do some guys not get off when a woman sucks your cock?

[Guest]

I love to suck cock and swallow (my name gives THAT away). My b/f is 33 and has never had a sexual partner before me. I love to suck his cock and swallow his cum, but he can't actually get off unless he yanks himself to orgasm. I've never had complaints before (actually, quite a few WOW's , and I have this feeling that if it was any other guy, he'd want me to suck it all night (and I'd love too!)....Do you think it's because he's been jacking off for so long? I'd appreciate your feedback......

 

[Lili]

Hmm, I don't think that's it.

My bf never masturbates at all (I find that very bizarra, but that's a whole other story), but he sometimes doesn't cum when I suck him. Some nights he's just too tired, or some nights he's in too much pain (he's got a bad back).

Maybe you're bf wants something different than the other men you've known. Everyone has their own little quirks.

Lili

 

[cyndiesweet]

There is another thread that I started not long ago asking for technique suggestions that you might want to look at. One of the best suggestions I got was to watch him masterbate. See how he touches himself so you can touch him the way that works best for him. Of course he needs to feel pretty comfortable to do that.Threre were lots of other suggestions too. It is titled Best Blowjob Ever?

 

[Loverman]

Email me

Hi Cock Luver:

I can’t believe that this dud can’t get off when you suck his cock. If you are as hot as you appear to be, then the trouble is not yours. It is his. I strongly advise that you save your self. Please don’t go down with this ship. There are guys like me who love women that love cock, and we would be happy to save you from a fate worse than death!

DUMP THE DUD!

Loverman

 

[cyndiesweet]

Re: Email me

Hi Cock Luver:

I can’t believe that this dud can’t get off when you suck his cock. If you are as hot as you appear to be, then the trouble is not yours. It is his. I strongly advise that you save your self. Please don’t go down with this ship. There are guys like me who love women that love cock, and we would be happy to save you from a fate worse than death!

DUMP THE DUD!

Loverman

Are you serious? I would hate to get dumped because I couldn't orgasm a particular way. Not cool at all.

 

[It'sasecret]

Hey cockluver. My husband was the same way for awhile. He never had anyone ever suck his cock until me. It took a long time for him to feel comfortable enough to cum. I thought it was how I was doing it, but it was just a matter of him relaxing. He thought I hated doing it etc... that made it hard for him to enjoy. It just may take time. And be sure to tell him how much you love doing it for him. Good Luck.

 

[tripleicemocha]

One suggestion if I may:
I am not gay mind You, But try sliding a finger in his ass, I guarantee he will CUM.

 

[cyndiesweet]

One suggestion if I may:
I am not gay mind You, But try sliding a finger in his ass, I guarantee he will CUM.

We tried this recently after reading another thread here about it. I think the moaning, shouting, quivering man on my bed was a good sign that it worked. Use some lubricant though. I have small hands/ fingers he said he didn't even know my finger was there until I hit the spot.

 

[J Bravo]

hmmm

Ever tried calling in on Love Line with Adam Corola and Dr. Drew?

Anyways, i would love it if my gf was so much into sucking cock as you are. I'm not saying to dump him, but it's not your fault. Either this guy is nervous or something happened to him in the past. But whatever it is, it has to be the guys fault if he doesn't enjoy a good head.

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

My ex-boyfriend LOVED having his cock sucked (who wouldn't??) and I was his first in every way... but he NEVER had an orgasm when I was going down on him. This never bothered me because we had a really terrific sex life and I didn't feel like it had anything to do with me...he just needed to be stimulated in a different way to orgasm

 

[tripleicemocha]

Cyndie, I am glad everything came out all right. I am imagining You doing that to me, That's it, Don't STOP
YAHOOOOOO (hits the ceiling)
Thanks.
(Devilish grin)

 

[tripleicemocha]

oops

Sorry that last post was to cockluver also.

Hell both of You will do just fine.
(Very Deviish grin)

 

[AnotherSmartAss]

Wait just a damn minute!

First of all, this "dump the dud" crap has got to go!

I am a man.

I have had my dick sucked lots.

I don't like to cum unless there is not going to be any other activity immediately following the knob shining session. I am not terribly fond of sessions where only I get off. I would hardly consider myself a dud! And neither would my wife... just ask her. If I don't get my wife off at least a couple of times (per session) I consider it a failure. If I cum, and lose my erection - I am seriously limiting my options. Plus, having been married for a long time, I know that my wife prefers to finish the evening with my big dick inside her.

One thing I hate to admit - but it seems relevant here - is that I am 30. You young bucks can say what you will, but it just doesn't come back as quick as it use to. I also have to work in the morning - so waiting for the next train to pull into the station isn't very practical (if you know what I mean.)

Cockluver, just ask him point blank if he enjoys it. If so, what difference does it make if he cums or not? Suck him 'til YOU are satisfied, then make him fuck your brains out!

However... I have tried the finger up the ass thing. OH MY FUCKING GOD!!! I came like a wildcat!

My advice - talk to the man... don't dump him for something simple like this. and... if you can get him to go for it - you just gotta try that finger trick!

 

[freakygirl]

When my husband and i first got together.. he didn't want me to suck his cock at all. He kept telling me it was a waste of time, because he couldn't cum when someone sucked his cock. It took some time (and some patience) but believe me, HE LOVES IT NOW! We do alot of it in foreplay, he loves to watch, he loves it when i stick a finger in his ass.

I think his problem stemmed from his first wife. She found it to be "disgusting". That "thing" didn't belong in her mouth, it belonged in her crotch. She was a very misionary kinda chick. She didn't want him going down on her at all. (not sure how he got so good, but damn, i never want anything BUT oral from him sometimes )

Keep working (but don't push the issue). Talk to him about what he likes and dislikes. Experiment a little. and to be honest, there is NOTHING wrong with him helping a little. that is a big turn on to me, to watch my husband stroke.. while i kiss, lick and nibble

Good luck

 

[SweetBrat73]

My SO jerks off at least once a day and usually more than that...but he always gets off when I give him a bj...maybe a few nights he was just too tired and didn't and there have been those times that he didn't cause he just wanted in me before he got off...but I've never ran into a guy who couldn't get off from a bj...sorry I couldn't really help...

 

[ccb2]

Thought I'd throw my 2 cents in....been married for 15 years, my wife has tried (not enough), but has yet to make me cum from a
blow job....previous experiences with other women were great, came every time. To be honest she's just not very good at it, which can be aggravating, I love to eat her as much as she'll let me, so 69ing can be a drag. I haven't had a good blow in over 15 years....(wow, I cringed as I read that). I've often thought that maybe it was because of the last women I was dating prior to meeting my wif, she was the absolute best ever at giving head, perhaps I just expected too much, but you'd think after a number of years ......well whatever. Thanks to masturbation and all the great story writers of Liter....but still, what I wouldn't give for 1 night with a woman who loves to suck cock.

 

[stylian]

hello there cockluver

i am a 35 y.o. male and love it when i have my penis sucked
depending hoever on who does it and how... getting off depends also on these factors...
anyway, i think that a woman's love for a penis and specially for oral sex has to do with that. women who sucked me just because they wanted to do me a favour have done me none... it takes a certain flair for a woman to do that the way i like it of course...

being deepthroated has a strong stimulating effect on me... if i want to orgasm while i am receiving oral sex i usually pull my cock almost copletely out and push it again inside...
one of my ex g/fs told me that she has noticed that i orgasmed the moment she looked at me in the eyes... and i think it can be true... but i also noticed that when my g/f plays with my ball it often results to an orgasm...

i hope you find this info useful

stylian

 

[Guest]

I love to suck his cock and swallow his cum, but he can't actually get off unless he yanks himself to orgasm. I've never had complaints before (actually, quite a few WOW's ,

i feel for you girl.
my man is the same way. we've been together over 10 years and i think he may have let me swallow twice. we have talked about it and he says he is just "uncomfortable" with it. which is strange because he's always UP for one. in fact, he's lurking by the stairs trying to negotiate one now.

i've tried that "finger in the ass" suggestion and i ended up apologizing for a week.

after i got my hand back.

sometimes you just have to work with what you have.
whats really beginning to worry me is that after all these years of having to restrain myself, i may have lost my skills.

 

[cyndiesweet]

Re: Re: do some guys not get off when a woman sucks your cock?

i've tried that "finger in the ass" suggestion and i ended up apologizing for a week.

after i got my hand back.

Yeah. Get permission first. It takes a willingness to surrender for this to work, but man does it work!

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Re: do some guys not get off when a woman sucks your cock?

Yeah. Get permission first. It takes a willingness to surrender for this to work, but man does it work!

you know, normally i never would have thought of springing that on him because i'm also VERY touchy about assplay. but a few months earlier he flipped me on my stomach and without warning gave me the rimming of my life!!!!

when i offered to reciprocate he politely declined. and i figured that was that.

after thinking about it i got the feeling that maybe he might like it if it wasn't his idea. i found out early in our relationship that my blue-collar stud has a seriously submissive side (spankings and such)
soooooo i figured i'd take a shot.............




Men,
You can't live with them
You can't make them into shoes.

 

[Guest]

I am a guy who I guess cannot get off by my wifes mouth.

My wife and I are both out first sexual partners so I guess we have nothing else to compare with. She has been trying for almost 2 years now to set me off with no luck.

The problem is my fault not hers. Beleive me she does things that have me floping around in the bed. But I get right to the edge and just stick there.

Right now I can feel her frustration that makes it hard for me to relax and just let go, I start to worry about it. it is hard to relax and let things go when you are worrying about things.

At first I was also worrying about her not liking the taste of it, and her a) not enjoy herself and b) not do it again. The not liking the taste of it comes from my female friends who informed me how bad it tastes. But that was solved from my wife and I talking about it. She informed me that she wants it she wants to taste me, and if she doesnt like it next time just give her warning, and she will avoid getting it in her mouth.

After this long ramble basically what I am getting at is it is likely his mental block he will have to overcome. Perhaps communication between the two of you will help.

By the way does it really taste bad to the majority of you women?

 

[SweetBrat73]

Bad Taste

Well I have to say that I've never tasted a man and it tasted bad. Usually it's just salty tasting. When me and my SO first got together his tasted like it was burnt. It doesn't taste like that now though. I just figured that it tasted that way because he smoked alot of pot for a few years before we met. He's got that salty taste now. Just like women taste different at different times so do men. And I have had to spit it out before. Of course I was pregnant then and I'm tellin' ya it just made me sick!!! LoL I couldn't swallow the whole time I was pregnant cause I seriously didn't want to throw up all over my SO again We've had our laffs over that though and are over it now

The best thing I can tell ya though is just try to relax...maybe have a few drinks first if you're having a real rough time relaxing...hope all goes well!!!

And I have to agree with whoever said not to dump the bf just because he can't get off in your mouth. Maybe you're too ummm...I can't think of the word I'm looking for...anyhow maybe your scaring your bf by letting him know how much you like to suck cock and have inadvertly put a big pressure on him...just a thought...talk it over with him and let him know it's ok if he doesn't cum...cause that does give you lots more to do if he doesn't good luck to you too

And that guy that said he thinks his wife is just no good at giving oral...well buddy tell her what it is you like done!!! She's never going to be good at for you if she doesn't know what you like and how you like it. I asked my SO what he liked...he told me and now we really have a great time with bjs Do a few practice sessions...we done about 3 I think LoL Communication is the key!!! good luck hon

I know this is long...sorry

 

[ccb2]

Hi 1701......glad to hear it's so good for you two (jealous actually),
I have tried telling her what I like, etc.etc.etc........it's no use. She rarely tries, I don't really think she tries hard enough, It only really gets to me when I go down on her, she loves it and O's everytime, I love to do it..but a little reciprocation would be nice.
How man guys haven't had a blow job that made them cum in over 15 years!!?? I was going to say I don't let it bother me anymore....but after I write and remind myself of how long it's been....aaaaahhhhhhgggg. Well thankfully there's Penthouse letters, Literotica and my right hand.....LOL

 

[ccb2]

Sorry.......I meant to direct the above to SweetBrat73....

 

[SweetBrat73]

Re: ccb2

Well I do believe I'd be telling her that if she doesn't try a little harder then your gonna have to withhold the tongue Maybe that will persuade her to try harder...or ummm...tell her that your thinking of bringing home a tutor for her LoL I'm kidding They make toys for that too ya know dunno how good they are but apparently they are pretty good or they wouldn't be selling them still...maybe print out the how to things they have on here about bjs and deepthroating and leave em around the house good luck