. (Please don't quote me on this)

There are many subs out there who feel the same way, that they would easily prefer being Dominated mentally and not have sex at all, or any form of it.
Sheesh, Sex is so much BIGGER than that, don't you think.

It can't just be "well it feels good so I want some more of it."...can it?
 
...exactly !

So catalina in essence you are saying that for you sex is a need, to keep you mentally on track and physically healthy.
 
Simple question I know, but how many of you would be truly unhappy without some form of it in your lives.
As human beings who "need" certain things in their lives to be happy and healthy, such as food, shelter, money etc. couldn't sex be classified among them, as a "physical" need? I mean think of all the good it does for us *s

For me, sex is a very real physical need. While I don't think a lack of sex over a period of time makes me unhappy per se, it definitely frustrates me and my temper is often affected as a result.
 
cati said:
...exactly !

So catalina in essence you are saying that for you sex is a need, to keep you mentally on track and physically healthy.

LOL, definately...fortunately I became slave to and married a passionate Spaniard. :cathappy:

Catalina :catroar:
 
No, we as humans don't need sex. However, for men, orgasm is a definite physical need, and for me personally, sex is an emotional need.
 
I'll just beat a dead horse here and repeat the fact that sex isn't like air...we won't DIE if we don't get any of it.

But, as for me, I've found out something interesting.

Some scientists believe that women who are in commited monogamous relationships that do not use condoms actually become dependant on the hormones that semen contains. They actually go through -withdrawals- when that supply has been cut off. So the next time you see a cranky woman and you hear someone snidely remark "Oh, she just needs to get laid." It just might be true!

I know this is true for me. If I go too long without my 'fix' (say we've been having a lot of oral or anal, etc...) I start to have vicious mood swings where I'll cry for no reason at all!

Sooo...yes, to put it mildly I 'need' sex. For more than one reason!
 
cati said:
Simple question I know, but how many of you would be truly unhappy without some form of it in your lives.
As human beings who "need" certain things in their lives to be happy and healthy, such as food, shelter, money etc. couldn't sex be classified among them, as a "physical" need? I mean think of all the good it does for us *s

I'd say no, I don't need it. but the teens at work may argue with that as when Master decides that I don't need an orgasm for a week, by day 3 the kids start telling me that I need to go get laid. Guess I get a little bitchy. :D
 
satindesire said:
I'll just beat a dead horse here and repeat the fact that sex isn't like air...we won't DIE if we don't get any of it.


LOL, some things are worse than death. :D

Catalina :rose:
 
I confess I love sex. But it goes beyond that. I might not NEED sex, per se, but I need the emotional closeness that comes along with it. I also find that I need Her to take it, even if I'm not really in the mood to HAVE it. It's the connection that comes about from it that I need.
 
No we do not need sex. That has been proven. However most people substitute need with want.

Perhaps the real need is for intimacy or a feeling of closeness, the warmth that another person brings.

Babies can die without the warmth of being held close. They call it the "failure to thrive".

I wonder what dies or fails to thrive in adults when they are denied the warmth and feeling that comes with intimacy. Just a thought.

Eb
 
In a perfect world, new individuals would be formed by the fusion of two isogametes, each the product of meiotic division.
 
I have been thinking about this topic off and on today. Need is a very strong word. I mean I don't need sex like I need food, water, or shelter from the rain. I do however need sex in the way I need love, validation as a person, and chocolate.
 
Ebonyfire said:
I wonder what dies or fails to thrive in adults when they are denied the warmth and feeling that comes with intimacy. Just a thought.

Eb
I can tell you that one from personal experience. It's this gaping black hole where my soul used to be. It's the urge to do anything. I haven't picked up my camera in almost a year. Hope dies, too. Slowly. Wastes away in a metaphorical hospital bed with breathing tubes and feeding tubes. It's really frikkin' ugly. I wouldn't recommend the experience.
 
SpectreT said:
I can tell you that one from personal experience. It's this gaping black hole where my soul used to be. It's the urge to do anything. I haven't picked up my camera in almost a year. Hope dies, too. Slowly. Wastes away in a metaphorical hospital bed with breathing tubes and feeding tubes. It's really frikkin' ugly. I wouldn't recommend the experience.

Neither would I. And I cannot help but wonder how many people use sex to get close to that special place that makes things feel warm and fuzzy.

And, lacking the connection, they keep using their bodies to keep searching for that feeling.
 
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