Discipline at home by parents.

[janettt5]

Anyone else here think their interest may have been started as a relsult of spankings/the cane/strap given as punishment while younger?

 

[lord_bob]

ummm, no

 

[subfem1963]

I love my Master spanking me. But was never spanked as a child at home. I was a good girl So my reply to your question is No.

 

[the captians wench]

I know that in many ways my parents trained me to be submissive. Infact I still hear my mother's voice telling me "a woman is quite and submissive, the perfect lady". i was taught from the begining that I should be pleasing to my man. I was taught how to conduct myself in public, how I should hold my tea cup, how I should speak to those who were of more importance so to speak than myself, how to eat, how to dress, how to cook and clean and keep a tightly run and tidy home ( not that i keep very good practice of that as a single woman), my mother even has given me tips and tricks to pleasing my man in the bedroom (tho she's not willing to try any of mine *giggles*) Back then, the belt was seen as punishment, so I did not take pleasure in it. Just as today Master uses tacks for punishment, so I do not take pleasure in them (when they are used as punishment). But in many ways the way my parents raised me has everything to do with my chosen lifestyle. Tho my mom is not amused when I tell her she raised a good little subbie.

 

[littlegirlslut]

Nope. I was never spanked or anything as a child. I was also raised to be very independent and not at all submissive. But at the same time the desire to please (comes from something in my past) has always been there. But the perverse side of myself I think comes from who I am not how I was raised.

 

[O'Mac]

I know my girlfriend LOVES to be spanked, flogged, and otherwise roughed-up when we're together. And just in general she has a very submissive personality. But as far as she's told me as that I can see, she's never been spanked as a child or recieved any other form of coporal punishment.

 

[insertcutename]

I know my girlfriend LOVES to be spanked, flogged, and otherwise roughed-up when we're together. And just in general she has a very submissive personality. But as far as she's told me as that I can see, she's never been spanked as a child or recieved any other form of coporal punishment.

I was threatened with it, but my parents never raised a hand to me.

 

[satin_coals]

Hmm .. interesting question.

I'll raise another .. if that's okay

Can the *lack* of punishment have the same effect?

I wouldn't go as far as saying that my parents lack of control over me as a child was what ultimately led me towards my love for punishment, but perhaps helped in a minor way?

I guess what I am trying to say is that maybe because I was never taught to fear the belt, paddle, hand or cane as a child, is what perhaps helps me to love it now. *ponder*

 

[jennyleigh]

ok- well i will put things bluntly.

i was, let's say, definitely spanked a lot when i was growing up. i got no pleasure at the time from it, let's make that clear. but it would surprise me if i could go a week without getting my ass so purple i couldn't sit. this continued for way too long, i think i was a teenager before my parents stopped paddling/belting/spanking me. it made me very mad and want to rebel even more.

that said, i do think it has had some sort of impact upon my desires nowadays. i mean, i don't like it to be so hard that i cannot sit, but i do crave the "punishment" and feel like i deserve to be punished.

trying to delve into the phsychology of it- i feel like all of my childhood and teens i was punished in that way for being "bad"- whatever my misdeed might have been. well, now, i am "bad" in many ways that society views as wrong. sexually open, not giving a shit, etc, etc, etc. and maybe subconsciously i feel i deserve to be punished? i don't know. i'm not a shrink, although i have been to plenty!

all in all, yes, i think that it has something to do with my upbringing. might not be a popular opinion seeing the other responses, but it's mine and i'm sticking to it.

 

[kristyna]

Anyone else here think their interest may have been started as a relsult of spankings/the cane/strap given as punishment while younger?

I don't think my interest started as a result of my being spanked as a child, but I do believe that it has a made my reactions to punishment what they are today.

As a child, all my father would have to do is give me that stern look and just threaten to spank me and I'd straighten right up. I absolutely hated when he had to spank me because I had done something wrong. Today if I screw up and get in trouble, I get that same feeling I did as a little girl, as if i am a disappointment.

Today, being spanked because I did something wrong and being spanked because I've been a "bad girl" (or just for the hell of it) have two totally and seperate meanings and cause two totally different reactions from me.

 

[Kailey_86]

I was spanked as a child and my parents always told me that they punished me because they loved me. I think that this might have something to do with my interest in spanking. My mom and I have talked about the subject and she said that when she was little her father gave her and her siblings a light tap tap on the butt before bed as a sign of love and she enjoys spanking in the bedroom too. I shouldn't know that....*shudder* Anyway, I definately think that it has effected me in some way.

 

[Chicklet]

My parents spanked me ONCE, I think. It wasn't a regular punishment, or even something I was afraid of. I like being spanked now because I have masochistic tendancies, and I don't think that those tendancies have anything to do with my childhood at all. While I know I did do kinky things when I was little, I don't think my parents had anything at all to do with them.

 

[be_ignited]

Hmmm, I was never spanked as a child, so I can't help you there. But on a related note I do think that a good bit of my interest came from things that happened to me when I was little. To further a cliche--Being attracted to older, dominant men because my parents divorced when I was young and my father became a "weekend dad." Interestingly enough, I do not, however, cling to crazy women just because I grew up with my mother...

 

[satin_coals]

Hmmm, I was never spanked as a child, so I can't help you there. But on a related note I do think that a good bit of my interest came from things that happened to me when I was little. To further a cliche--Being attracted to older, dominant men because my parents divorced when I was young and my father became a "weekend dad." Interestingly enough, I do not, however, cling to crazy women just because I grew up with my mother...

You have rasied another very good point there .. Now I am just trying to find a way to phrase it.

Can the lack of either gender parental figure in childhood have an impact on the people you are attracted to when older?

I grew up more a mum's girl. I never spent time with Dad really .. it was more my brothers that spent time with Dad. He was away alot too, when my grandfather was sick and then for work .. so maybe that has an impact on me today to, considering I have only ever been attracted to older men.

 

[Mr Wolf]

You have rasied another very good point there .. Now I am just trying to find a way to phrase it.

Can the lack of either gender parental figure in childhood have an impact on the people you are attracted to when older?

I grew up more a mum's girl. I never spent time with Dad really .. it was more my brothers that spent time with Dad. He was away alot too, when my grandfather was sick and then for work .. so maybe that has an impact on me today to, considering I have only ever been attracted to older men.

I was brought up by my Mum with a brief period of having a step-father but have not found myself drawn to older or younger women in any obvious way. It is the person they are that attracts me.

 

[SubNebGuy]

nope, my parents never laid a hand on me. maybe 1 time, I recall a single swat on the butt that wasn't painful, mainly just for emphasis.


I'm pretty sure its just cuz I'm a perv.