Do most men have a candaulism kink?

[MaturemanAJ]

So one afternoon we were in a bar with another couple. He is a physical therapist and my wife was complaining about her knee. Pretty soon she is turned towards him and anyone sitting on that side of the room was getting a very good view as he was massaging her leg and thigh way up under her dress. She had no panties on and guys were positioning themselves so they could watch.
One guy walked up and our friend told him sorry you can't afford this lol.
His wife was so turned on she came over and started making out with me.
We had to leave the bar.

 

[Sass84]

i love being shown off but it was something i had to get used to. it ties in with my submissive side... the idea of someone else being able to show me off, and obeying them like that, that's the part that makes it enjoyable to me

I'm the same, it took me quite a while to get used to being publicly displayed as her submissive lover, but I eventually just ignored the looks and enjoyed being shown off.

 

[Kolejdayz]

I'm the same, it took me quite a while to get used to being publicly displayed as her submissive lover, but I eventually just ignored the looks and enjoyed being shown off.

Did you wear particular clothes to get attention?

 

[marriedchappy]

I don't know about most men, but I do.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I don't know about most men, but I do.

How do you show her off?

 

[marriedchappy]

How do you show her off?

used to show pics mostly via yahoo messenger (in the good old days!). Once enjoyed a 4 way group chat doing that.

 

[impresso]

Yeah, that's exactly the kind of perversion that some man invented photography for =)

 

[FlirtyWordy]

Consent is good, obviously.

Nonetheless, I find it a little sad that so many people assume that candaulism is rooted in something nefarious, rather than (as I assume to be the case for most men) pride and genuine awe at the beauty of a partner.

It's a bit like the common reaction among many women when their husbands/bfs broach the idea of hotwifing and so on. The instinct of so many seems to be to take offense, to assume the very worst of their man and even, in too many cases, going public and calling him a "pervert" or whatever.

Meanwhile, outsiders who learn of the man's (usually) kink or desire also are quick to condemn him as a freak, a pervert, a disgusting human being.

Thankfully, even when they initially object, it appears to me that many partners eventually calm down, even if they aren't interested (don't badger, but ... you never know!).

But in some cases, a human being simply being honest about his (or her) sexual desire or interest results in a total disruption of their life and even the end of relationships.

How sad is that? That members of supposedly devoted, loving couples cannot accept their partner's honesty and (in my opinion), non-volitional sexual interests.

Not much of a relationship to start with, in such cases, if you ask me.

 

[liqueur]

I have this major candaulism kink that is on my mind constantly. Even if it isn't nudity maybe as simple as going out with my wife and she is braless showing lots of cleavage or a tight shirt that shows her nipples and areolas just turns me on. We took a cruise once and men and women couldn't take their eyes of her boobs. I was in heaven watching all this.
Do others enjoy showing off their wives or wives that loved being showed off as much as I do?

I have a kink for being exposed to others who are exercising this kink.

 

[Jay142]

Like a lot of women, my wife had body image issues. Once I convinced her that she was a truly sexy woman, she started to show more and more skin. The more she realized that other men found her to be sexy, the more bold she became. Her specialty was letting shoe salesmen look up her skirt. At first, she would show her panties. It then went to her wearing pantyhose, which led to her letting me cut out the cotton gusset so they could get a look at her bare pussy.

She has teased countless room service waiters by wearing sexy, see-through lingerie and has given my best friend very revealing and personal lingerie shows, which led to him fucking her.

As someone once said, "Why would I marry someone who other men didn't want to fuck."

This was only a small sampling of how she has exposed herself.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Like a lot of women, my wife had body image issues. Once I convinced her that she was a truly sexy woman, she started to show more and more skin. The more she realized that other men found her to be sexy, the more bold she became. Her specialty was letting shoe salesmen look up her skirt. At first, she would show her panties. It then went to her wearing pantyhose, which led to her letting me cut out the cotton gusset so they could get a look at her bare pussy.

She has teased countless room service waiters by wearing sexy, see-through lingerie and has given my best friend very revealing and personal lingerie shows, which led to him fucking her.

As someone once said, "Why would I marry someone who other men didn't want to fuck."

This was only a small sampling of how she has exposed herself.

Amen, brother!!!!

 

[liqueur]

As someone once said, "Why would I marry someone who other men didn't want to fuck.

I have no problem at all with the gist of your post. But I want to warn you away from this particular phrase you’re quoting. It's problematic for a couple of reasons, but in terms of what you're talking about, the issue is this: People who have body image issues— and this includes people who are level-headed and completely in touch with reality in every other way— can and often do distort reality in startling ways when their body is concerned. For example, a woman who has an identical body shape and weight as her best friend might look at that friend and see nothing but beauty. And later in the day, she might look in the mirror and see nothing but “fat”.

I mention this because in a similar way, the woman you are seeking to reassure with this phrase might hear it (in her private mind) in a way exactly opposite from what you intend: Instead of reassurance, she might hear “Why am I married to someone other men don't even want to fuck?”

 

[Jay142]

How many guys would want to see their wife or gf do this:

https://js142.tumblr.com%2Fpost%2F794487777448378368

 

[impresso]

How many guys would want to see their wife or gf do this:

Mine did that several times when we were walking around Rome. I still recall it sometimes with a silly expression on my face )

 

[MaturemanAJ]

How many guys would want to see their wife or gf do this:

https://js142.tumblr.com%2Fpost%2F794487777448378368

That's an instant hardon!

 

[TravisAW]

Wifey is a BBW so she's too uptight about it. Great boobs and a small butt for a BBW. She's too self conscious despite the amount of praise I lavish on her. She's even had other guys chat her up and flirt with her but doesn't feel sexy. Only when we're ten minutes into foreplay does the shy side disappear and the inner slut comes out. At that point, if someone walked into the room rock hard and naked, she'd fuck him, but that isn't going to happen!

 

[Jay142]

Wifey is a BBW so she's too uptight about it. Great boobs and a small butt for a BBW. She's too self conscious despite the amount of praise I lavish on her. She's even had other guys chat her up and flirt with her but doesn't feel sexy. Only when we're ten minutes into foreplay does the shy side disappear and the inner slut comes out. At that point, if someone walked into the room rock hard and naked, she'd fuck him, but that isn't going to happen!

You need to find a good friend of yours to chat her up and flirt with her. Give him the okay to make suggestive comments and see if he can get her to flash him her breasts or let him look up her skirt.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

Wifey is a BBW so she's too uptight about it. Great boobs and a small butt for a BBW. She's too self conscious despite the amount of praise I lavish on her. She's even had other guys chat her up and flirt with her but doesn't feel sexy. Only when we're ten minutes into foreplay does the shy side disappear and the inner slut comes out. At that point, if someone walked into the room rock hard and naked, she'd fuck him, but that isn't going to happen!

I have always wondered why some women are caught up in that how I appear and other women are like this is me like me or not.
Some women absolutely will not go out without a bra and 5 layers of clothes because their nipples show when the next one goes out with no bra and nipples showing prominently.
People say oh those are sluts. No there not they are people who are living their lives and don't care what others think.
Just my take.

 

[TravisAW]

You need to find a good friend of yours to chat her up and flirt with her. Give him the okay to make suggestive comments and see if he can get her to flash him her breasts or let him look up her skirt.

Interesting take. She'd probably feel comfier with a stranger doing it. She certainly has in the past when flirted with. She's had opportunities when we were younger but I don't think you've got that same fear of not losing someone if they try out someone else sexually. Even after the MFF threesome we had, I had said I'd understand if the other F had a fella and those three got carried away because he'd been told they had kissed before. She was wing(wo)man for her friend in a club and her friend and two guys went back to her friend's house. She clearly had an opportunity with his wingman while the other two went at it in another room but they just had a few drinks and a chat - I know she's honest about that because he has told me what she got up to on her hen (bachelorette) party. Apparently the one that got off with her friend was well hung and after the other guy had gone, Mrs AW went up to bed and her BFF invited her in to have a look (knowing her BFF, it was definitely more than looking!) but she declined. Would have loved to have heard that story.

She has accidentally flashed her thong and stockings at someone while we were walking from car to restaurant and a gust of wind blew her skirt up. Turned me on, she was a bit embarrassed but I think she enjoyed the attention.

 

[TravisAW]

I have always wondered why some women are caught up in that how I appear and other women are like this is me like me or not.
Some women absolutely will not go out without a bra and 5 layers of clothes because their nipples show when the next one goes out with no bra and nipples showing prominently.
People say oh those are sluts. No there not they are people who are living their lives and don't care what others think.
Just my take.

She's quite demure. She doesn't mind showing cleavage on the appropriate nights out - bars, clubs, etc. - but dresses a bit more conservatively for a meal with family, etc. When I've been working from home, she's freely flashed her bum or boobs at me to try and distract me while on a call, so I think she's very much aware of occasion rather than dressing a certain way all the time.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

Interesting take. She'd probably feel comfier with a stranger doing it. She certainly has in the past when flirted with. She's had opportunities when we were younger but I don't think you've got that same fear of not losing someone if they try out someone else sexually. Even after the MFF threesome we had, I had said I'd understand if the other F had a fella and those three got carried away because he'd been told they had kissed before. She was wing(wo)man for her friend in a club and her friend and two guys went back to her friend's house. She clearly had an opportunity with his wingman while the other two went at it in another room but they just had a few drinks and a chat - I know she's honest about that because he has told me what she got up to on her hen (bachelorette) party. Apparently the one that got off with her friend was well hung and after the other guy had gone, Mrs AW went up to bed and her BFF invited her in to have a look (knowing her BFF, it was definitely more than looking!) but she declined. Would have loved to have heard that story.

She has accidentally flashed her thong and stockings at someone while we were walking from car to restaurant and a gust of wind blew her skirt up. Turned me on, she was a bit embarrassed but I think she enjoyed the attention.

It's interesting how women are different my wife would definitely want to know the person well and even have some type of emotional connection.

 

[TravisAW]

It's interesting how women are different my wife would definitely want to know the person well and even have some type of emotional connection.

I think Mrs AW would just find it less awkward in the future if she fucked a stranger in a hotel a distance away. It would certainly be easier for that to happen at the moment too but I'm not going into details as to why.

 

[Sgts19]

It's interesting how women are different my wife would definitely want to know the person well and even have some type of emotional connection.

During our short time trying the swinger lifestyle we met 10 or so other cpls for a drink or dinner. We turned down most because there was no connection and we would never just meet and fuck 5 minutes after meeting them. Sady, we did hookup with one couple who live close by. Great guy but he and I have nothing in common besides fucking each other's wife.

Can a man be a cuck if he's fucking the other wife but more interested in seeing his wife fuck?

 

[Kolejdayz]

Yes absolutely -- I fantasize about my wives and GFs -- with other guys -- real and imagined -- all the time. More intense than what I feel when am with other women.

 

[Nellie60]

My wife and I played this game. She liked sundresses with nothing underneath too. But also more conservative outfits like little straight skirts and sweaters. If we could get away with it she dressed for met at public events like conferences but also for my friends in private too

My ex girlfriend a law associate loved to dress in skirts and blouses showing of her long legs.

She used to tell me about the many occasions she got hit on but colleagues or clients every day. It was arousing to here her stories.

Even my friends would ogled her during social meetings and I know a couple of friends who would be fuck her.

Unfortunately she ended up having an affair with another friend. This was many years ago and nowadays is a real turn on thinking about it.