Do parents get cooler?

[Linbido]

My mom knows and reads Literotica. I had no idea until a few weeks ago. And she had no idea that I posted stuff here, until she one day did a mis-click, read and recognised some of my non-erotic poetry. In some way we have both in recent years come to terms that the other do have a sexlife (she is no longer abhorred and I am no longer grossed out by the idea ), just like other people have. That was kind of a catalyst in us looking at eachothers as peers.

When you're a kid, you idolize your parents, cherish the security of their control over you. When you're a teen, they suck, and you hate that they cling on to trying to control you. When you're an adult, you realise that 'hey, maybe they're just people too' and most people in general just like you and me - pretty ok when it comes doen to it.

 

[SensualCealy]

My mom was always the cool mom with all my friends. Now I try and think Ive succeded. Going to the school in December with BLUE hair was a highlight with my sons friends, as soon as I heard, "SWEET" I knew I was IN!

Then the other day I got a phone call, quickly recognizing my daughters best buds voice, she said- "Hi! Cealy, its Mel, Im making a cake and its ready to go in the oven, how long do I bake it for?" Now to me this is a "Mom" question, I felt honored that she thought of me in that way. I know kinda sappy but its true.

Now as for my mom, she was a total bitch when I was in the last stages of Highschool. When I got engaged she began to hate me, I think it was due to the fact she married at 17 and didnt have a chance to experience things I did. Not that I was a wild child, I got married at 20, I know she wanted me to have more but didnt realize that until many years later.

I finally found her to be cool when my kids were about 6 and 8. She made a point to take them to do what they wanted to do instead of dragging them to where she wanted to go. She taught my daughter how to embroidery ( I didnt think she would sit still long enough), and taught my son how to play bacgammon on the computer.

Ive heard wild stories and saw plenty of things my mom and dad did while growing up, ( I think cold cellars were ment as sex dungeons! lol Caught them in there many times!). Baby oil and waterbeds, with her calling me and asking- "what takes baby oil out of your hair?" Too much for me to take with a straight face.

I think if my mom saw what I wrote she wouldnt be surprized, I grew up in an open family, nothing was sacred. I have three over zealous brothers, porn in the older rooms and one that liked to wander around naked.

As for your Mom Lucky, even if she did read your stuff, do you really think she never thought of doing what you write? I bet she has and I bet she even tried a couple of things, they are only women and just as horny as we are at times. The thing is to not picture them doing "it". Thats just gross! lol

Love my mom, but she has her days! lol
BTW Mothers day is in May!
Cealy

 

[SlickTony]

When I asked about it, Dad admitted that I was the result of a rather inebriated New Year's Eve party.

Ha! I wasn't born out of wedlock, but I did come along two years earlier than I was planned for, for pretty much the same reason, except it was Christmas, I believe, not New Years.

 

[Guest]

My parents are pretty cool, but my Nan (Gran) is the coolest person I know!

She's 86 and has a season ticket for her local football team (Yeovil Town). She never misses a home game and is quite often asked to be their mascot. She gets on very well with all the players, and they always give her a peck on the cheek when they see her.

At family parties, she's always the one up first to dance, and gets all of us "young'uns" as she calls us, up to dance with her.

She is a true diamond.

Lou

 

[sweetnpetite]

AFter reading your original post- I think I get what you are saying.

When I visit my 'strict' dad, I find that he is just an old softy. (Not just with me, but with the two boys who live at home, and with my children) I wonder, was he always that way, and I just didn't see it? Or has he actually softened up?

I think that it is a combination of the two.

You can laugh about things now because she no longer feels a duty to "punish" or even "raise" you. And she is now in a position to see your chilhood as the "big picture"She knows you turned out fine and that all of your little indescretions don't really matter.

In addition, parents usually soften over time, it's commonly accepted that the older children 'break there parents in' and the younger kids tend to have it easier. They've learned about 'not sweating the small stuff' and they know how quickly the time goes, so they are in a better position to appreciate what they once thought would last forever.

Parents learn as they go. The process of raising a child, and then letting her/him go, trusting that you have tought them what they need to know, that they can fly on their own, can have a 'cool'ing effect. [ I had this elequently thought out in my mind but then my baby distracted me, lol] So, even though I forgot what I was originally going to say, your parents *are* cooler partly because you're older. They have accomplished something very cool (you) and they have grown in the process.




or something like that.

 

[sweetnpetite]

When you're an adult, you realise that 'hey, maybe they're just people too' and most people in general just like you and me - pretty ok when it comes doen to it.

A LOT, like you and me, when you think about it, LOL. Since we share there DNA and all that

 

[Svenskaflicka]

My mum affectionately calls me a pervert for spending so much time and energy writing stories for a sex-site. But she was honestly happy or me when I won the Survivor contest(s).

 

[pop_54]

Our kids think I'm cool, both boys, 21 & 19 proof read my stories, and advise additions, (bloody young pervs). We have always, since they were old enough to understand, talked reasonably openly with them. Jon the oldest and I often wind each other up with lewd comments regarding passing young ladies in the street.
He's not over keen on some of my choices however, but as I explain, at my age I can't afford to be fussy.

Our daughter is a bit young yet at 13, to be too open with, but she thinks I'm cool. She always advises her friends, when they visit for the first time, that her dad is insane and to take no notice of me. She doesn't even get too embarrassed when I start jigging about to her pop music in front of her friends, she just hits me. Daughter and the 'better half' have a very cool relationship, very open indeed.

My old mum was cool, I remember the first time I realised just how cool she was. She was about 75 at the time, my niece Christine had just got herself a 'kick in the back' (pregnant), and mum was chatting to me about the situation one evening.

"Hmm ... No need for it," Mum says.

"What's that?" I reply.

"That little tart Christine in the family way ... what's wrong with them ... couldn't they afford a packet of French Letters," She mumbles.

"Oh ... dunno mum," I whisper in surprised reply.

"Knew she'd wind up like this ... randy little sod ... always put it about that one, I've seen the way she goes on, creeping about at it ... must think we were all born yesterday ... You've always been more careful ... all those girls you've brought home and all ... I knew you were being careful."

"Oh ... really."

pops






PS: Lucky is your mum still about, Umm ... she must be about the same age as me, or even younger.

 

[rgraham666]

Nah. They don't get cool.

We grow up.

 

[Guest]

Nah. They don't get cool.

We grow up.

Very succinctly put, and very true.

We do look at our parents in a different light when we become adults ourselves.

I thought my Mum and Dad were saints, as soon as I had my own children. I've always loved them dearly, but they got put firmly up on that pedestal, as soon as I recognised what a great job Mum and Dad had done with my brothers and me.

Lou

 

[sweetnpetite]

Nah. They don't get cool.

We grow up.

I disagree. Parenting changes people, teaches them priorities, and in the end, lets you see a very long term project though to 'completion' helping you to see the big picture. Are parents are cooler, because they've learned from their experiences with raising us.

I read this somewere:

YOur first kid drops his pascifier, and you boil it.

Your second does the same and you run it under the faucet.

Third kid, you just pop it back in his mouth.

When your parenting (especially the first time) your too uptight to be cool. Experience mellows you out- ie, 'cool'

 

[Guest]

 

[Icingsugar]

YOur first kid drops his pascifier, and you boil it.

Your second does the same and you run it under the faucet.

Ok, since I'm having my first and second kid at the same time, then what? Will I boil pacifiers under the faucet?

/Ice - confused

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Ok, since I'm having my first and second kid at the same time, then what? Will I boil pacifiers under the faucet?

/Ice - confused

Twins? Wow! You'll still boil the damn things at first, but you'll get over it twice as fast as those of us that started with only one child.

~lucky

 

[kellycummings]

Ok, since I'm having my first and second kid at the same time, then what? Will I boil pacifiers under the faucet?

/Ice - confused

Unless it falls into an open sewer, I just blow it off and hand it to them. You get over that stuff real fast. Wait until they start crawling and walking. A few germs on a binky is nothing compared to what they will get into.

 

[McKenna]

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[kellycummings]

Speaking of kids, Spongebob Goes Prehistoric is on. Oh, wait the kids are asleep. Well, still gotta go watch. Back soon!!

 

[sweetnpetite]

Very well put, lol.

Maybe I should have said, 'the first time you become a parent,' rather than the first kid, lol.

My baby is my third, and his daddy's first. You can immagine- he wants to do everything by the book, and I want to do things they way I know they work from experience.

He wouldn't let me introduce solids till the doctor said it was ok. (six months) your supposed to start with rice cerial- believe me, if you wait till 6 months to introduce rice cerial, the kid is Never gonna eat that crap!

Twins? Wow! You'll still boil the damn things at first, but you'll get over it twice as fast as those of us that started with only one child.

~lucky

 

[NoJo]

My 13-year-old son's friends are obviously comfortable around me; one of them forgot who I was once and described my wife as a MILF. He was embarrassed, but I considered it flattery. (Better keep an eye on him though).

At a recent musical gathering, people were smoking dope. When offered a spliff, I refused, saying I didn't want my kid to see me smoking. The guy laughed and told me that's what my son had said, too, when he was offered a toke.

 

[SlickTony]

believe me, if you wait till 6 months to introduce rice cerial, the kid is Never gonna eat that crap!

I had boxes and boxes of cereal that I ended up using as meat loaf filler and finally throwing out, because my son absolutely would not eat it. He grew big and fat on almost exclusively mother's milk until he got big enough to investigate and chew on real food. He did go through a stage of eating that "toddler food" they came out with, but that was for when we were serving something he absolutely couldn't stand.

IME, you obviously don't want to bring a kid up in absolute filth, but you can raise him in a sterile environment, boiling and disinfecting absolutely everything up to and including your own nipples, for the first six months of his life, and the morning of the first day of the seventh month, look for him to be laid low by the first petty microbe to come down the pike.

At a recent musical gathering, people were smoking dope. When offered a spliff, I refused, saying I didn't want my kid to see me smoking. The guy laughed and told me that's what my son had said, too, when he was offered a toke.

We've been to events where my daughter and I toked up, but I've basically cut that stuff out over the last several years. Total lack of connections and non-conducive environment, for one thing; besides, it's easier just to abstain from the stuff than to explain to my son why it's OK for grownups to do it occasionally, although not him, and that the D.A.R.E. stuff he's been shtupped full of at school is at least half wrong.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

When M's kid was a baby, and dropped his pacifier, she'd pick it up, brush off dust, hair, and whatever else was on it, and then clean it by putting it in her own mouth before putting it in his.

They are both alive and well, today, thank you for asking.

 

[Guest]

When M's kid was a baby, and dropped his pacifier, she'd pick it up, brush off dust, hair, and whatever else was on it, and then clean it by putting it in her own mouth before putting it in his.

They are both alive and well, today, thank you for asking.

And the kids of Mums who do things that way (or something similar) usually grow up to be much healthier, and less prone to coughs, colds and other illnesses than those kids whose parents were freaks about sterilizing stuff.

I did sterilize both my daughter's bottles and so on, up to age of six months, which is the sensible thing to do, because their immune system isn't developed properly until that age. However, after that age, regular washing was enough.

Kids do need to be exposed to a certain amount of "dirt" and "germs" from an early age. Otherwise, their immune systems just don't develop enough to cope with every day germs.

Lou

 

[Guest]

 

[dirtylover]

re

My mum is a writer, poet and singer. She is the most liked person I know.

My dad has recently trained in India to become a yogi. He teaches seven year olds by playing guitar to them. He never grew out of being a philosophical hippy.

They separated before I was born, never married.

Now, while I was growing up, I was led to believe that Will Smith was the epitome of cool. So no, my parents will never be cool. However, as I was also led to believe, you choose your parents before birth, I wouldn't hesitate before making the same choice again.

 

[dirtylover]

reHygiene

When I was a toddler I used to eat sheep droppings. My brother ate sand. We've both grown up to be healthy, strong strapping young men. My cousins, on the other hand, had everything sterised before they could play with it, and now have loads of allergies.