DNR orders

[michchick98]

Hugs to you Selena. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. It's a tough decision to make, but to respect your father's wishes is the best you can do for him. I agree with others who say that baby will have his grandfather's spirit.

 

[glynndah]

I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts.

 

[DesertPirate]

*Hugs*

My thoughts are simple on the DNR. My Mom has one and it allows feeding tubes and no other measures. I agree to that because starvation is as wrong as it can be. I have actually told my wife the same applies to me, or I'll come back and haunt her ass!

 

[carsonshepherd]

Your dad is lucky to have a family who cares for him so much that they will honor his wishes and not let him suffer out of selfishness. Death is not the end. I don't know what it is but it is not the end.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Death is not the end. I don't know what it is but it is not the end.

That's my feeling, too...

 

[sweetness6280]

Selena,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. It's hard, even when you know your dad's wishes. Only you and your family can decide what is right, the rest of us can just be supportive.

I went through this with both of my parents, with me in the decision seat because my dad couldn't do it with my mom. There was a moment with both that I let them go - mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. After that moment, peace settled in.

My youngest son was born close to the time my mother died. There are times he is so like her in disposition that I have to look twice! I find a quiet comfort in that.

Sending you love and peace...

 

[bb_peaks]

<<HUGS>> Sorry you are going through this.

 

[Lady_Guenivere]

Dear Selena,

Your post made me cry. I truly understand the sadness, worry, fear, heartache you are going through right now. I went through the same thing 3 years ago this month, with my own Dad. He had a blood clot that they had to remove during emergency surgery and when he came to, they realized he suffered a massive stroke. He was 64 years old. One day my funny, loveable Dad...next day he was mentally "gone".

They did have him on IV fluids for a week and then we had to decide whether or not to "tube feed" him. My Dad always said that he did not want tubes or diapers at the end of his life...and yet still we struggled with the decision. It was torturous watching him die knowing that a feeding tube would be more humane...but the question is, who would suffer more? Us... for having to watch him die, or him...having to live with no quality of life?

He died a week after they removed his IV...and his death was peaceful. I still feel so much grief Selena, but I know we made the right decision for him. He would not want to live if he could not talk or laugh or debate about politics or sink his teeth into a steak every now and then. He talked to us many times about his wishes and thank God we had the courage to honour them in the end.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this painful time. I hope that you find peace with whatever decision your family opts for.

 

[amicus]

My sincere thoughts of concern for you and your family in this time of hardship.

Looking at it from a slightly different point of view, for those of us who are on the downward spiral, consult and inform your family early on. I think and hope that early recogition the life does not go on forever and indeed, quality over quantity is a rational approach.

You will soon receive documents from me delegating the substance of my relationship with Excessica to one of my children. Things we loathe to consider but things we must do.

Best wishes to you and I hope you can accept the situation as inevitable and face it as such.

warm regards...amicus

 

[incubus666]

My congratulations on your courage to follow your fathers wishes.

As a much older guy I have talked very strongly with my wife as to my last wishes.

I have told her I have no wish to be kept alove in a vegetative state. Tubes and machines are O.K. if there are reasonable odds of me being able to return to a reasonable life. If not pull the plug.

I salute you and your family's courage in following your fathers wishes.

Mike S.

 

[slyc_willie]

I know this can't be an easy time for you, Selena. I've lost most of my family already. All I can say is, honor thy father.

The best of wishes from the Slyc family household.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

*hugs* Selena.

This is almost verbatum what happened to my aunt. None of us have ever regretted our decision to honor her wishes. Being there, making this choice, was the hardest thing ever, but the least we could do for someone who gave us so very much.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

They took the cpap mask off him this morning, and he was gone within the hour.

I never did make it to the hospital. I was going to go today, since the littles were back in school and while I'm still sick (actually, getting worse grr) oh well, I was going anyway after hubbie left for work this morning. But my mom called to tell me he'd passed. And I had to call the older kids, who didn't make it out yesterday, but were going to go today.

Really am glad it didn't linger on, for my mother's sake. She made a hard, hard decision. I'm really at peace with it, although my only regret, for his sake, was that he didn't get to see his last grandchild born.

Thanks again, everyone.

 

[rgraham666]

Aw, damn. *HUGS*

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[feeeriek]

 

[Chantilyvamp]

*hugs muchly* so sorry darlin and I'm bettin he will see his last grandchild born.

 

[sadangel]

Many <angel hugs> sweetie. I'm very sorry for your loss.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Belegon]

Sweetheart, I am so sorry that you have lost him but so proud of your mother and you for following his wishes.

It was the last real gift you could give him. And nothing you ever could have done could possibly show more how important he was to you.

You chose to experience the pain of losing him over the easy way out. You took the far more difficult path, but the proper one.

If your mother and you wish to understand the definition of honor, look in the mirror.

I mourn for your loss. I wish I could have met the man who showed such wonderful judgment in the woman he married and the child he helped raise.

 

[impressive]

Just

 

[The_Fool]

There is a blurt here I am sure, but I can't seem to see it through the tears...


*hugs*

 

[Stella_Omega]

Oh, Selena, so many condolences!

You and your mother did the most honorable and loving thing.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

Selena, Belegon's words sum up my thoughts as well. Condolences to you and all your family.

 

[Lady_Guenivere]

I am sad for you Selena.

 

[_Lynn_]

 

[cloudy]

I'm sorry.