Dirty Words

[Technodivinitas]

I've had this fetish for ages, and I'm pretty sure it's quite common: I love being talked dirty to. (And being made to talk dirty, but that's kinda a different subject, I think.) Anyhow, I enjoy it enough that I seek it out as a qualifier for porn, and have tried to find a term I could use to pinpoint porn of that nature.

Aside from "Talking dirty", which doesn't fare well in the search engines, is there a name for this fetish? Seems like it must be there and just escaping me...

 

[tythisredheadup]

I love it, the filthier, the better. Also the right tone has to be used.

But has someone ever crossed the line and has said something where you thought, "Oh shit, this person is sick!"?

 

[TaintedB]

VA or verbal abuse. You might also want to try verbal humiliation. You have to stick another word into the search such as "sexy" or "bdsm" or "kinky" if you don't want to come up with a lot of anti-abuse websites. Expect the majority of sites to be femdom-malesub, but you'll occasionally find one that's reversed.

 

[bridgeburner]

TechnoD,

You might try out some of the Max Hardcore titles. I haven't seen much of them but I did note that there's quite a bit of trash talking. Big emphasis on anal and I got the impression that the men are a bit unsavory -- adds to the humiliation.

I'm not the expert on this however, but it's worth checking out.


-B

 

[bridgeburner]

I love it, the filthier, the better. Also the right tone has to be used.

But has someone ever crossed the line and has said something where you thought, "Oh shit, this person is sick!"?

Ha! Yes, although there wasn't anything wrong with his tone, it was more the subject matter which doesn't bother me in the abstract but kind of squicked me at the time before I managed to get my head past it.

This guy started going off about "pretend I'm your brother", which, as I said, in the abstract doesn't really bother me, although it's not one of my fetishes. The problem is that I'm really close to my brother in real life and the very idea of having anything to do with him sexually just creeps me right the fuck out. So I lost the momentum for a minute or two before I could work my way around to making up a scenario that had nothing to do with my actual brother.

It was a near thing for a couple minutes, though and afterward we had a bit of a "discussion" about it. Oddly enough, I find the situation itself arousing now although I was queasy at the time.


-B

 

[graceanne]

Dr. Mabeuse(sp?) has a story that employ verbal abuse. It get's pretty nasty. The first part is The Debt,
pt 1: http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=66798
pt 2: http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=67662

And the sequal, called A Wedding with Dhipa : http://www.literotica.com:81/stories/showstory.php?id=78808

They're pretty good stories. Check it out.

 

[kittyinbondage]

I love it, the filthier, the better. Also the right tone has to be used.

i agree with you on this. i love it when He does this.

 

[Jetta_Wales]

I also love it when my husband talks harsh to me but though he does try he never really gets the tone right it just somehow seems fake and that kinda spoils the moment complely then.

 

[patchdog]

humiliation

I also love it when my husband talks harsh to me but though he does try he never really gets the tone right it just somehow seems fake and that kinda spoils the moment complely then.

Jetta_Wales what we have done and it ready turns us on is we get other guys to e-mail us on what they would like to do to her and name calling etc, my wife reads the e-mails aloud so we both know what was written then I go over it reminding her of what was said about her in the e-mail. She is quite turned on by it all especially as the wording has come from another guy, it takes the fake part out of it and add's a little excitement and mystery.

 

[Jetta_Wales]

I really like that idea and only wish that my husband would go for it but I can just see the look on his face now if I suggested it. I'm starting to conclude that he is really just too passive and straight laced for this lifestyle and that I may have to learn to go without it :-(

 

[shy slave]

I love it, the filthier, the better. Also the right tone has to be used.

But has someone ever crossed the line and has said something where you thought, "Oh shit, this person is sick!"?

I love dirty talk, the filthier the better; it never fails to work its magic on me

The downside is He usually uses it on the 'phone as we are apart lot of the time and it makes me ache for Him all the more.

In my past someone else using the wrong tone has made me wonder which planet he lived on as he overdid it a little which made him sound like a self-absorbed fake (which he probably was!!).

I had brief online chat with someone who just sounded way too sick and perverse for me, ended the conversation rapidly.

Makes you realise not everyone out there is an honest pervert lol.

Filthy talk on line leaves me cold; its the tone the understanding of the deeper meaning of the words and knowing they believe it at that moment in time that makes me weak at the knees | and everywhere else

 

[Etoile]

You might try out some of the Max Hardcore titles. I haven't seen much of them but I did note that there's quite a bit of trash talking. Big emphasis on anal and I got the impression that the men are a bit unsavory -- adds to the humiliation.

You've just summarized all the reasons why I love Max Hardcore movies. His voice in particular is a real turn-on for me, I have no idea why! It's not just the things he says, but the way he says them...so ruthless and smarmy. Humiliation, anal, dirty talk...oh yes, I do love Max Hardcore!

 

[spankableBelle]

I love it, the filthier, the better. Also the right tone has to be used.

Mmmmmmm...god yes...melts me every time...

 

[GrayCricket20]

Oh, Lord. I'm sooooo into dirty/humiliating talk. It's one of those few things a man could do that turns me on instantly. Unfortunately, I've never actually had anyone give me what I want in this case. My current boyfriend doesn't speak at all during sex (unless you'd like to count an occasional grunt or hiss as an articulation of coherent thought) and in the few S&M encounters I've had speaking has been kept at a minimum--mostly orders. The only thing I've had that comes close came, actually, in the form of this guy across the country I used to have phone-sex pretty regularly. In that case--well, there really wasn't anything to it but dirty talk, and us with our hands down our pants and separated by 1000+ miles. That's obviously not enough either.

I try to engage my boyfriend in dirty talk, even during our standard vanilla sex, but he's generally too distracted by the sensations going on in his body to respond in any way.

So, yes: in theory, dirty/humiliating talk is wonderful.

 

[Jetta_Wales]

Don't fret hun I know exactly how you feel only I'm married to my timid man.

I love him to bits but he's silent as a lamb in sex and although he tries as he knows it has an awesome effect on me he's never remotly convincing lol.

 

[s'lara]

There is something to be said about being sexually turned on by someone's ability to be creative verbally - even if that skill is employed to inflict humiliation, mental distress or just plain tweaking the arousal buttons because it enhances the activities.

Some of us are aurally inclined by nature and if we experience an extra frisson of pleasure from hearing a whispered "whore", then all the better. Icing for the cake.

lara