Do condoms really break that often?

[akatrex]

He says that condoms are "not effective" at all. He says they break very easily. Like if he performs at a strange angle, or when he comes it will break from the pressure.

Have your BF try this!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9Zvo2NFdyE

 

[NippleMuncher]

This is a much better one, and I suspect that the OP can identify with at least one of these ...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c5nG4EbLYj0&NR=1

 

[subwannabe]

Great responses so far. One thing I dont' think was mentioned (which I don't believe to be the real reason) is that he may be way too embarrassed to go somewhere and buy condoms. I don't know what your ages are but I'm guessing you are both on the young side. I personally believe he is just giving you a line of shit. I also believe that since he is acting this way that your long term prospects of this relationship are doomed (probably short term prospects as well). If you are thinking long term I highly recommend dumping his ass now but if you are young and not looking long term, well, young people sometimes settle for shit and this may be ok to you. Another thing you should be aware of is that just because someone checks out ok for STD's isn't a guarantee that they are STD free. HIV, for example, often cannot be detected for several months. So, if he was infected with HIV last month he could infect you now even though he checks out ok for it. Also, many times when a condom breaks it is because they weren't properly put on in the first place although I seriously doubt he wants to use one at all no matter how much sense you try to talk into him.

Another issue I would like to bring up is that if you have self esteem issues (not sure why you are taking antidepressants) please don't feel you have to settle for this idiot. You can find someone better.

 

[Boundlife]

It's interesting that it's the men who are saying dump his ass (just a general observation )

 

[WaitWhatt]

It's probably been said already.....but he's probably said that to ALL the girls before you which great..makes his chances of having an STD higher. He might not even know he has one if he does.

Guys love virgins. He wants to experience the full virgin effect which means you'd supposedly be tight and clean.


He'll probably give you the anal line too if he hasn't already. Don't need to worry about getting pregnant if it's up your ass.

 

[Traveler78]

Guys love virgins.

IMO not really, except in the very young/inexperienced.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Honestly, I get the feeling his biggest concern is that they're "too expensive" but I'd rather pay for condoms than a child for the next 18 years.

THis is just stupid. Condoms are too expensive? We guys do all kinds of stupid, expensive things to get laid, so we aren't gonna spare the expense of buying a condom. It's an excuse. one you should NOT accept.

In 30 years of sexual activity I have had 1, and only 1 condom break on my. It is possible for them to be damaged from carrying them around or from getting old. A small imperfection can cause them to break. It certainly won't be from the guy cumming too hard.

As everyone else has said, this is an excuse. I won't say dump him because he's being childish, because really he's just being a typical young guy. That said, it's time to grow up. I think part of dating when your young is girls waiting for guys to grow up and guys being too stupid to see when it's time to grow up. If he WON'T grow up and use a condom for YOUR comfort and protection, then yeah, kick him to the curb. He's not worth the gift of your virginity.

 

[MTBR]

My boyfriend and I haven't had sex yet. I'm not on birth control so I told him he'd have to use condoms. Then he started to get all upset. (I'm a virgin, but he's had sex before).

He says that condoms are "not effective" at all. He says they break very easily. Like if he performs at a strange angle, or when he comes it will break from the pressure. My initial impression is that he's probably just been using them wrong, but I've never had sex so I really wouldn't know.

What are your guys' thoughts on this? I want to be prepared for when we finally do have sex, since the chances are that I will not be on birth control (it doesn't seem to mix well with my anti-depressants). Part of me also thinks he's just using it as an excuse to have sex without a condom, I guess for a better sensation. But I'm not too interested in getting pregnant yet.

Its not true. He's trying to get you to allow him not to wear one.

Everytime I've used condoms, its been absolutely fine. Lots of different positions, different speeds and often used rough, they've still held true.

Like another poster said, no contraception is 100% effective, though I believe comdoms come in at like 98% effective? Something like that?

In any case, either dump him (he does sound like a bit of a tosser for trying to pull that, I'm afraid), or ensure that he wears one.

 

[wafflecone111]

Got Durex?

 

[Bandit58]

My daughter's boyfriend didn't like to use condoms. She tried two forms of the pill but they didn't agree with her.

She's due to give birth to my grandson in 3 weeks.

 

[fumbleinthedark]

Its not true. He's trying to get you to allow him not to wear one.

Everytime I've used condoms, its been absolutely fine. Lots of different positions, different speeds and often used rough, they've still held true.

Like another poster said, no contraception is 100% effective, though I believe comdoms come in at like 98% effective? Something like that?

In any case, either dump him (he does sound like a bit of a tosser for trying to pull that, I'm afraid), or ensure that he wears one.

100% agreed!

 

[roomfor1more]

I would by lying if I said condoms never break. However, if they are stored properly, used in a reasonable time after purchasing it, and used properly then the risk that they break is minimum. Also if he buys a condom without a reservoir at the tip, when he puts it on he can leave a little distance between the tip of his penis and the tip of the condom in order to prevent the force of his ejaculation from tearing it. If price or discretion is an issue then he can go to one of the many clinics that offer free condoms instead of purchasing them at his local pharmacy. Even better, he can buy them on line from a store that he trusts thereby ensuring nobody knows about his purchase. My own feeling is he is trying not to wear one and if pregnancy is an issue then a condom needs to be worn regardless if you are on birth control.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Condoms definitely break.

 

[Elaya]

I agree with what everyone has said above. I don't blame him for wanting a better feel, but then as everyone else has pointed out, that means he's just thinking of himself, in which case, get rid of him pronto. Something I'd like to add:

For me, exchanging those personal fluids is a very personal and intimate thing.
My boyfriend dumped me 4 days after we both had sex the first time. It sucked. Big time.

If' someone thinks they're going to squirt their gunk into me..(which is all it is at first... when you don't really love someone, and they don't love you back) they have to earn the right to do so, by earning my trust and affection. Even if it's not a new relationship per see... if it's a new physical relationship, you never know how that will change the existing relationship. Remember.. that stuff stays in you for a while, long after he's packed up his stuff and gone home. How much do you really like him? How much do you really like that he's immediately blown off your concerns right away?

Just my humble opinion.
Sex is one thing, unprotected sex is a WHOLE new level.

 

[billrichards41]

It's happened to me too, they break. Thought it was the brand, switched and still ripped it up. Seems to be hit or miss.
Oh but certainly use one!

 

[LaChica]

Dont be too rough ! It'd break

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

I've never had a condom break on me.

 

[bighornedsatyr]

Also if he buys a condom without a reservoir at the tip, when he puts it on he can leave a little distance between the tip of his penis and the tip of the condom in order to prevent the force of his ejaculation from tearing it.

You're supposed to pinch the tip even if the condom has a reservoir tip. The semen needs somewhere to go. If you don't, the trapped air and the semen does increase the chance of breakage. A small chance, but a simple precaution anyway.

 

[Feotakahari]

In response to an earlier post (that admittedly seems to be joking), I would like to mention that using two condoms at once does increase the risk of both condoms breaking.

The safest sex is with condoms and pills--it's usually overkill, but if one fails, it's good to have the other.

 

[SlickTony]

What many others said: sounds like one of the many typical excuses guys give for not wearing a condom. It's been 40 years since I fell for any of them.

 

[NikkiBastion]

What the hell kind of angle is he doing it where a condom would break? lmao! He wishes, get real.

I agree with the others, he's full of it. Find a guy who actually has regard for you.

Then you can one up him and see him prove it: tell him you'll be glad to screw his brains out au naturale soon as he marries you.

Step aside for skid marks out the door

 

[NippleMuncher]

Saw this and immediately thought of this thread.

It's possible that your boyfriend is only trying to prevent the dreaded blue balls.
http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/82061108/

 

[HenryM24]

I've never had one break in 10 years of being 'sexually active', just make sure he's putting them on right

 

[Somehowyou]

My boyfriend and I haven't had sex yet. I'm not on birth control so I told him he'd have to use condoms. Then he started to get all upset. (I'm a virgin, but he's had sex before).

What are your guys' thoughts on this? I want to be prepared for when we finally do have sex, since the chances are that I will not be on birth control (it doesn't seem to mix well with my anti-depressants). Part of me also thinks he's just using it as an excuse to have sex without a condom, I guess for a better sensation. But I'm not too interested in getting pregnant yet.

Last year I had two condoms break in back-to-back sessions. They were not the same lot and not the same brand. this was sobering and I do not like to play this type of Russian Roulette. I am not sure if I could pinpoint the locus of failure. One time it was taking me a long time to cum and it was anal intercourse. the other was just a great session of vaginal sex. Maybe a little lube would have reduced the coefficient of friction so that I would not have abraided the ccondom. Also, I have heard of guys pulling them off during sex or breaking them because they do not like the sensation....

Therfore, my recommendation is to use as much PPE and engineering available. The pill, spermacidel gel and a condom would not be excessive. Tell him You would like to be active but this is how it's gonna be.

**** Wow, I just read the entire forum and I see that many of you have never had a condom break. I am sure that I have had at least 4 break over many years of sex. I would just have a second line of defense in mind for unwanted pregnanacy and STDs...especially if you are in at a point in your life where pregnancy would be a disaster.

 

[yours2nite]

I've never had one break on me before, and I feel perfectly safe with just a condom and not having to take the pill too.