Do they know?

[PlayfulLittle1]

I'm insanely curious about the mechanics of other peoples' marriages/relationships. To that end, I was wondering if y'all would participate in this poll. Comments are EXTREMELY welcome, as there are a million follow up questions I would love to ask, but obviously can't in poll-form.

I've only really had one serious relationship myself, so I don't really know what "normal" ones work like sometimes. I fall into the "spouse knows, and has participated" but he doesn't care sort of category. (BTW: If you're not in a relationship, please answer with the answer that would correspond to your LAST serious relationship!) Also, I think it'll say this, but the poll should be anonymous. If that helps. *grin*

So tell me where you fall! Do you sneak? Why do you sneak? What would be the repercussions if they found out? If you were getting everything you needed from your spouse, would you quit using lit? Spill! Or PM me even, I just love to find out this sort of thing.

 

[OxfordDon]

No they don't know, and I actively hide it...I confess!

 

[Kindtome621]

I confess too....they don't know and I actively hide it.

 

[ViolentSkye]

No they don't know, and I actively hide it...I confess!

:O Don! You naughty thing!

My boyfriend knows. He has his own account but doesn't really use it, other than to look at the photo threads. I don't think he's ever actually posted.

He's fine with my activity on here as long as I don't get into anything too serious with anyone. I actually think it makes him sort of proud to see the comments I get from other men. And he really likes when I get comments from women, haha!

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

:O Don! You naughty thing!

My boyfriend knows. He has his own account but doesn't really use it, other than to look at the photo threads. I don't think he's ever actually posted.

He's fine with my activity on here as long as I don't get into anything too serious with anyone. I actually think it makes him sort of proud to see the comments I get from other men. And he really likes when I get comments from women, haha!

That sounds very familiar.

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

Just a bump to see if I can get any more responses.

 

[Brian_m35]

My wife knows I come out here, but has no interest herself. I wish she did and would probably have more fun if she did, but it's just not her cup of tea.

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

My wife knows I come out here, but has no interest herself. I wish she did and would probably have more fun if she did, but it's just not her cup of tea.

Having them here comes with its own set of complications. Grass is always greener I guess.

 

[Azuldrgon]

My spouse knows...has no interest but is okay with me being here.

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

So now for those whose spouses know, do you play? Chat/cyber/cam/voice whatever? Is/would spouse be okay with that? Is that just assumed to come with the territory? (NOT an invitation, just asking! LMAO!)

 

[Azuldrgon]

So now for those whose spouses know, do you play? Chat/cyber/cam/voice whatever? Is/would spouse be okay with that? Is that just assumed to come with the territory? (NOT an invitation, just asking! LMAO!)

I know my limitations. lol

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

So far I'm surprised. I thought more were sneaking. Maybe the sneaky ones just aren't answering?

 

[PeteHulbert37]

She knows I snoop around on here, but she doesn't really know what it's all about. She would not be ok with any of those extra curricular activities.

 

[MollyDolly]

I met a partner on here, so he knew I posted and was fine with it.

I did not post for a long period of time (almost three years) during which I had another relationship- I did not tell him about Lit, but I was not on at that time.

The current new guy does not know, but I may tell him. I keep my activities pretty much on the threads- no cyber/phone/chat/etc. so I really don't see an issue with it.

 

[BiGuyMN]

So far I'm surprised. I thought more were sneaking. Maybe the sneaky ones just aren't answering?

We are sneaky!!

 

[PlayfulLittle1]

We are sneaky!!

YOU are probably not as sneaky as you think.

 

[BiGuyMN]

YOU are probably not as sneaky as you think.

Yeah, you are probably right. *sneak*

 

[IamTom42]

I've met someone through lit so she knows I'm here..she participates too...now to see what happens next

 

[Ellafun]

So now for those whose spouses know, do you play? Chat/cyber/cam/voice whatever? Is/would spouse be okay with that? Is that just assumed to come with the territory? (NOT an invitation, just asking! LMAO!)

He knows...has an account...we look at several of the pic threads together.

He knows I talk to several Lit friends, but honestly, I can't say he's completely okay with it, and no, he doesn't know everything I do...but he does know that he benefits from my time on Lit.

 

[scorallover]

I'm not involved in a relationship with one person right now, but generally I keep my online life separate from my real life.

 

[littlelovedove]

Mine has been two-fold. My hubby has no clue of my activities on this site or a few others. However LIT has also brought me a lover or two both in RL and online.

 

[lacandy]

My husband doesn't know that I am on the forums, though he does know that I read the stories (not neccessarily what kind of stories ). I don't know that he would be completely upset about my forum play, but am pretty sure he wouldn't like any other naughty things I get up to.

But in my defense...I've tried to get what I want from him and he's not willing.

 

[Ellafun]

My husband doesn't know that I am on the forums, though he does know that I read the stories (not neccessarily what kind of stories ). I don't know that he would be completely upset about my forum play, but am pretty sure he wouldn't like any other naughty things I get up to.

But in my defense...I've tried to get what I want from him and he's not willing.

I knew I liked you.

 

[TheSilverLining]

I voted "other" - because I'm not currently in a serious relationship (and therefore have nobody to hide Lit from).... but I have been before.
There didn't seem to be a 'currently single so no-one to hide it from atm' option.

 

[loquere]

Yes I never lie to the wife!